Neighbour is a convicted paedophile

[Abitlosttoday]

I have just found out that our close (proximity-wise) neighbour has been given a suspended sentence for looking at peadophilia online. His address, in the news report of court proceedings, is not our street but an address in a different town. However, it is him (there's a clear photo) and he has been living on our street with his partner for at least a year. I saw him a few days ago when he pulled his two dogs out of the way so I could pass with my kids. They're 4 and 7. (The kids, not the dogs!) I don't know what to think. It's a small street. I can see into his living room from mine. It's a small town too. His partner is my SIL's sister's boss. I don't know their names though - that's the level of familiarity. Just because my head is battered with half-term and I am exhausted, aibu to ask what your thoughts would be about this situation. All his crimes were online but some of the images were the worst sort.
We only know because another neighbour has a distant work connection to the guy. He may believe he has some anonymity here. I cried when I heard. I'm angry too. My head hurts, but that may also be because of this endless school break!

Well, partners do.
Clare's Law

Because it will risk managed by the relevant professionals. If someone does a legger they cannot be managed.

Totally understand your feelings, OP. I’d be exactly the same. These filthy, scumbag bastards are everywhere and if it was up to me they’d never be allowed back into society once convicted. Life ruining, despicable pieces of shit.

If one of those things moved in near me, they wouldn’t last the day. I think our local FB group would hear about it and they’d be put in a place where they’d never be a threat to anyone again.

Yes they’re everywhere and yes we don’t know about many (most?) of them as they’ve not been caught. But the ones we do know about, their lives should be made hell forever.

I guess it’s good you know he’s there as knowledge is power. Maybe you won’t be the only one of his face has been in the media.

Then in my opinion the law is wrong! Wouldn't you rather know that a nonce is next door to you so you could keep your children safe? I know I would.

Under certain and risk assessed policies. They are also asked to keep what they learn discreet.

He won’t be breaching. We lived next door to someone who has been sentenced to 5 years in prison for activity with two girls under the age of 12. He served half, we only found out when our other neighbour showed us the news reports.

The police told me that because he wouldn’t ever have unsupervised access to my children there was nothing we could do. His bedroom overlooked our back garden where my children played, I felt like I couldn’t invite their friends round without notifying their parents first. In the end we moved, but the sad fact is there are many of them, and there is nothing stopping them from living in close proximity to children.

Phone the police, ask them, I'm not sure if they are bound to tell you or not.
If you definitely know it's him, you need to tell the other neighbours.
How would you feel if your neighbour knew and didn't tell you.

@Abitlosttoday I will forever be confused as to why some women choose to have relationships with, for example, convicted sex offenders and paedophiles, when any woman will have a selection of normal men to choose from.

Live your life safely, as you always do and don't think of people on the street.

This thread, as per usual, illustrates exactly why this sort of information isn’t publicly accessible. Children should be kept safe as a matter of routine anyway.

It's not nice but better to know he is a paedophile than not know.
At least you can keep away from him and safeguard your children.

I'd be upset too OP, your reaction is completely normal, can't believe the amount of people saying "so what".

As other PPs have said call the non-emergency police number and report his address and how it is different to the one you read in the report. He may have conditions.

I am so sorry you have to worry about this. Sending loves and hope the police contact him even to just let the bastard know he isn't moving around with anonymity. (With an unspoken, there's parents keeping an eye on you, you shitbag.) Xx

They say you are never more than 10 yards from a rat.

There was a convicted paedophile in the same cul-de-sac as a close relative of mine. A teenage boy in the close took his own life - turned out that this man had abused him in the past. It is shocking.

If he is on the sex offenders register then the police should be aware of his correct address. If you have good reason to think that he is not declaring his actual address then you can impart this info anonymously to the police but it is likely that he will still remain there.

I had a carpenter round to mend my decking and my small GC were there at the time. He seemed fine and did a good job. I was asked to recommend someone to do the same by a friend and gave them his details. Friend searched him online and found the reports of his offending in the local paper - he was on the register.

They are everywhere.

are risk managed on a need to know basis

What on earth are you talking about? Convictions are in the public sphere. Many of these convicted men (yes it's nearly always men) are banned from living near schools, or accessing places such as pubs, restaurants, and their own extended family homes, where there may be children present, without informing the police. Is that "driving them underground"?

Nothing really it's the one's you don't know about you need to worry about.

Oh god can we please stop with this nonsense trope. It's all of them we need to worry about.

As the vast majority of sexual convictions aren’t publicised, unless you go and sit in a Court every working day, youwill realise that most never enter the public sphere.

It's always amazing how people are angered and upset when they discover a paedophile living on their street etc but never show the same level of concern or safety when it comes to sharing pictures of their children online.

OP, ask your nearest Police Station for Sarah's Law on your neighbour

If you can see into his living room, presumably he can do the reverse,
Make sure you have voiles/blinds or translucent window coverings, and close curtains when you turn lights on?

Bollocks! My daughters life was ripped apart by a paedophile, he was to have no contact with any of his 3 children(one of which was my 1year old granddaughter) or any of his nieces and nephews, but he went on to father another child in between his first court appearance and his sentencing, luckily he was put in jail for 22months, but he was no risk managed at all and was still allowed to live in the house with his daughter and other children coming and going, obviously my daughter left, but he still had contact with children even though he wasn't supposed to. Risk assessed my fat arse!
Nonces ruin the lives of their families and everyone around them and the law is useless!

Underground, preferably into a coffin. Vile cretins don't deserve air

In America they have Megan’s law which allows people to type in their postcode and shows names addresses and photos of offenders on map. It is common there for people to show their kids the pictures and say don’t go there don’t talk to them. I wouldn’t bother with that myself because you are clearly a vigilant mother and aware how to keep your children safe. Sadly, it so common we are probably all in the vicinity of a paedophile be it through the street we live on, or through work, or religious organisations etc. Statistically the risk to your children is minimal, especially as you know who he is. Continue to educate your children on how to keep themselves safe and continue to parent with safeguarding in mind. No need to sell up and move just be sensible and realise the reality of risk everywhere we go xxx

It's not that difficult surely. OP has seen him around the street for a couple of years before he moved in with his partner a year ago.

Well, actually he can't luckily, because our side of the street is much higher so we look down into the houses opposite.

Just mind your own business. He was dealt with by the authorities. Im sure theyre keeping an eye. No point in starting a witch hunt. Hes got his own troubles. Just keep yourself to yourself.