Husband going out drinking by himself on family holiday

[Yellowbell]

I've recently been on 5 night holiday with DH and our 3 year old DS. We stayed in a hotel (not all inclusive resort or anything with family entertainment etc). During the holiday my DS was staying up a little later each night (around 8.30 - 9pm) as we went out for dinner late. DS was still getting up at the same time in the morning (6am) so was exhausted by this time.

One evening DH asked if he could watch football in the hotel bar whilst I got my son ready for bed and stayed in the room for the evening. I said this is absolutely fine. My husband then arrived back at the room at 1am after going out drinking in bars. When I spoke to him in the morning to tell him I was angry at the fact he'd been out drinking by himself and that I thought it was strange to do this on a family holiday he told me I'm boring to want to go back to the room by 9pm every night! What does he expect we're on holiday as a family and it's about making memories not staying out late drinking.

AIBU to think this is strange behaviour on a family holiday? For info DH has recently been on a 3 day stag party abroad so he shouldn't be desperate for a night out drinking.

People with that attitude usually don’t have children. You didn’t answer, Do you have kids and how old are they?

@HowIsItNovemberAlready

see, that’s just not true considering there are others who feel similar. Becoming a parent does not necessarily mean you wanna be confined to a hotel room from 9pm onwards every night - it just doesn’t!

No, but for a short time it can be what you need to do if your child needs sleep and won’t sleep in a pushchair and can’t manage late nights etc. Holidays do change with young children. You’re on holiday as a family and it’s only 5 days so not much time to spend together. My partner would have wanted to be with us, he may have gone and watched the football but wouldn’t have been interested in drinking alone and I’m glad of that.

How old are your children, you’re not answering? Have you forgotten what it’s like with young kids. Are your kids older by any chance? Or younger so it’s easy to stay out later with them asleep in a pushchair.