Fed up of children running around screaming

[Notyouthful]

These children are about 8-13 years old. Some are siblings. They are running in the middle of the cul de sac.

What age should children stop screaming iyho?

I was still a kid when I quietly played outside in my garden, or quietly read inside.

But you do understand that children are different to each other.

We had this in our flats but they would also leave all of their scabby toys out as if it was their personal junkyard. It was just one family and they let their kids run wild. I remember one getting into a life with me and walking with me to my flat. Thank god I wasn’t a pedophile!

They are different, but every kid deserves to be taught boundaries and what is acceptable behaviour. Screaming at the top of their voice for hours is not acceptable behaviour. If the mother thinks it is she can put them inside and close the door, see how she likes it then.

Just because I think it's important to understand why you should be nuanced and careful with children's behaviour:

Research has shown that children with ADHD have often received 20,000 more negative messages about their behavior than a neurotypical child by age 12. The impact of all of this negative feedback can be profound.

Great if you have a quiet, shy, introverted, parent-focused, slow-approach, NT child. It's all genetic BTW, not parenting. But if you have contact with loud, out-going, extrovert, fast-approach children, maybe with ND, or you have one, be careful how you work with them. It's a marathon, not a sprint and getting them to shut up is short term.

I can guarantee everyone on your road thinks you’re a twat. Because you are.

and you’re raising your children to be twats too.

but carry on, have your little laugh…

That isn't the question asked.

In the case you describe which is the complete opposite situation. The staff would quietly caution the parent. Plenty of children run around and play loudly outside are quite willing and able to sit in a coffee shop.

The exception is where it is in a soft play or okay area that's not clear boundaries for a child to know what to do.

I have never due to my history ever expressed that view. But by all means take a low blow. As you will see from .y other posts, I have skin in the game of adults ever instructing my children and I don't apologise for it. Perhaps have a little consideration of those of us who parent from a less rose tinted glasses viewpoint!

I think the th8ng about raising kids to potentially be “twats” by letting them behave how they want when younger is broadly true.

I don’t think it’s a bad thing to bring kids up to be considerate of others. “You’re not the only pebble on the beach” as my mother used to say.

I certainly used to tell Dd when she was younger that other people are about and don’t want to hear shrieking/shouting. Even in our own back garden. As a young adult now she’s thoughtful and thinks of others. And as a university lecturer sadly i don’t see those qualities in quite a few of my students, they will talk through lectures, not thinking of others trying to concentrate, etc. Maybe a bit more discipline when younger might have benefited them!

As an aside I’d never live in a cul de sac because of the risk of noisy kids, football, etc.

It’s Peter and the Wolf with the screaming. Normally you only heard screaming if someone is being attacked.

100%. Pretty sure there would be a correlation between children who grew up with no boundaries and criminality. On the other hand, too heavy a hand with discipline is damaging too. It’s just about helping your children learn respect.

I get both 😭

They shouldn't be screaming at all OP. But they will. And the parents won't tell them to stop in case it hurts their feelings.

Are they actually screaming OP? Or just playing loudly and being happy?
Let them enjoy their outside space and playtime with friends and family

OP has made it clear she knows the difference.

Oh god I hate this too! Have no problem with the usual noise of kids playing in a soft play, obviously. No issue at all. But the little brats that stand there literally screaming over and over again at the top of their lungs with a huge smile on their faces drive me insane. Fills me with rage. My son hates it too, he tends to give them a filthy little side eye

Actually I wasn't calling out your parenting but your silly post. You're not stupid and I'm quite sure you know that stopping children screeching doesn't mean they have to sit in front of a screen.

Outside is fine...in Tescos, less fine. Particularly when they ignore the ineffectual attempts of their parent telling them to be quiet and stop running about.

I don't know why mine would shut up and fall in line with just A Look , but generally they did. Maybe in the hope I'd say at checkout 'Well done, you behaved well enough for me to want to treat you to milk shakes at the drive-through on the way home'

I at times have to remind my DD and some of her friends not to do this. They play in a park right by my house so I can hear. If I hear screaming I go out and tell them if they scream like that someone will think someone is being hurt and call the police or if something bad happens no one will come as they will be used to your screaming. I tell them to have consideration for the neighbours. Unfortunately the parents of the two children who are the main culprits do not back me up and think it's just kids being kids and I'm being fussy. DD and 3 others are quieter but do copy at times.

This.

It's the weekend of Hallowe'en and fireworks night. The last weekend of half term. And they've been stuck inside because it's rained for weeks.

Aren't you being a bit joyless? They'll be back at school tomorrow.

Why should the op care about someone else's kids' screen time, she just wants then to,stfu

I notice the screaming on warm days. It sounds like crabs being boiled. It goes on for hours. It wasn't like that years ago.

Screaming kids are incredibly annoying and yes, result in a “boy who cried wolf” situation. A friend’s DD was the most annoying child I ever met and at 11/12 would regularly scream while playing as if she was being attacked, the first few times I heard her I went running. Unsurprisingly the day she fell in the garden and broke her wrist nobody (including her mother) went to her for ages.

Some toddlers go through a phase where they discover their voice and decide to do high pitch squeals. This is the time for their parents to say don't do this. Nip it in the bud as they say.

The boy who cried wolf analogy there.