Meetup photo disgust

[Doglover321]

I’m the Organizer of a popular Meetup group and we recently had our large 1 Year Anniversary event in a local pub. Ahead of the event, I decided to post that we will have a group photo at 8pm for anyone who wants to, and then went around and reminded members just before 8pm that we’re about to take our group photo and they can be in it if they want. There were about 50 of us in attendance, but I specifically remember speaking to two new members and asking them if they want to be in the group photo, to which they responded that they absolutely did. They are pictured in the photo smiling and posing!

HOWEVER, one of these new members has two months later changed her mind and been ordering that the photo is deleted and taken down from all platforms - including Meetup itself, that she didn’t consent, etc.

Where do I stand on this, please?! Don’t tell me I’m going to get them to fill in photo consent forms going forward?!?!

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Can you clone your face over hers - is she wearing something nice?

Sticking an aubergine emoji on her face might ruin the group photo for everyone else.

Put an emoji over her face

So just blur her face

Also, it’s all well and good putting an emoji over her face or blurring her out, but lots of others have saved and shared this very same photo and even the pub have a copy of it? It’s all a bit late by this point?

Clown face her

No its nonsense. A pub is a publically accessible place and you dont need her consent as you arent even a business. You're a friend.

Its not worth falling out over I guess so perhaps just blur her face. Mind that will piss her off more maybr!

Thats not in your control tho, but bluring her face going forward is.

There's no obligation to do so. She can ask, but assuming she was in public, the OP doesn't have to do it.

It is a bit late but you can just deal with the pictures you can on the meetup event pages etc. let her contact others about it.

Id make it clear going forward that anyone not wishing to be in the photo publicly stays off the bloody photo.

I also suggest the 💩 emoji but realistically I’d go for a polite one (the most Karen looking one). Whilst still contemplating the poo one.

I used to organise photoshoots as part of my job and people like this were the absolute bane of my existence. Crop her out if you can.

Don’t blur her face. Add a witches nose and a few warts etc. just enough to make her unrecognisable see how she likes that.

My friend used to teach in an adult education centre. They did a lot of courses there.

One day a local politician - came and took a photo with one of the classes, to mark an anniversary. My friend (the teacher) and about 15 men were in the photo. It was going to be in the local newspaper.

Later in the day , one of the students came up to my friend and said "I don't want my photo in the paper"..

And the student said "if my ex knows I'm doing a course, she'll know im getting more money (back to education allowance) and she will look to get more maintenence money off me. I didn't know how to say it to you earlier in front of the politician, if me ex sees me in the paper she'll want more cash!'

I always remembered that story!

Blur it or put an emoji over it and reupload. You can do that without deleting the post, you just edit it.

I imagine what has happened is she has suddenly got cold feet about anyone seeing her on a friendship website - people can be weirdly funny about it. I think it's a good thing if people proactively go out and make friends, but there are still folk who see it as an admission of failure or something.

Literally anyone can take a photo of you in the street and upload it to the internet apparently. Legally.

Just change her face with Donald Trump and see if anyone notices.

Photos taken in public are allowed. Hence paparazzi with celebs. You don’t need to take it down, but I guess as other posters suggest, maybe blur her.

What a DRAMA QUEEN!

Just edit her out. Like she was never there. No WAY should you not post the group photo because someone has 'changed their mind!' 🙄 It's incredibly easy.

Just kick her out of the group.

👽 This could work...

Just edit her out of this photo

Then when confirming for the next do, just do a 'BTW, these photos will be shared so please do not participate if you don't want them to be shared, ta.'

Did you ask her why @Doglover321 ? Tell her when the photo is posted anywhere in the future, that she will not be on it, but you're not removing it from where it's already been posted. If she didn't want to be on the photo she shouldn't have stood with everyone when it was being taken. Silly mare.

Make absolutely sure you ask her to stand to one side away from the group

You can do it privately through a message so only 1 person sees it. Seeming at the photo has already been shared multiple times 1 more person won’t make a difference.

I'd put up signs at your next event saying that group photos will be taken, photos will be used for xx and xx purposes. Let xx know if you don't want to be part of that picture. You could also add that message to your pre-event comms. Getting explicit consent from everyone is overkill imo, and would be very difficult to manage.