To think some people exaggerate how tired they are as parents?

[ThatMellowGreenFatball]

Yes, raising kids is hard, but sometimes it seems like people milk the ‘tired parent’ angle for sympathy. AIBU to think they overstate it?

Maybe they are just genuinely tired?

Either way, who really cares, they are clearly struggling a bit and vocalising it.

Tell me you don’t have kids without telling me you don’t have kids🤦🏻‍♀️

Sometimes it seems like people start topics in AIBU just because they fancy a fight…

Some people might do, some people are genuinely exhausted constantly, whether that's mentally or physically

Nope, I had twins who both had reflux and colic.
I was so so tired.
I didn't expect sympathy though just coffee.

Everyone's different, and has different sets of circumstances and support. For some parents, life is exhausting.
Your post seems kind of mean spirited tbh.

I thought most people were tired in the first few years....what with the lack of sleep.

Tell me you’re missing the point without telling me you’re missing the point. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm pretty sure 'some people' exaggerate everything in life. I had kids who slept (mostly) and I was still knackered. I can feel a bit of sympathy still for those parents who are on their knees with kids who don't sleep through the night without starting a sneery thread.

Weird post.

I would guess there are just as many who are absolutely exhausted and barely mention it

Kids are quite relentless sleep or not. I find once sleep was good kiddo had so much energy and was so relentless for the whole time he was awake.

You literally don’t know what’s going on in people’s lives 24/7 so how would you know whether they’re exaggerating or not🤣🤣🤣

Spot on.

Well I suppose in general, some people overstate or exaggerate their feelings. Not sure it's particularly prevalent with tired parents - I remember being completely unprepared for how utterly exhausting the early days are. Why the need to start a bitchy thread about it?

I would say it’s the opposite. Most exhausted parents are underplaying it or keeping it to themselves as it’s a boring thing to keep banging on about. The early years of parenting are utterly, crazily exhausting. After that it’s just like having a very time consuming second job. Still tiring compared to pre-kids but not so bone crushingly knackering.

I doubt they are all exaggerating, I am absolutely exhausted. I love my daughter, she's brilliant, but working full time and having a child is really tiring.

I’m not any more but when DS1 woke every 45 minutes through the night from three months to nearly a year…on my knees didn’t quite cover it…it would have been viewed as torture if you did that to a prisoner. Nor did he nap for more than 45 minutes during the day. Neither DS slept through until after they started school. That was 8 years without getting an unbroken night.

I mean... it depends on the circumstances doesn't it?

One kid vs 3.

SEN, disabilities, illnesses vs none.

A baby/toddler that actually sleeps vs one that doesn't.

Family/friends support vs none.

The ability for one parent to stay at home or one or both parents go part time vs 12 hours shift .

Financial ability to buy in support (cleaning,cooking etc) vs none .

A partnership rather than a dick husband (or more rarely wife).

And so on.

My friend with 3 kids (1 at least with SEN ) and a really shit husband is more tired than me, and I'm more tired than another friend who's father is a banker (and a decent bloke) and is a SAHM with a nanny and a cleaner and 2 kids.

It's all relative though, because we all moan about being tired/busy/overwhelmed sometimes.

When my baby woke up every 45 mins for 1 year, I was tired. So very tired.
He had reflux and allergies and severe (bleeding, oozing) eczema, so could never self settle and sometimes spat up 30 times a night. Not the norm, but lots of babies and kids are poor sleepers for a range of reasons.

Then as they get older they may have bad nights due to sickness, nightmares, bed wetting, trouble getting to sleep etc.

And of course the whole "being a parent 24/7" thing is pretty bloody exhausting both mentally and physically.

Right now I want to sit down with a tea but DS wants help with a craft and DD is just starting to walk so needs help (my back!!!).

I used to work in an emergency clinic doing 12 hour shifts 5 days a week. That was nothing in comparison.

What an odd thread to start on a parenting website!

#IStandWith@PeloMom

No, op you're right.
Parents just make it up for the attention 🙄

What a horrible post.

Im a lone parent and I find it extremely exhausting and I'm always tired

"Tired" doesn't always mean literally tired/ lacking in sleep. It can mean fed up, worn down by drudgery/monotony, drained - mentally or physically.

I had a long week at work. Intense 10 hour days Mon to Thursday then yesterday it was more like 12 hours including travel to and from a client. I had 9 hours sleep last night but i still feel like I have no energy to do housework or go into town like I had planned. I've pretty much just chilled at home reading the paper and playing on my phone. In shorthand I'm too tired to do much!

When my kids were little I felt like this more often. Looking after them wasn't physically exhausting but I regularly felt very drained and longed for some quiet downtime to recharge, but they'd go berserk if I didn't take them out and tire them out so I really did feel like I was "tired" most of the time.

I bet that op doesn't have a clue what is she talking about and just trying to stir the waters and hope that she hits the nerve.🐒

If people are cancelling on you and saying they’re tired because of their kids maybe they just don’t want to see you?