Scratched/Dented the car, to tell DH it wasn’t me???

[AbbieNe]

So I’ve (badly) scratched and dented our car, DH will be super pissed. Can I get away with saying another vehicle must have done this by crashing into it whilst parked??? Help!!

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Jesus it's only a piece of metal, absolutely no reason to get pissed.

People are far more important than a car.

A woman clearly in fear of her husband posts looking for advice, and you’d prefer to spend your time making sarcastic and pedantic comments despite clearly knowing fully well what she meant?

Very poor behaviour from you. I hope you’re nicer in real life.

I agree with this
I also think it's poor the number of pp who are saying things along the lines of " it's only a car" and because of their own relationship experience are making light of it.
We don't know OP's DH or her relationship with him but you only have to read MN threads for a short time to know a lot of women are in abusive relationships and live in real fear of their partners

I don't think they are making light of it. I think the point they are making (at least I was) is that OP's husband's reaction is disproportionate and that's not OK. Saying it's just a ding and their partners wouldn't react like that isn't making light of it, it's highlighting to OP that her fear means her situation isn't OK and isn't a normal one she should just accept. It's supportive rather than dismissive.

Thank you, Miss

Lie about the scratch and make plans to leave your husband. This is no way to live your life.

Well, if you behave like a child…

True, I know that in some (incorrect) contexts it can mean cross but here in The UK it usually means drunk, we speak English not American

Accidents happen. If you are scared of telling your DH about an accident because of his bad reaction then you are being abused. Please protect yourself.

Who legally owns the car and whose name is the insurance in? If it's in his name and he makes an insurance claim you won't be able to lie on the insurance forms so it's a very silly idea to lie about it to him as you won't be able to keep the entire thing secret from start to finish, and your lying will compound whatever the dynamic is between you that you feel you have to lie.

I also doubt you will get away with the lie because either the damage will make it obvious what happened or because your husband knows you very well and you are scared of him so he can probably tell when you are lying.

The real question is, why are you worried about him being angry? If it's just that you are conflict averse, fine. If it's more sinister than that then you have a DH problem not a car problem. I personally would hate to be in a relationship with someone that I was scared of being honest with about accidents and mistakes.

I disagree. Pissed means drunk in the UK. Pissed OFF means annoyed.

I’m sorry but it really doesn’t, our language has moved on. Sure in the 80s it meant that, but thr world is much smaller now and used in context most people now know what pissed means. It is common parliance.

Yes, it's commonly said but isn't correct here. It's American. Should we start calling trousers 'pants', too?

Its their car not his car

Here we go again, derail a thread by being an absolute twat over details that don't even matter again. Well done, women supporting women and all that.

Just out of interest, whilst you were berating a woman who's obviously somewhat distressed over her choice of phrase, did you actually stop to think that she might actually be American?

It is correct; language evolves. You need to accept this.

Good lord no! Language doesn't evolve! Clearly we should all still be speaking like we've just stepped out of a Shakespearean play, or perhaps for true authenticity we should grunt like our ancestors

It's an alternative meaning in a different part of the world, not evolution.

Just to let you know I was honest with DH and was all okay!

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Who’s to say it’s incorrect? If enough people use and understand a particular word in a particular context, then the usage becomes correct. Enough people in the UK now use ‘pissed’ to mean ‘angry’ that it’s perfectly correct to do so.

Words evolve all the time based on popular usage. ‘Google’ is now a verb. The word ‘nice’ used to mean ‘foolish’. Nimrod was a great hunter and ruler, according to the Bible, and now because of Bugs Bunny and Elmer Fud the word means someone foolish or inept.

Language serves us; we aren’t slaves to some arbitrary fixed point in time when certain words meant one thing or another.

Back to the OP. Glad you told him the truth and it was all ok

I wouldn't lie about it, OP, because you might be found out and it would be so embarrassing and also might make it difficult with the insurance. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes and you shouldn't have to hide yours from your nearest and dearest. Just tell him. If you're actually scared of his response, then that's not OK and you may need some support dealing with that.