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Original plan changed without telling me

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 02/11/2024 12:18

So I agreed to meet up with my friend, I said we could meet up as just the both of us. That was the plan. She helped me with securing a job by sending me interview prep etc and so did her partner. I got
rhe job and that was because of them both partly helping me. I then said we’d get dinner altogether on another night(which I could get). We had agreed that it would be just her and I getting dinner today.

This morning she texted me saying her partner would be joining us. Which is fine I don’t mind but I didn’t account for paying for this meal so now I don’t really know what to do. I know it’s not really socially acceptable to turn around and ask that either. Like are they expecting me to pay?

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ThianWinter · 02/11/2024 12:20

Tricky seeing as they both helped you with your interview prep.
Can you afford to pay for the pair of them?

PinkyGold · 02/11/2024 12:22

Was your friend aware you intended to pay?

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 02/11/2024 12:29

ThianWinter · 02/11/2024 12:20

Tricky seeing as they both helped you with your interview prep.
Can you afford to pay for the pair of them?

It’s just I think it would have been appreciated if I was told maybe last week or something so I knew.

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toomuchfaff · 02/11/2024 12:53

In this situation I'd say something similar to "I had planned this as a treat for you for helping me, I can't stretch to paying for you both, but as long as the cost can be split between us all, I just wanted to clarify so there was no confusion when it came to the bill"

Drom · 02/11/2024 12:54

Why have you got two threads about this?

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