…to ask 5 1/2 yr old to stay in bed/room until 6:15am? When do your kids get up?

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Weve been trying to get youngest son who is 5 1/2 to stay in his room (either in his bed or playing quietly with toys) until the sun on his gro clock comes up at 6:15am. He is generally awake at 5:30am.

It’s been about a year now of trying and we are just not getting anywhere. Everyone is tired. Personally I think we should give up trying and accept one of us gets up at 5:30am with him, but partner thinks we should keep at it. Ideally he would like him in his room until 7am but we have compromised on 6:15. He regularly resorts to shouting at him each morning when he won’t keep quiet, which leads to crying / tantrums / generally shitty start to each day, and he rarely does go back to bed anyway.

what time do most children wake up? If they wake early will they play in their room / take themselves downstairs to play or do they wake the whole house as my son does?! We have some very well behaved cousins in the family who will either sleep or entertain themselves until gone 8am each morning, but not sure if this is normal

I'm so glad he's sleeping a little better for you, makes life a little easier. My DS is only 4 and we've only recently turned his cot into a bed. We also have a stairgate on his room door as the idea of him going to the kitchen or something during the night terrifies me. He has a little LED night light as all of a sudden he was afraid ofvthe dark. Perhaps maybe the toilet was wakening him and as he's got a little older he has out grown it. That was a problem we had do we started to lift them to potty b4 we went to bed. They be in bed from 7- 7.30pm. I know offical advice says not to do this but it works for us.

I hope your son gets sorted with assessments as it can be a long road and you have to fight /advocate on thier behalf all the way.

Thank you for the clock idea- must look it up. As he keeps pointing out the clocks still blue in the mornings....🤣

We told both our DC you don't disturb anyone before 7am unless it's an emergency. Job done. You don't ask - you tell - and there are consequences if they don't.

Agreed for some children. My daughter can be told and will listen and know not to do something. My son however is different and we have recently realised he may be ND (adhd or PDA most probably but other things are being explored too). So I think if people are reading this thread, and have a child they are struggling with where the message just isn’t sticking, then there may be something else going on