If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

[twistandshoutloud]

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

We have one work meeting a month. Thinking you don't have to come to it because it's your birthday is, frankly, childish. Take the day off as holiday if you care that much.

I'd scream out to everyone who I met on a daily basis that if they eat meat, they should be forced to watch Earthlings and Land of Hope and Glory.

I'd tell people that I despise them for continuing to consume meat, eggs and dairy, no matter how much they paid for it, because they just won't wake up and understand that an animal suffers each time they take something from it - it's life, it's babies, it's food.

I'd tell those who bet on horse racing how I'd hate for them to be used and to be profited from, the same as anyone who breeds any animal for profit. I'd tell those who buy leather how I'd hate to sit on their skin after they'd become a meal.

I'd scream from the biggest platform I could to make people realise that there is no ethical or kind way to treat an animal if you are going to imprison it, take it's life and take everything that it had.

MIL you are one seriously warped in the head individual. Your negativity and self-centredness still manage to surprise me sometimes. You don’t know how lucky you are to have a son like DH. You don’t know how much he has spent on therapy but it’s all been worth it to see the weight fall from his shoulders.

Too many people are getting diagnosed with adhd/asd/pda etc.

We are narrowing our view of the normal range of human variation too much

To tell my BIL to stop being such a miserable git, and he is not superior to us and why does he have times of being NC then suddenly changing when he is in need of something

To an old friend - you never wanted friendship, just someone to measure yourself and your children against. You got jealous of me when things got so much better in my life.

To my family - you do realise that Gramps was a creepy fucker don’t you? I was glad to see him sitting in his own urine in the old people’s home.

To my ex - I forgive you for what you did and I know I wasn’t easy to live with at times. I’ve worked out why I was like that - see above. But still you were very cruel at the end of our marriage, I didn’t deserve that.

To a friend - I am so happy that you’ve moved away. I used to enjoy your company but you have become bitter and make passive aggressive comments and I can’t really stand spending much time with you now.

To my boyfriend from university - I wish we’d stayed together. I look at your photo on LinkedIn and you’re still gorgeous. You told me ages ago that you’re not happy in your marriage, why are you still in it? We’d be brilliant together.

To the FWB who was around for ten years - best sex ever by far. You made me feel so desired. But you’re a selfish man and it had to end.

To old ex friend - your husband made several passes at me including when you were there. I think you noticed and that’s why you gave me the slow fade. It wasn’t my fault if your husband is untrustworthy.

He should have gone to jail and you should all have had your hard drives seized. Stop smiling at me when our paths cross.

I went to uni, got a useless degree, got married and had kids because of your expectations.

Not because it was what I wanted. No one asked me what I wanted. No one told me there were options; other things I could do and other things I could be.

I wish I'd been able to take a step back and think about what I really wanted from MY life. I'm not sure this is the path I'd have chosen.

I'm happy in this life. I love my husband. My children are my world. But a part of me will always yearn for the path left untrodden and what may have been... oh well

I just got chills.

I don't care about almost anyone in my extended family.

Your ex's Dad can't be that of an amazing Father if he hasn't taken his son to task when he was told you put your child first before your ex. Selfish a hole that's called being a decent parent.

I’d tell my MIL to never speak to me ever again. Can’t at the moment as they have a funeral tomorrow

Your care for my dad when he became ill is second to none. You were fantastic. You are still a twat though. You support Tommy R for God's sake. Give your head a wobble

I’ve thought this and said it out loud. If from today no new life was conceived the planet would be without humans in less than 120 years. That blows my mind sometimes.

To my lovely husband’s bitter ex wife. You look like a bitter old bitch constantly tweeting about how awful he was years after the divorce. If he really was a drunken narcissist then I might have seen at least one sign in the 10+ years we’ve been together now. Maybe consider the fact that you are actually the problem. Funny how his friends and family think you were the problem too. Move on love, you’re an embarrassment! Oh and stop the great mother shit too, good mothers put the kids first regardless of their own feelings and encourage a relationship with their father. They don’t actively sabotage it by spouting bollocks!

Yes the ones who accept their failings and projections onto their children. It’s the ones who think they know more than my 3 degrees and 30 years experience and are either middle class or lacking intellectual ability.
but generally not many are happy to accept their part, always some one else’s fault, then CAMHS because after we are shit aren’t we 🙄

I feel your pain. My SIL is the same. Sorry.

Tell my friend that the fact she's 35 and still calls her parents "mummy" and "daddy" creeps me out.

Especially the omission of "my", like "my mum says" it would be "mummy says" as if she's everyone's mummy. Boke.

I'd tell my newish boss to just bloody admit she was taken in by the arse kissing of the bitchy contingent in our team (despite being warned about their history) and deal with their bullying. I'm fed up of trying to pick up the pieces of the vulnerable team members they've had a go at.

I might say just that, when I finally find my way out of there ...

To my SIL. I'm not shy or suffering from social anxiety. That "I don't want to be here" vibe that you've finally noticed at your family gatherings is real, but the explanation is far more simple than any of your armchair psychology. I just don't like you, never have and never will.

I'd tell my MIL that I am on to her and see right through her endless BS. I'd tell her that her late husband (not my husband's father) was clearly a narcissist and abuser and that she is probably a covert narcissist too, or at the very least has a personality disorder. I'd tell her how uncomfortable I am with my kids spending any time in her company because she's a negative, toxic, draining person to be around and that there's a reason she isn't close to either of her sons. The thing that has stopped me saying these things is just protecting my own peace and my husband doesn't want to cut contact as he feels that at her advanced age the least he deserves for putting up with her all these years is his inheritance. She is a horror and has caused me no end of stress. I look forward to the day that she no longer graces this planet and that is such a terrible thing to say that I couldn't say it out loud to anyone in real life, although my husband knows.

I love you and I'm sorry for the way it ended. I wish you were still in my life. It really isn't the same without you by my side.

To my ex's mother, "tough sh1t you don't like the selfish woman he left me for. They deserve each other and you deserve them. And no, don't try to act innocently to my DD that you were ever friendly towards me, no wonder your two sisters (who you have been mean about) get on but have no time for you".

I would call out my boss for the toxic cunt she is….as well as going to the regulator to expose her and others that are aware of her behaviour.

I would take great pleasure in watching the fallout.

Never have I experienced such toxicity in my life. Sadly - I need the £££££, of course I am looking for a new gig. But until such times I have to keep it all in.

You asked me if that floral dress made you look fat, and I still feel terrible that I lied to you. I'll never know if you overheard that woman say that she thought you were a Chintz sofa because you always hid your disappointment so well. I should have talked you into the navy blue dress but I was 15 and I didn't want to appear unkind. I should have been a better friend. I'm sorry.