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We need to start asking why.

231 replies

NotOneOfTheInCrowd · 06/11/2024 11:49

So trump has won. In the UK elections reform gained good ground. In the rest of Europe the far right are gaining ground.

It’s clear that the world as a whole is leaning further towards this stance, and instead of expressing horror and insulting those who are voting that way, we need to start asking why that is. Because clearly it is.

it’s easy to say that people voted for Farage because they didn’t want to vote Tory.

Or that they voted for Trump because they didn’t want a woman.

But it has to go further than that. There are too many of these votes for it to be that simplistic. so it’s time we looked at what the realities and the reasons are, and how they can be resolved without putting it in the hands of people like Farage or Trump to resolve them.

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SabreIsMyFave · 06/11/2024 17:41

Yep @NotOneOfTheInCrowd I am not right wing, and am more centric, and I think Trump is dreadful. But just like in this country, the left have gone too far left ... They are radical, and are far too 'woke.' They are also have tendencies to be rude and obnoxious - and vitriolic. As has been said, they shout insults at people who don't think like them, and scream gammon and racist at anyone who DARES to speak up against 'too many boats' or 'illegal immigration' etc...

The amount of celebrities fawning over Harris made me cringe to be honest, and Twitter has gone into meltdown as the far left have gone batshit, calling Americans stupid, thick, a joke, and much worse names. Some of them really nasty! I think this is why Trump won - because of the rabid far left and woke. Moreso than Harris being black, or being a woman.

JMHO.

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Ansjovis · 06/11/2024 17:41

SimpleThings101 · 06/11/2024 17:29

Ahhh, so only those who are actively adopters of (preferably medically fragile) children are allowed to have any opinion on the prolife / prochoice debate.

How very tolerant of you. 🙄

Yeah, my tolerance is running thin, I'll admit that. My tolerance for people who want to see a baby born but don't want the parents to be given any assistance from the government to ensure said baby has enough to eat and is living in a safe environment. My tolerance towards people who think it's just bad luck if you get raped and you should just magically deal with the consequences of becoming a parent off the back of it. My tolerance for people who want to see babies born with life limiting conditions, to parents who are being crippled by hospital bills (this is NOT me saying that children with life limiting conditions should be aborted, just to be clear, but that abortion is a valid choice for people in this situation to make) and not give them any assistance with said bills. People who think that "someone else" should adopt the babies and children who have been surrendered for any reason. People who staunchly defend the right to bear arms and shout "it's not the right time" to discuss gun control after a fatal school shooting.

If that makes me intolerant, I am intolerant and proud of it. And with that I will be unfollowing this thread as I need to do something more positive than this on such a dark day. I wish you a pleasant evening.

Coolasfeck · 06/11/2024 17:47

OneBadKitty · 06/11/2024 16:50

The whole thing boils down to race and identity in my opinion. The western world as a whole is now so diverse that it's native populations no longer feel secure in their own culture and they are seeking to stop the invasion from foreign countries and re-establish their status quo.

Totally agree. The Native Americans have been swamped and are definitely not secure in their own county. The immigrants invaded and forced them on to reservations and stole their natural wealth and land. And now South African Musk and German Theil will have all of it.

SimpleThings101 · 06/11/2024 17:47

Ansjovis · 06/11/2024 17:41

Yeah, my tolerance is running thin, I'll admit that. My tolerance for people who want to see a baby born but don't want the parents to be given any assistance from the government to ensure said baby has enough to eat and is living in a safe environment. My tolerance towards people who think it's just bad luck if you get raped and you should just magically deal with the consequences of becoming a parent off the back of it. My tolerance for people who want to see babies born with life limiting conditions, to parents who are being crippled by hospital bills (this is NOT me saying that children with life limiting conditions should be aborted, just to be clear, but that abortion is a valid choice for people in this situation to make) and not give them any assistance with said bills. People who think that "someone else" should adopt the babies and children who have been surrendered for any reason. People who staunchly defend the right to bear arms and shout "it's not the right time" to discuss gun control after a fatal school shooting.

If that makes me intolerant, I am intolerant and proud of it. And with that I will be unfollowing this thread as I need to do something more positive than this on such a dark day. I wish you a pleasant evening.

I think you’re conflating too many issues and confusing people who genuinely want to protect life with those holding other political views entirely.

Yes, probably best you take a break from the mindset you’ve gotten yourself into. Have a lovely evening 💕😊

RhannionKPSS · 06/11/2024 17:48

Harris is weak, incompetent, Biden was allowed to continue when he was clearly losing it, he also allowed deviants to hold sway over many positions in government, and because most Americans I know recognized that either candidate was appalling, but took the stance that he at least knows what a woman is. Republicans couldn't define women , so why would women vote for them.

SassK · 06/11/2024 17:48

HelenaWaiting · 06/11/2024 14:54

It was a mistake for Brown to say it, but she was, in fact, a bigot.

He conceded that she wasn't though, and duly publicly apologised to her.

ThisZippyDenimGoose · 06/11/2024 17:50

chumpt · 06/11/2024 16:25

people are tired and pissed of being name called by extreme left for any sensible conversation.

This. I’m from a labour supporting family and area but the left have been out of control for the past few years. The way they speak to / about or even silence those with a different point of view in the press and online is never going to influence people and is more likely to make them silent and resentful and dig their heels in which I think is what has happened here. For a self - proclaimed intelligent group of people, the left seem to find this difficult to grasp.

swimlyn · 06/11/2024 17:53

It’s simple really. Covid was nothing compared to the pandemic of stupidity that is overtaking the world.

In the 80s and 90s working in America, I was astounded at the poor levels of education generally. I guess, just like the UK, things have not improved. The UK has been happy to dumb down to show ‘better’ educational results. Ha ha, we’re not fooled. (Brexit?)

Unfortunately no level of education whatsoever is required for voting.

whatkatydid2014 · 06/11/2024 17:57

crackofdoom · 06/11/2024 13:21

So, what ARE the issues around immigration? 🤔

To me the issue is that if you have certain parts of the country or areas within particular cities where you have a large influx of people over a short space of time without any cash injection from central government to increase public services on offer then you end up with significant issues in those parts of the city/country for people to access those services. It’s how immigration seems to happen in many areas. People moving to a new country want to try and retain some sense of community so will often actively choose to live in a particular area. In cases of asylum seekers & those coming on visas to fill roles in some low paid professions (care workers in particular in my area) they have limited funds so they’ll have no choice but to move into low cost areas, they may well end up subletting and you then end up with HMOs in what were previously family or even indivisible homes and so you have overcrowding, additional demand on services etc.
All the political parties seem poor at addressing this and have no great plans for channeling funding to those areas with rapid population growth to stabilise things. It’s easy from outside the situation to be critical and say the people living in those areas who point at immigration as the issue are just racist. They actually have a point though. Immigration combined with poor investment have caused the issues in the place they live where they now struggle more than average to get a doctor/dentist/hospital appointment or to access other services. Then there will likely be some charitable endeavours that are specifically aimed at groups like asylum seekers. That’s not a bad thing and they genuinely will need help but it must be really hard if you are also low income and struggling to see certain help available to others but not to you/your kids. Then there are the issues round social housing. We don’t have anything like enough of it and the criteria for prioritising who can access it may well mean those who are immigrants end up as a higher priority to be housed than those born in the area (who will have options like remaining with family that are not open to others). Again its obviously reasonable that you prioritise based on need but it’s a pretty grim situation for the locals.

Sneering at those who are struggling on low incomes with minimal opportunities and dismissing them as stupid and racist is pretty poor behaviour but it’s what a lot of well off, well educated people comfortably away from the situation do. Others go in and look at what’s needed to fix it and try and help. I’m left leaning, an atheist and tend toward voting Labour. I volunteer a fair bit and at least in my area, which is overwhelmingly left leaning, what I’ve seen is that the people who get stuck in and try and help are actually often quite right leaning politically (a lot of churchgoers among them if that has any bearing). People on all sides of the political spectrum are good & decent and people on all sides can be total shits. We can all want the same outcomes but disagree about how to fix things it’s not black and white. I wish more people on both sides would be a bit more willing to engage in debate vs just dismissing others out of hand. Sure some people are awful but most are just trying to get on with their own lives and making what they feel are the best (or least bad) choices.

TempestTost · 06/11/2024 18:05

There is something deeply wrong with the left now, and there seems to be no one addressing the normal concerns many people have.

Cost of living and economic security
effects of globalism on the economy
Destabilization in communities due to quick demographic change
Lack of housing

All of these are very immediate, right now kinds of things.

And the left isn't addressing them in a way people find adequate. They are talking instead about things people think are secondary, or maybe important, but are unwilling to have a real discussion about effects and effectiveness of their policy proposals.

And their method for convincing the public is telling them they are stupid and evil if they don't fall in line.

This is what they are struggling - they do not understand that if they cannot address issues the public wants, and convince them of the value of their policies, they don't deserve to govern.

TempestTost · 06/11/2024 18:12

whatkatydid2014 · 06/11/2024 17:57

To me the issue is that if you have certain parts of the country or areas within particular cities where you have a large influx of people over a short space of time without any cash injection from central government to increase public services on offer then you end up with significant issues in those parts of the city/country for people to access those services. It’s how immigration seems to happen in many areas. People moving to a new country want to try and retain some sense of community so will often actively choose to live in a particular area. In cases of asylum seekers & those coming on visas to fill roles in some low paid professions (care workers in particular in my area) they have limited funds so they’ll have no choice but to move into low cost areas, they may well end up subletting and you then end up with HMOs in what were previously family or even indivisible homes and so you have overcrowding, additional demand on services etc.
All the political parties seem poor at addressing this and have no great plans for channeling funding to those areas with rapid population growth to stabilise things. It’s easy from outside the situation to be critical and say the people living in those areas who point at immigration as the issue are just racist. They actually have a point though. Immigration combined with poor investment have caused the issues in the place they live where they now struggle more than average to get a doctor/dentist/hospital appointment or to access other services. Then there will likely be some charitable endeavours that are specifically aimed at groups like asylum seekers. That’s not a bad thing and they genuinely will need help but it must be really hard if you are also low income and struggling to see certain help available to others but not to you/your kids. Then there are the issues round social housing. We don’t have anything like enough of it and the criteria for prioritising who can access it may well mean those who are immigrants end up as a higher priority to be housed than those born in the area (who will have options like remaining with family that are not open to others). Again its obviously reasonable that you prioritise based on need but it’s a pretty grim situation for the locals.

Sneering at those who are struggling on low incomes with minimal opportunities and dismissing them as stupid and racist is pretty poor behaviour but it’s what a lot of well off, well educated people comfortably away from the situation do. Others go in and look at what’s needed to fix it and try and help. I’m left leaning, an atheist and tend toward voting Labour. I volunteer a fair bit and at least in my area, which is overwhelmingly left leaning, what I’ve seen is that the people who get stuck in and try and help are actually often quite right leaning politically (a lot of churchgoers among them if that has any bearing). People on all sides of the political spectrum are good & decent and people on all sides can be total shits. We can all want the same outcomes but disagree about how to fix things it’s not black and white. I wish more people on both sides would be a bit more willing to engage in debate vs just dismissing others out of hand. Sure some people are awful but most are just trying to get on with their own lives and making what they feel are the best (or least bad) choices.

Any time you have issues like a lack of services or housing, and a bunch of people come from elsewhere and put pressure on housing, services, and financial support, you will have serious frictions.

My town has had huge growth over the last two years, mainly from India. There also is a significant housing shortfall. I have guys all day in my workplace just waiting around, because they live at the shelter - it's 40 beds and always full.

Of course they are pissed off that housing is like needle in a haystack and costs a third more than it did not long ago.

daisychain01 · 06/11/2024 18:16

WookieMama · 06/11/2024 13:46

This! Internet is a cesspit of misinformation and lies. Can’t see anything improving anytime soon 😔

Just wanted to give an example of the utter shit and lies ...

quote from upthread:

Too many people being handed money and housing after arriving here when we have people who have worked/lived here all their lives unable to get any benefits or housing

utter bollox, a bit like Trump's "they're eating the cats and they're eating the dogs. They're eating the pets", in his inimitably eloquent style.

oh well, only another 3 years and 364 days to endure ... before another one takes his place.

I'm off to hide under my duvet Grin.

I can't get exercised over any of it, what's the point.

User135644 · 06/11/2024 18:17

NotOneOfTheInCrowd · 06/11/2024 11:49

So trump has won. In the UK elections reform gained good ground. In the rest of Europe the far right are gaining ground.

It’s clear that the world as a whole is leaning further towards this stance, and instead of expressing horror and insulting those who are voting that way, we need to start asking why that is. Because clearly it is.

it’s easy to say that people voted for Farage because they didn’t want to vote Tory.

Or that they voted for Trump because they didn’t want a woman.

But it has to go further than that. There are too many of these votes for it to be that simplistic. so it’s time we looked at what the realities and the reasons are, and how they can be resolved without putting it in the hands of people like Farage or Trump to resolve them.

The Liberal elite won't listen. That's why people have decided the only way is to vote them out.

SassK · 06/11/2024 18:26

TempestTost · 06/11/2024 18:05

There is something deeply wrong with the left now, and there seems to be no one addressing the normal concerns many people have.

Cost of living and economic security
effects of globalism on the economy
Destabilization in communities due to quick demographic change
Lack of housing

All of these are very immediate, right now kinds of things.

And the left isn't addressing them in a way people find adequate. They are talking instead about things people think are secondary, or maybe important, but are unwilling to have a real discussion about effects and effectiveness of their policy proposals.

And their method for convincing the public is telling them they are stupid and evil if they don't fall in line.

This is what they are struggling - they do not understand that if they cannot address issues the public wants, and convince them of the value of their policies, they don't deserve to govern.

You make a valid point.
Scotland (I'm Scots) is a fine example. The SNP has always been left leaning, however during Sturgeon's tenure they shifted further and further left. Making big of issues like self ID whilst paying only lip service to issues that actually mattered. It took time, but people got wise to it (well, except for the small fringe 'independence at any cost' wallopers who still, and will always, think she's wonderful).
UK Labour will do well to learn from the SNP's mistakes.

JayJayEl · 06/11/2024 18:29

MistressoftheDarkSide · 06/11/2024 12:14

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strauss%E2%80%93Howe_generational_theory

Well here's one academic theory about history appears to repeat itself, which has supporters and naysayers, but I find it an interesting "bigger picture" hypothesis. Emphasis on the hypothesis because at this stage in the game, much as we look to experts and science for all the answers, I think that's more a reflection of our innate need for some sort of certainty in apparently unstable times, and if course latching onto anything and saying "this is IT" and building around it often has dire unintended consequences.

Broadly speaking, I think part of the driving force behind it all is the sheer speed of progress over the last century, the relentless implementation of new technology without full understanding of its impacts beyond alleged benefits to the economy, and that while yes, we can, and have to adapt, we now do it with a much more pliable ethical and moral framework, which again, has positive and negative aspects.

Of course it fosters division in an unprecedented way - the connection and community fostered by the Internet and having platforms to disseminate any cause or theory has the paradoxical effect of creating more and more splintering within groups with a similar base line and yep "the devil us in the detail".

It is fascinating if one observes with a bit if detachment.

But the real bottom line as a PP said is money / power. That underpins it all.

Thank you for sharing this. It's a very interesting view, and I was unaware of the Generational Theory. Off to do some homework, cheers!

ThirtyfourBees · 06/11/2024 18:30

Cry more!

JayJayEl · 06/11/2024 18:35

ThirtyfourBees · 06/11/2024 18:30

Cry more!

What a wonderfully intelligent, well considered reply. 👏 😅

CherryBowl · 06/11/2024 19:36

Chuckling at the “Muslim atheist.” Someone’s fibbing.

Islam does have some enlightened thinkers and not all Muslim men are misogynists.

But we do have unfettered and often unvetted immigration from incompatible cultures. And if you haven’t lived in those countries of origin or spent significant time with certain types of immigrants, you’ll assume they share the same values. And that’s a dangerous assumption.

Denmark has some interesting and surprisingly workable strategies to integrate immigrants from seemingly incompatible cultures. The women and children in particular are exposed to modern and equitable ideas and ways of living.

In the UK, however, our political classes have imported unsustainable numbers into increasingly ghettoised and economically deprived areas. Worse, they have demonised anyone who has spoken out against it. The liberal middle class have taken up the ‘thick, racist’ refrain without any real understanding of the issue and wear the ‘I know a really nice Muslim’ badge as a way of closing a debate they do not understand.

Men who believe women are chattels, who believe rape is acceptable in certain circumstances, who do not recognise women’s rights or agency over their bodies, who, in recent weeks have literally silenced women’s voices, have no place in our equal society. And to see our political class perform mental gymnastics attempting to reconcile these issues is as pathetic as it is insulting.

I am from a Marxist political family. I have also spent much of my life in the Middle East. I understand exactly why Trump was elected and why Farage will stand a good chance of getting into Downing Street in future.

There are posters on this thread whose sneering dismissal of concerns on immigration who will be directly responsible for that happening.

JayJayEl · 06/11/2024 22:34

"Men who believe women are chattels, who believe rape is acceptable in certain circumstances, who do not recognise women’s rights or agency over their bodies, who, in recent weeks have literally silenced women’s voices, have no place in our equal society..."

@CherryBowl You mean men like Trump?

hotpotlover · 06/11/2024 23:12

CherryBowl · 06/11/2024 19:36

Chuckling at the “Muslim atheist.” Someone’s fibbing.

Islam does have some enlightened thinkers and not all Muslim men are misogynists.

But we do have unfettered and often unvetted immigration from incompatible cultures. And if you haven’t lived in those countries of origin or spent significant time with certain types of immigrants, you’ll assume they share the same values. And that’s a dangerous assumption.

Denmark has some interesting and surprisingly workable strategies to integrate immigrants from seemingly incompatible cultures. The women and children in particular are exposed to modern and equitable ideas and ways of living.

In the UK, however, our political classes have imported unsustainable numbers into increasingly ghettoised and economically deprived areas. Worse, they have demonised anyone who has spoken out against it. The liberal middle class have taken up the ‘thick, racist’ refrain without any real understanding of the issue and wear the ‘I know a really nice Muslim’ badge as a way of closing a debate they do not understand.

Men who believe women are chattels, who believe rape is acceptable in certain circumstances, who do not recognise women’s rights or agency over their bodies, who, in recent weeks have literally silenced women’s voices, have no place in our equal society. And to see our political class perform mental gymnastics attempting to reconcile these issues is as pathetic as it is insulting.

I am from a Marxist political family. I have also spent much of my life in the Middle East. I understand exactly why Trump was elected and why Farage will stand a good chance of getting into Downing Street in future.

There are posters on this thread whose sneering dismissal of concerns on immigration who will be directly responsible for that happening.

I think you might be referring to what I said on this thread about my husband?

He is culturally a Muslim, he grew up in Iran with Islamic traditions. The same way I am culturally a Christian.

However, he doesn't believe in God.

I hope you understand it better now.

There is plenty of white, Western men who treat women like cattle and rape them.

I've been sexually harassed many times in my life and the men were from all different races and backgrounds.

stayathomer · 06/11/2024 23:17

Every trump supporter was talking about how he was going to help them be able to afford their weekly shop or fuel bills or get a job. To them Kamala was talking about nice to have things that didn’t affect their lives.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 06/11/2024 23:18

There is a cycle and we are at a certain point in it. I remember my mother saying that to me in the 90s when I was all joyful that so many countries had finally seen sense and swung to mildly socialist governments - I felt we had put greed and selfishness behind us and evolved to a better place ( I was young Grin). My mum gently advised me that she had been around this cycle a few times...left wing, right wing, left wing, right wing. I didn't believe her but now I have also been around the clock a few times, I see she was right.

It will all come around again. You just have to hope it goes around peacefully.

EasternStandard · 06/11/2024 23:19

Increased movement of people, plus some identity stuff tacking on to that

Politicians ignore voters, and voters push back by shifting to the right

Trump pretty much didn't ignore that

Unless a realistic discussion happens some groups will keep being shocked by the outcomes from elections

Shakeoffyourchains · 07/11/2024 00:12

lovelysunshine22 · 06/11/2024 14:31

@crackofdoom

So migrants are not housed in hotels while their Asylum cases are being processed? They are not given basic allowances to live on? Who is paying for that? Us?

Two tier policing is a FACT! I have family members who work for the justice system and the police and ALL acknowledge that different groups of people get treated very differently because they are so scared of being accused of racism!

Our infrastructure worked just fine until we started getting a massive influx of people. Why should we be paying for more when we didn't ask for this huge increase in our population?

Stop using statistics to try and justify it and spend some time in the communities/jobs that deal with this every single day! You may just change your views.

Stop using statistics to try and justify it and spend some time in the communities/jobs that deal with this every single day! You may just change your views.

Aka stop using evidence to inform your decisions, listen to anecdata that confirms your bias instead. Pretty much sums up why we're where we are tbh.

But if that's the route we're going down so be it, here's my anecdata.

I grew up in one of the most deprived areas in the UK, at a time when migration wasn't considered a problem but, single mothers, benefit scroungers (not even slightly ironically) and 'blacks' were to blame for our ills. My family managed to improve our lot and we left that area in my late teens.

I now live somewhere with quite a bit of diversity (including two asylum hotels within 5 miles of my house). I have Ugandan, Indian, Polish, Turkish and German neighbours (that I know of). The local mosque (built only a few years ago) regularly holds community events for everyone to attend, as does the polish club, and both do a huge amount for local charities. We've an interesting selection of shops and cafés including a Polish and Asian supermarket, a Jamaican cafe (that does an unreal jerk chicken baguette), and a brilliant independent jewellery run by a lady from Kuwait.

I've never, not once, had a negative interaction with any migrant in or around my community since I moved here over 10 years ago, and they 100% improve the town and the lives of everyone who lives here.

Contrast that to where I grew up (was back there just a couple of weeks ago for a memorial of a friend who lost their life to drugs). It's still deprived, it's still 90+% white British, and it still has all the same problems, but now the scapegoats are asylum seekers and Muslims. They're the one's to blame for everything wrong with that town, not successive governments ignoring them, not big business closing down local employment, not transport companies reducing services every year and further isolating the community. Nope, it's asylum seekers and Muslims (or all brown people depending on who you ask).

I'm sure if you look at the stats (I know, I know we're not supposed to do that) you'll find that it's the people with the least amount of interaction with migrants who are most vocal in their opposition to them, not those of us who are fortunate enough to have our lives enhanced by sharing cultures with people from across the globe.

ZenNudist · 07/11/2024 00:16

username7891 · 06/11/2024 12:19

Keir Starmer is the most unpopular prime minister in history

Liz Truss says hold my Chardonnay. You have a memory as short as her tenure.

Lol I saw this and wondered if the PP had been living under a Rock. Kier seems pretty popular and sensible compared to Sunak, Truss, Johnson and May.

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