DH has not said it outright, but he judges me for not enjoying my days at home with the kids. I work 3 days, 1 day with the baby (1y), 1 day with both kids (3.5y and 1y) and then the weekend.
He says he is "worried" about me and my relationship esp with our toddler, because all I do is see the negative of my day with both kids. Maybe I am too negative, but this age just feels relentless.
He works full time and although says he'd love more time with the kids, he struggles even on the weekends when I leave him for a couple of hours. There's no way he'd be bouncing downstairs to spend the day with both of them and a 8m puppy.
I absolutely love my kids, but AIBU to think these young years are definitely more survive than thrive? Baby still doesnt sleep on her own or through the night, so i'm really tired. He's indirectly made me feel like a bad mum by not throwing myself into soft play, crafting, baking, the park, you know the stuff. Yet he doesn't do any of it - even weekends!
Of course, to the kids i'm all smiles and we will do at least one 'activity' on our days together. Don't know what I want from this really. To vent, and hopefully have some comradery.