Just curious what’s the common age for 4th baby

[Shaz83]

Hi just curious what is the common age for last baby 4th or 5th?

Had my 4th at 42. Don't feel any more knackered than I did at 27 when I had my first.

Had my 4th and final baby at 40. Not through choice - I had secondary infertility and 7 miscarriages between babies 2 and 4. I would have preferred to be done before 40.

I had my 4th at the age of 36. I started late though, and had my first at 30.

About to have my 5th aged 42

I was 33 and 2.5 months

So in that case would you think 40 is too late as you get less time alive?

Are you usually this obtuse?

That’s a yes then.

Oh ok do you feel u will have less time
alive than someone who had there last at 33. Let’s say? As another poster said

I had my fourth at 32.

You thought late 30s was late to have kids???

Maybe it's regional and other demographics. Where I am in Surrey/SE London people generally don't start having dc until their early - mid 30s as they are building careers first and it takes that long to be able to contemplate having dc financially around here.

I had my DC1 at 31 and DC4 at 41.

Online having four kids. I am tired now though - I have had an under 5 in my house for almost 15 years! And I will be doing primary school runs for 16 years in total, which is a bit mad.

Late thirties isn't too old for your first baby or your last baby.

Personally, I wouldn't want to have a baby after early 40s because I'd like them all out of the nest before I retire!

You actually sound very young and immature. Far too young for any babies let alone 4.

Will you have less time alive with your dc if you have them at 40 than at 20. Well obviously. I can't understand how this is even a question.

But as people generally live longer or can still expect to have 40+ years with them. Isn't that enough? I mean time is running out for all of us but I doubt many people are lamenting that 40-50 years is not enough time to be a parent to a child.

This is such a peculiarly um... obvious thing that I'm not sure if you are being serious op or trying to create some kind of drama on here. Not sure what sort of drama or why but it's kind of a weird question. It's like asking if you need to wear a coat in cold weather. 🫤

Quite a few people I know with 4 children had them at around 41 because they were whoops babies.

Good luck with having 4+ teenagers.

Err - I had my second at 40. Given that my DM died at 46 I don’t tend to focus on age. It wouldn’t be good to do that. I’m already well past that and DS2 is 16. I see no reason why I won’t be like DF and hit my 80s. I know loads of families where the mum was late 30s or older when DC2 arrived. What I don’t know are loads of families with more than 3 DC!

I only know one person with five, and she had her first at 25 and fifth at 34. Not sure if that will be the last!

I know someone else who had a fourth at 42. She had three older DC who were I think 17, 19 and 20.

I am planning/hoping for a third and final baby, at 38 or 39. I had my first at 33.

Had my first at 26 and my 4th aged 34 (two weeks before my 35th birthday). 28, 31 for the middle children.
I'm younger than the other mums in the main for my first & second child, average for my last two. I personally wasn't keen to go over 35. For starters you're considered a geriatric mum with the NHS. Wasn't keen on that if i could help it!

Are you usually this rude…. Errr that’s a yes then.. love it if you actually said it to my face in person. You would not even dare… because you are behind a screen it’s a different story…

Same.

The only family I know with 4 kids are very religious and don't use contraception, just leave it in the hands of God. They had 3 kids with maybe 2 years between them, then a surprise 4th when the next youngest was 6.

They are a lovely family, both doctors, lots of money, lots of family support.

I don't know any other large families. Most other families have either 1 or 2 kids, very occasionally 3.

I don't know any of these women who have children throughout their 20s, 30s, 40s.

Also, OP, not sure what you are getting at by saying you don't understand people who say you have less time with your kids if you have them late.

I feel you are being disingenuous but I don't know what.

If you live to 80 and have a baby when you are 20, you will have 60 years with your child and they will be 60 when you die.

If you live to 80 and have a child at 40 they will only be 40 when you die. 20 years less time than if you'd had them at 20.

Do you genuinely not understand that?

Not usually but yes, I would ask you in person in this instance if you are usually so obtuse if we were having this conversation face to face.

Older parents on paper will have less time with their children. This is not a mystery. Reality is - who knows, anyone could get hit by a bus tomorrow, be struck down with cancer and die young. An older parent might live to a 100.

I know a few families with 4 or more and it is not very uncommon at all - I have three and that is increasingly labeled by all as a .large family.

Mother's I knew with fourth they've ranged from mid 20s to mid 40s and they have a wide variety of reasons and situations.

It's been widely reported in media that average age of first time parenthood is on the rise in the west and across all social economic groups - even in the lower social economic groups that are know to become parents earlier.

This is a site weighted to SE - London - higher income and more education levels - all of which mean it has more older parents than statistically normal across the whole of the UK. So it will seem odd to many posters that late 30 is labeled too old as it about time many of their peers will try for their first.

The less time thing is also odd - what does that mean. When my kids were young many of the older parents late 30 early 40s had more time with young kids because they were economically secure enough to drop hours and senior enough to get p/t flexi work patterns - so many had more time with young kids. Not so sure that the same now with cost of living. Less lifespan with them - well that not a given seeing as people of all ages can die.

We did think of a 4th - we've loved having kids - but had horrible maternity experience with third and took 6 years to move out that area - and but then DH being 41 and me 38 felt too late for us and too big a gap with our exiting kids - but that was a very individual choice. We've had family member have larger gaps or be first or second parents at those ages and it works for them.

I’m sick of people saying oh u get less time with your children when your an older parent what age is an older parent these days??
people suffer with secondary infertility mc’s it’s so sad!
and then when you hear people make comments like less time it’s not nice

4th at 33 5th at 42