To book tickets to see same show as husband and step-daughter

[Tinogirl]

Every year husband’s niece is in a pantomime and SiL buys tickets for DH and stepdaughter and the rest of the family but not me and my daughter. They then go to a Greek restaurant.

I am fed up of the exclusion so this year I am going to book tickets and a table at the restaurant for me and DD.

When I confront SiL she says that her kids don’t get to see step-daughter that often, and I said that my daughter won’t get in the way of them seeing her just by being there.

DH can’t see what the fuss is about and why I want to go.

DH thinks if I go ahead with my plan it will be embarrassing for me. I don’t think so.

Some more background info would of been helpful in this thread
Other posters seem to know a lot more than you posted here

You will look like an absolute nutter.

So the children have to put up being the most mature ones out of all this?

If there is some conspiracy going on

You'll look crazy. Dont do it.

You want to drag your 10yo daughter along to the same places as her step dad and step family, just to awkwardly sit near them and not interact? It would be a shit time for her,embarrassing for you, and won't achieve whatever you think it will achieve.

You've had a few threads about not being invited to stuff, the answer is to talk to your husband and decide what to do about it (although I think it's fair enough if he sometimes does things just with his kid), but following them around isn't the answer.

She’s taking her brother and her niece to see her daughter perform. There’s nothing wrong with that.

This is a terrible idea. The only way to manage this is for your dh to say he needs 4 tickets not 2 .

He shouldn't be compliant in this arrangement of leaving you out.

There's clearly a back story but I presume you have a reason for not sharing that here?

So, based on this post alone, tbh, I don't really have an issue with families doing things separately.

My partner sees his adult children without me being present, I see mine alone and sometimes we do things together.

I see my brother and niece without his wife or my partner on occasion.

If your daughters don't get on then I see even less of a problem with it. His sister in law is allowed to spend time with her brother and niece.

But even if the situation is more complicated, don't do what you're planning because it will be awkward for all concerned and won't endear you to them. If you just want to piss them off and make a point without regard for the outcome, go ahead.

Oh god op please don’t!

Don’t do it - but your SIL and DH are very much in the wrong.

No way should you do this

but I would make plans to have your own life with you and your daughter alone - do isn’t bothered either is he.

Read the room, op. You aren’t invited. Perhaps use your energy in working out whether there’s a reason for this. It might be difficult to confront certain truths and to be honest with yourself but it might help you understand. I suspect there’s one or two big reasons why which you aren’t revealing here and one of them is quite likely to be down to the enforced relationship between your dd and your sd.

Why would you insist on going somewhere that you aren’t welcome?

This lady, for whatever reason, doesn’t want you to attend.

this is similar to the thread where the lady is very angry that her boyfriends daughter ( who she dislikes and who dislikes her) hasn’t invited her to her wedding.

you can’t force people to think of you as family. You can’t force the children to think of your daughter as their cousin.

let it go. Don’t put your daughter in such as awkward position.

This.
Leave them alone!
Honestly you'll give the SIL, neice and SD a right story to tell to their mates. Why would you want to feed the crazy stepmother narrative? Just let them do their thing and you do yours.

It all depends on how long you've all known each other and relationships with your DD and the others.
If you/DD are not close to SIL etc then why on earth would you do this? It's just petty and provocative. Yes would have been nice to be invited but also they are entitled to their own little traditions.
Why don't you make your own?

Please don't do this to your daughter.
Find something nice that she enjoys and spend the money there.

Yanbu to go to the pantomime but booking the same restaurant is rather ott.

Your SIL is mean and your husband should support you but no good will come of this. Don't put your child in the middle by taking her along.

Why are they in the wrong? Why can't this man's daughter spend time with her dad without her stepmother there?

You keep starting threads complaining about you or your daughter not being invited to things by your DH’s family. I’m not sure you’re psychologically suited to a blended family situation.

Suggest to DH that he asks his sister to include the other half of his family.
Remind him that you would all enjoy the outing and that you are feeling left out.

A ticketed concert is a public event so it is very poor form of SIL to not book the number of tickets that your husband requests. He should also pay for the tickets.

You have a husband issue here . Sounds like my ex .

That's quite pushy of you. Book for the concert. But for the same restaurant. That's a no no.

It's horrible for them to exclude you but this is not the way to deal with it.

Do you make a habit of going to places where you’re not wanted?