Scratched/Dented the car, to tell DH it wasn’t me???

[AbbieNe]

So I’ve (badly) scratched and dented our car, DH will be super pissed. Can I get away with saying another vehicle must have done this by crashing into it whilst parked??? Help!!

No, it is not. It is an American import and sounds ridiculous over here as pissed is a well known descriptor for drunk
Not being 'faux' pedantic, I am being 'real' pedantic

I wouldn't the truth will out just be honest he will be annoyed but it will pass . Most important thing is nobody is hurt it's only a car

Well someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. @ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood you ok hun? Your reaction is not proportional. Breathe.

OP - sorry this happened. Please do consider the good advice of others on this thread. If you are genuinely scared of telling him, something is not right in your relationship.

Tho fwiw dh & I (v happily married) have both lied about scratching cars in the past. We both know each other did it. We still both maintain that our scratch came from being parked. But in that case it was about saving face rather than being at all worried about the other person’s reaction. Honesty is nearly always the best policy.

I remember my mum telling me a few years ago that she'd scratched their car and managed to hide it from my dad until he was at work and she got got it fixed without him knowing. I was shocked she felt she had to. DH would just want to know I was OK. He might be a pit pissed off (not pissed) that it had happened but not with me.

How much does the lie have to grow op? There's the lie about the scratch, which if you say was done when parked, there's a potential lie to the insurers which would be dreadful if found out. If no insurers, potentially a lie about the repair cost, possibly on a credit card.

It's a long climb to the top of the mountain of mistrust.

Just be honest, I know it’s hard. After an argument,
I went to drive away to get some space and reversed into my partners work loan car badly. It was a mess and my own fault, it worked out fine, we worked together to get it sorted

No, tell the truth.

That's carelessness, not an accident. The idea is NOT to damage vehicles or pedestrians when driving.

I did the same and considered lying but came clean
it was the right thing to do.
dh was annoyed but more at the situation than me
(a few months later he dinged it himself and it was far worse 😅. So we’re sort of even Stevens now)

How did you damage it?

Don't lie - you'll inevitably get found out down the line.

Wow another thread started by someone who only posts once - how unusual, you could be forgiven for thinking it is a wind up 🙄🙄

Are you American?

I can’t imagine in what scenario I’d find it acceptable to not be able to be honest about something like this. Who cares? It can happen to anyone. My ex had his problems but even he wouldn’t have given a toss, even if the car was brand new. They can be fixed.

Will he not want to go through insurance who will ask questions?

Are you scared of him? Is that why you don't want him to know? Or does he just go on and on and you'll never hear the end of it and you can't be arsed?

Everyone I know in the UK says it (of many different ages). I also lived in various European countries, Asian countries and Australia (so met people from everywhere).

It is a word used by pretty much the entire English speaking world in this context nowadays

Spot on. You shouldn't have to be scared of his response.

Does it make you feel good about yourself to derail a thread where a woman is need of support due to an unreasonably angry husband with wide eyed disingenuousness about a word which, regardless of your personal feelings, is widely used and understood in the UK?

I only know one person to have said it in real life. American import where it's just a different word for the same thing are a bit annoying. But in the case of pissed where it actually has an entirely different meaning it is actively unhelpful. Pissed = drunk. Pissed off = angry.

@ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood perhaps 'Piss off'?

UK standard phase.

@Crucible 😂

Well OP may well have told her DH about the car and perhaps she was right to fear his reaction.
So criticising the fact she hasn't come back onto the thread when there may be a genuine reason is not right imo.

You could be right. I may just be getting cynical with the sheer number of one post threads started recently, which are usually later withdrawn by MN.

I'm here for the faux pedantry

Anyone who gets upset about scratches on cars is an idiot

And you can fuck off
Old english

I reversed into a massive tree, how I didn't see it I don't know. It was dark. I told h that it was a bollard. Saved some grief.