To accept weaker orgasms

[Lennon80]

Hi I am 45 and have always had a decent libido and good orgasms. I suspect I’m in the perimenopause and the last year my orgasms are just so weak. Is this something I have to accept as part of aging? I’ve tried pelvic floor and used a Kelgel machine for a year (improved bladder function but hasn’t increased them). It’s making sex not worth the effort. Is this normal and something I just have to accept?

B Vitamins helped me.

Are you trying anything like hrt?

I don’t know if it’s something that you just have to accept to be honest but i also don’t have answers for you. The reason I am asking about other things is in case it is something hormone related that hrt or something else could sort.

also there is a menopause section here that may be helpful as lots of us are in the same position (menopause I mean) so you might get some targeted answers from other women going through it.

Oestrogen cream applied to the whole vulva and / or inside vagina. Plumps the whole area back up and can reignite sensitivity.

HRT can help general meno symptoms but many women need local oestrogen too.

I’ve had ovarian cancer in the past so hrt is something I am going to need to discuss with oncology. The cream sounds great!!!

Is the cream prescription only?

If the only reason for having sex is the strength of the orgasm at the end maybe you're having sex with the wrong person? Not meaning that as a snarky comment, even though it sounds like one.

Definitely chat to GP and see if suitable. Local oestrogen helps with general thinning of the tissues in the vulva/vagina and bladder issues, so worth considering as you approach menopause.

You can get topical oestrogen in two forms: Vagifem pessaries (tiny solid tablet) or cream. IMO the cream is better if you want to apply it to clitoris/vulva.

I found once I was fully through the menopause they came back as they were.

Yes but you can buy it online eg from Superdrug, you fill out an online consultation. Cheaper to get from GP on prescription though. And covered by an HRT pre payment certificate.

How about women shouldn't have to put up with a less fulfilling sex life just because they are menopausal. Has nothing to do with who the op is having sex with

Which was said to no man...............ever!!!

It’s my husband of 25 years 🙄

But there is more to just sex than the orgasm at the end! OP is still having them but she said the fact that they weren't as strong made it almost not worth it.The closeness and being together to me is just as important as the end result.

Time for a new one then?! 😜

how old are you? Women also can give themselves orgasms to test out this theory 🙄

I totally get it. I'm late 40's, peri, and recently started on sertraline for severe anxiety, as well as HRT.
I have to work so hard to climax at all, and when I do, it's frankly pathetic. I used to have wonderful orgasms.

When did the OP said it was all her orgasms? She said when she was having sex, she did not mention masturbation.

You’re replying to the OP! 😆😆 Maybe she’s testing the theory through all methods ☺️

I hope that the 70 in your name suggests your age and that you are one of the lucky ladies who sailed through menopause with no issues. Well, to that I say gynae problems including vaginal atrophy and bladder issues can follow in the future even when post-meno, so take notes ma’am! cackles like evil fairy hag

It may be worth seeing a pelvic physio to see if there is anything you can do. There are so many silly comments on here, makes me angry! A woman has the right to feel frustrated and has the right to want a better orgasm. Always idiots cropping up on every thread to kick people when they’re down.

Ovestin cream is your friend.

I am peri and mine went….a bit crap for a while. Difficult to describe but no…..oomph? Absolutely nothing my dh was doing wrong (he is quite…..er…..skilled?🤣🤣) I am reluctant to take HRT for medical reasons (I have a well managed condition that may be disrupted by it) but I tried the Elle Sera supplement and…..all back to normal. At £50 per month it’s not cheap but for me, it works and is worth it.

Do you have any toys? If not it might be worth trying for something a little different. It can help some women achieve a better orgasm.

Ffs @Hoglet70 🙈🙈

Honestly! You lot! 70 is my year of birth so no, am not an old hag who sailed through menopause, am right in the midst of it. What is wrong with thinking there is more to sex than just having a powerful orgasm at the end of it? I mean, orgasms are great but if something happened so I never had another one, I wouldn't think sex wasn't worth the effort anymore. I like the closeness and the whole act. The orgasm is an added bonus. Am I easy pleased or something?

Vitamin B12, from the pharmacy. Improves nerve response. Worked for me and a friend. Worth researching.