Pre-wedding email. Bit weird?

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Invited to a colleague's wedding evening do and had an email come through to all guests (unless it has just come to me 🤣). Maybe I've just hit the nail on the head 🤣

It states, amongst loads of other instructions, that,

'A small buffet will be provided. This is for all guests to enjoy, so please be considerate with your portion sizes'.

I've never seen anything like that before! AIBU to find that very weird to be on a pre-wedding email?!

Maybe it only went to you, OP. Maybe the people getting married think you have firm for pigging out at buffets? 😀

Yep I have had that. Left early. Resented the £20 I'd given them as a present. Obviously we'd also had to buy our own drinks so there was zero hosting on their part for Evening guests (also zero seating as day guests stayed stuck to their seats)

Fun!

I've been at a wedding that ran out of food at the buffet. They called each table up one at a time. It was a disaster. 3 tables were left with no food at all other than some salad. Middle of nowhere as well so couldn't even go and find any. Was in the days before uber eats etc.
I'm always worried at buffet style weddings since then. You either need to over cater or restrict the guests to the amount they can take.

Oh wow, that’s definitely a unique approach! 😅 I get wanting everyone to have a fair share, but putting it in an email does feel a bit formal? Maybe they’ve had issues with over enthusiastic buffet goers in the past! 😂

Yes what were the other instructions on the email to the evening guests OP? Then we can get the feel for the couple (tight/controlling is my guess).

Wierd to say that but I have been to events where there was a buffet. They’d call up tables to come help themselves BUT have people pile up their plates that nothing was left for last few tables. Also people going up for seconds before tables got their chance to go up.

having been seated at one of the later tables and got nothing but a bread roll, I do think twice about attending a buffet wedding if it is part of a long day. Short weddings, no problem as we could go elsewhere to eat on way home. Not so it is it late ending,

this may be a worry for them, so much so that they felt the need to try to nip that in the bud.

better way to do that is to hold good back and replenish half way through the tables being called up.

Or give each table a buffet platter.

Then it's fairly obvious-this food is to serve all 8/10 of you.

To you, yes. To some, it's a plate to scoop as much as you can off.

Well yea but anyone at the table can say -oh I think we need to share that at the point it's obvious not huge amounts.

Ie 2 sandwiches each.

I can't imagine anyone saying they are eating it all and rest of the table just saying "so be it"

One assumes it's less obvious on portion size when it's a whole buffet spread for 100 people.

Exactly - on a table very few
people would have the cheek to take more than their share with everyone watching them and leaving them short. They would get called out on it. I refuse to believe people would behave like this

I went to a wedding with an ex....there were 8 of us on the table and some appetizers arrived. There were 8 of them so I mentally said to myself, it's obviously one each. My ex took two...I was mortified and didn't have one so that everyone else could. Awful.

I wouldn’t ask the other guests if they have received the same email. Their answer may be very embarrassing for you.
😉😁😁.

It is awful. I wonder if he knew you’d cover for him? I just wonder what would have happened if everyone was getting their appetisers in turn, he gets 2 so the last person would be like ‘oh there’s none left’ and all eyes go to your Ex with 2 on his plate…I really believe few people have the brass neck to style that one out. But clearly there are a few in the world.

You'd be surprised.

Hahaha 🤣🤣🤣
I did ask some other colleagues and we all got the same email.

Another thing it says is 'bar closes at 12pm. Any requests after this 2ill be refused'.

Genuinely wondering what their families are like 😆

I'd have told him it's one each, loudly and in front of everyone if necessary. That's probably why I'm single though but I wouldn't have quietly missed out just because he is thoughtless and greedy!

I was brought up to always mentally divide the food equally and never take more than my share and it astonishes me when people don't. I've also noticed it quite a bit in relationships, especially when I was young and naive in my 20s. Boyfriends very keen to go 50/50 on a takeaway and when the pizza arrives eat way faster than me and keep going way past half, almost like they were racing me. I've paid for half thanks, I'll keep my half for tomorrow if I don't want it now. It's really unattractive behaviour to feel entitled to more and someone else should get less to accommodate.

How classy!
I can’t imagine having the balls to pre warn your guests to not stuff themselves at your wedding reception, because there’ll be an inadequate amount of food provided.
Rein yourselves in, you fecking gannets. Jesus.

I think it's politely saying it's just evening nibbles so eat beforehand.

Except it’s not a “polite” way of saying that at all.

12pm or 12am? Bar closing at noon is rather alarming!

I think that's very sensible of them. All because some people are pigs.

Just thinking the same thing! 1 drink then sling your hook 😁

They have under catered

Tight buggers

Just to add Ive never been to an Irish wedding and not been stuffed to the gills. Ive been to plenty over the years and a buffet doesnt seem to be a thing like it is in the UK. Always a 4 course sit down meal you can barely move after.

Most recent wedding I attended had canapes and prosecco after the reception, 4 course sit down meal with choice in 3/4 courses, a hot food buffet later that evening with roast meat baguettes freshly prepared and then just in case you hadnt made an absolute pig of yourself, they serve crisp sambos about 2am.

In Ireland food is a massive part of the experience. Ive been to weddings were the food has been fantastic and some where it hasnt been great but quanity has never been an issue. Proper portions for all guests

I can't imagine how much that must end up costing the couple, though. If they can afford it that's great, but I feel some pps are perhaps not taking into account that a lot of people might be having to do things on a budget, especially these days.