How much does your size/weight bother you?

[AllAboutJazz]

I'd say I'm healthy, fairly fit and active.

I make a lot of effort to cook healthy meals, drink green tea (blugh), avoid processed food etc. I'm not thin, but not exactly fat either, just...plump? BMI 22.5 but I'm short, so I could stand to lose a stone.

I own my house and have a business, really love my job, have a few friends who are lovely, a great partner and freedom to more or less do as I please - a very lucky life.

Why then am I so unhappy not being thin? It's like I can't let myself be happy, because I should be smaller.

How often do you think about your size/weight? How much does it affect your happiness?

Accidentally posted too soon.

I wish society would stop objectifying women to the extent that from an early age many actually seem to believe that their value lies in their appearance. So much wasted time and energy worrying about this to the extent of fixating on things that nobody else would even notice when they meet them. We need so much to teach young girls to value who they are, not their appearance.

Health, yes. But how they look? This is one of the least important things in life but society is designed by men for men and women need to fight back for their daughters against indoctrinating them into this mindset. So many posters here saying they've spent their whole adult lives thinking about how they look because they were damaged by this message that this is where their value lies, as children.

Men won't change this because it suits them to have women trying desperately to be appealing to them and spending their emotional energy on this trivial stuff. Women will have to change this cultural obsession - if it is to change - by teaching our daughters that this isn't what is important. A ban on social media for under 16s like Australia have implemented would be a good start.

I’ve just lost 3 1/2 stone. I intend to lose 2 1/2 more. I HATED being so overweight (still am, really!) and it dominated my every thought in one way or another.
The feeling of eventually doing something about it is … magical.

I'll admit I'm getting less comfortable as I seem to be gaining more weight lately, and the 5;2 diet seemed to stop working this year - maybe to do with starting HRT, which I know can make people gain weight.

It kind of wouldn't bother me if I knew there was an endpoint, like if someone could say 'You won't go over ten and half stone' or something, I might go, 'whatever' but I feel right now like I would be uncomfortable if I got much over that - I am only just over 5ft - and then I'd have to work really hard to get anything off and part of me is a bit 'Meh, I'd rather eat nice things'.

When I was young I was fat, I was fat from the age of 5/6. My Nan had a binge eating disorder as I know now and she brought me up for the first ten years of my life. When I was at school around 15 I remember one of the boys saying in front of the other boys that I have a pretty face but who knows about the rest of me. That has stuck with me for 30 odd years. My dad was an alcoholic and generally a loving man, but sometimes when he was drunk, I think out of love or frustration he would call me ‘oh-bee-see’ he knew how to say obese I think and he’d say I’d be ill and die cos I’m ’oh-bee-see’. I’m a size 18 about 14.5 stone and I started mounjaro and got ill. I will try again with it. I hate my body, and yes I am pretty and carry my weight well but I never stop looking at my body in disgust.

I'm a 12-14 with a 26 BMI, I weigh around 10st 9lb and have been calorie counting.

I wasn't unhappy with my previous weight (11st 5lb) but was just aware that I was the wrong side of 40 and wanted to be in a "healthy" BMI range..

Figure wise, mostly happy with it. Good legs, arms, small boobs, I have a loose tummy though which would probably look better flatter. But I'm not stressed with it. I figure what will be, will be.

I'm aiming to get down to 10st with this calorie counting, which is probably going to take me another 2 months or so, and then see how I'm feeling.

I know I dont want to be obese, as my sister died from an illness linked to obesity at my current age. But I also dont want to be super skinny like I was pre-children as frankly I looked unwell.