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That ship has sailed

453 replies

Grooveisintheheartbaby · 31/10/2024 21:23

My company want us back to the office 5 days a week. As far as I and colleagues are concerned that ship has sailed and we will not be coming back we will leave. AIBU to think that businesses need to accept that things changed in covid forever and they can't reverse it without massive disrest and unhappiness?

OP posts:
Gwenhwyfar · 01/11/2024 08:08

"Surely there can’t be all these jobs where companies are paying people to do things that don’t actually need to be done?"

The amount of unnecessary things I've done at work over the years lol.

Kitkat1523 · 01/11/2024 08:08

AnotherMner · 01/11/2024 07:46

No I haven't voted. I read all the OP's posts first before I posted and it's clear she has made a decision regardless of what anyone here says.
It's not compulsory to vote when an OP chooses to include that option.

😂😂😂

InWalksBarberalla · 01/11/2024 08:08

SoiledMyselfDuringSomeTurbulence · 01/11/2024 07:53

And one of the main arguments for being in the office is that younger staff need to be with more experienced staff to use them as mentors.
This has been discussed many times by behavioural psychologists and senior managers. Young employees learn from older ones if they want to advance their careers long term.

It certainly gets claimed a lot, yes. With the people making the claims ignoring all the young people who get fucked over by an expectation of work in person and whose opportunities have increased now there are more remote roles. Just like you're doing now.

And it's rubbish anyway. Many young people today are great at forming relationships in the online world and a perfectly capable of learning from others in that environment.

Floofydawg · 01/11/2024 08:09

My company did it and didn't give one single shit that the staff were unhappy about it. People left and didn't get replaced - win win, cost saving. Thank fuck I just got made redundant.

LlynTegid · 01/11/2024 08:14

InWalksBarberalla · 01/11/2024 08:08

And it's rubbish anyway. Many young people today are great at forming relationships in the online world and a perfectly capable of learning from others in that environment.

I don't think it is completely rubbish, I don't think it needs you to be in an office five days a week to do that. At most two, one if you plan your time well.

Thursdaygirl · 01/11/2024 08:16

5128gap · 31/10/2024 22:24

Yes I think they do. In my sector its an employees market and there is no way we could attract staff without offering hybrid working even if we wanted to. As it happens, we don't. Staff are happier with better work life balance, less tired, fewer sick days and generally more productive. Performance is managed by output and whether work is completed to standard by deadlines, not by whether staff are occasionally hanging out their washing or not. If targets are not achieved staff are managed accordingly. No need to force then to sit in the office to do that.

Same here. We're a medium-sized public sector employer. We were slightly slow to get our hybrid policy finalised, and during this time, we really struggled to recruit staff, as no one would commit to joining us until we were clear on this.

And now, potential new recruits ask more questions about hybrid working than they do about salary.

5128gap · 01/11/2024 08:19

Gwenhwyfar · 01/11/2024 08:06

Lol. Not many workplaces can cope with lots of their staff leaving at once. Even if there are plenty of people able to do the jobs, recruiting loads of people would be a huge headache.

Indeed. A whole new team of strangers to take a chance on. All of whom will have full employment rights from day one. So it's not like its easy to get rid of them if they prove worse than the last lot. That's if you can attract them in the first place when you're competing against employers who do offer hybrid. And NMW roles paying £25k.. Employers really are going to have to wise up and adjust to what the world looks like now rather than what they think it should. Because with the cost of commuting and the closing gap between entry level and experienced salaries they need to either dig deep and be very competitive with salaries, or offer staff other incentives.

Thursdaygirl · 01/11/2024 08:20

There are many jobs where the best ideas are floated around the coffee machine and chatting over lunch.

Ah, the mythical 'water cooler' conversations ....... Which are generally about holidays, sport, last night's TV and John's new car.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/11/2024 08:21

TheShellBeach · 31/10/2024 21:39

What is "disrest"?

Edited

Ditto. I couldn’t work out whether the OP meant ‘distress’ or ‘unrest’.

Gwenhwyfar · 01/11/2024 08:24

Thursdaygirl · 01/11/2024 08:20

There are many jobs where the best ideas are floated around the coffee machine and chatting over lunch.

Ah, the mythical 'water cooler' conversations ....... Which are generally about holidays, sport, last night's TV and John's new car.

I think that chit chat is important actually. We are humans, not just workers.
Of course, it can be done with hybrid working, some days in the office, some at home.

NetZeroZealot · 01/11/2024 08:24

Totally depends on the type of company.
in my business teamwork and information sharing are really important and are much easier with face to face contact.

Futurethinking2026 · 01/11/2024 08:24

You could just read the other 1000s of threads on this subject.

fashionqueen0123 · 01/11/2024 08:24

UnhappyAndYouKnowIt · 01/11/2024 07:15

I wish working from home was an option where I work, at least occasionally. I spend 2 hours driving to sit in a small room of people exchanging germs and making constant noise, under bright lights that require special glasses to avoid migraines. The cleaning is inadequate and actually poses an infection control risk, and I have to walk past rough sleepers (who are occasionally abusive). The temperature is always too hot or too cold and every time something breaks we spend hours chasing down maintenance. It's hard to see how this is more productive.

I used to get terrible headaches and feel so tired in the winter in offices with artificial lighting all day, and arriving and leaving in the dark. Some days the weather was bad and they’d just shut the blinds and it really isn’t good for your circadian rhythms.
And yes - so many bugs! I remember when we all went down with swine flu years back. I also now can wfh if im not feeling as good as I don’t have to drag myself on a 1.5 hour commute.

Feelingathomenow · 01/11/2024 08:26

Thursdaygirl · 01/11/2024 08:20

There are many jobs where the best ideas are floated around the coffee machine and chatting over lunch.

Ah, the mythical 'water cooler' conversations ....... Which are generally about holidays, sport, last night's TV and John's new car.

Yep in nearly 25 years of working in professional services I have never known anyone discuss anything work round the coffee machine/kettle/water cooler. It’s usually the place where people go to slag off work colleagues/wind up the office politics/stab others in the back. Minimising these conversations can only be a good thing.

Oldmouse · 01/11/2024 08:28

There aren't many new WFH jobs about, the majority of people who do it were either WFH pre covid or as a result of it.

I agree WFH must be nice....I'd love to be able to do it but I can't imagine leaving a job because I refuse to go into a workplace

LordEmsworth · 01/11/2024 08:28

Feelingathomenow · 01/11/2024 08:05

It depends what industry/profession. It’s really hard to recruit in ours since covid. When o started it was really well paid -but that compensated for a lot of stress, tight deadlines, long hours esp at certain times of the year. Difficult clients, constantly changing knowledge you spend a lot of personal time keeping up to date with. But average salaries haven’t really changed for about 15 years, whilst other professionals (and indeed non- professional) salaries have crept up close.I’m starting to wonder if when factoring in all the additional work/keeping up to date whether some juniors are actually being paid minimum wage. It’s just not worth it.

Do yes if our employer told us to be in the office 5days a week, we could all walk and probably find another job fairly quickly. Meanwhile our original employer would struggle to replace us. So yes, they would very much give a shit!

But presumably you don't work for the same company as the OP? And your employer isn't insisting on a return to the office?

Whereas - an employer who is insisting has clearly been through the thought process of "what if" and decided that the advantages of their plan outweigh the risk. So the OP's employer is unlikely to give two shiny shits, even if your employer would. The OP threatening to moan, whinge, be miserable and flounce is unlikely to get them to change their minds...

Apate · 01/11/2024 08:29

I also think that there's a wider economic benefit to people being back in offices more. Cafes, sandwich shops, dry cleaners etc were all fine pre-covid and when there are fewer people in offices they get impacted.

ememem84 · 01/11/2024 08:31

Vitriolinsanity · 31/10/2024 23:01

If it means I can talk to a business without a washing machine going or a dog barking I'm with business.

Wfh is a total touch, but you've had 4 years to set up a proper home office.

Whilst I agree to a certain extent not everyone has space for a seperate proper home office.

i wfh from either my dds bedroom (at her desk) or the dining table. I typically wfh one day a week and try not to schedule any important client facing meetings on that day. Intend to use it for my internal admin stuff.

id love a dedicated home office and if I was full time wfh or more than one day a week I’d probably try and get one in the house somewhere.

Saschka · 01/11/2024 08:31

Ubugly · 31/10/2024 22:11

All this they can keep an eye on you, no one watches my screen in the office or notices multiple fag breaks, fake meetings, extended lunches, leaving early for school run and no this is not me, people standing around chatting for ages etc, slackers slack at home or in the office full stop.

People would definitely notice all of that in my office.

fashionqueen0123 · 01/11/2024 08:34

GnomeDePlume · 01/11/2024 07:41

I think some managers have a rose tinted view of what it was like before covid when everyone worked in the office and have forgotten:

  • all the meetings when a whole team would disappear for a couple of hours plus lunch. Nothing material would come from these meetings.
  • all the office bugs which would roll round whole offices. One particularly memorable one where all the people working on a bank of desks turned green one by one and left early.
  • hours of office time spent on decorating for Halloween, Christmas, baby showers, weddings
  • hours of office time spent discussing holiday/Christmas/weekend plans
I now fully WFH. Teams meetings are short and focused. I am generally healthy and even on days when I feel a bit rough I can still work. Nobody decorates my office. All non work chats with colleagues are short.

If my employer decides I need to be in the office full time then my productivity and availability is going to take a major hit. I won't be starting early or finishing late if I have to tie in with catching trains. I will also be reviewing my retirement plans.

I am in a niche role as my previous employer only realised when I upped and left and they couldn't find a replacement at the price they were paying me.

Haha this made me laugh as it completely described the office I once worked in.
We once spent a whole afternoon wine tasting for the Xmas party.
Norovirus and people vomiting on the way out and train home.
Discussing last nights tv.

Tbf that job couldn’t have been done fully from home. But so many hours were not productive so I don’t see how it’s not comparable to someone hanging out some washing quickly.

HellofromJohnCraven · 01/11/2024 08:35

At the end of the day it's down to the business strategy.
Where I work, I actively recruit remote workers. A wider net gives me better candidates. The work is suited to remote and people appreciate the opportunity.
Office space is used for early careers employees first. Lots do hybrid by choice, me included.
Tbh it would be too expensive to have people in 5 days a week.

LordEmsworth · 01/11/2024 08:35

Gwenhwyfar · 01/11/2024 08:06

Lol. Not many workplaces can cope with lots of their staff leaving at once. Even if there are plenty of people able to do the jobs, recruiting loads of people would be a huge headache.

Erm - glad you think it's funny.

A workplace that can't cope, won't insist on returning to the office, as they know it will annoy staff.

A workplace that insists on it, has made the decision already about their priorities.

Do you genuinely believe that if the OP moans and strops enough, their employer will change their mind? Because that sounds very naive...

Feelingathomenow · 01/11/2024 08:35

LordEmsworth · 01/11/2024 08:28

But presumably you don't work for the same company as the OP? And your employer isn't insisting on a return to the office?

Whereas - an employer who is insisting has clearly been through the thought process of "what if" and decided that the advantages of their plan outweigh the risk. So the OP's employer is unlikely to give two shiny shits, even if your employer would. The OP threatening to moan, whinge, be miserable and flounce is unlikely to get them to change their minds...

No, but a lot of employers seem to think their employees won’t walk. Every company I’ve seen that have tried to up office working have back tracked. There’s often an arrogance shown by employers where they think their business is as important to employees as it is to them. Most employees don’t give a shit who employs them as long as they’re paid and the job offers them what they want, flexible working is very important to a lot of people.

CheekySwan · 01/11/2024 08:36

Is there a reason? Is productivity down? Have people been taking the mick?

Gwenhwyfar · 01/11/2024 08:38

LordEmsworth · 01/11/2024 08:35

Erm - glad you think it's funny.

A workplace that can't cope, won't insist on returning to the office, as they know it will annoy staff.

A workplace that insists on it, has made the decision already about their priorities.

Do you genuinely believe that if the OP moans and strops enough, their employer will change their mind? Because that sounds very naive...

I don't know. It can happen.
Maybe they figure that most people won't actually leave, but if they all did that really would be a problem.