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To throw my hospital bed neighbour’s phone out the window

189 replies

Sayshesheshe · 26/10/2024 19:48

I won’t be obviously but she has spent the entire day on speaker phone seemingly to every person she’s ever met in her life.

It’s a maternity ward, I’ve slept a total of 0 hours since yesterday in between her and my adorable newborn and my tolerance is at an all time low. We’re both in tonight too and I don’t know how I’m going to survive her. She also has her phone notifications on loud.

Why are people like this?

OP posts:
newhousenewhouse · 26/10/2024 19:49

Talk to the nurses and get moved

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 26/10/2024 19:50

tell her, she may not realise how loud it all is
tho of course she may have a hearing difficulty

buffyspikefaith · 26/10/2024 19:51

There was one in a&e last night, male though
Loud conversations on speaker, every other word was fuck or cunt
Pleasant

CynicalSunni · 26/10/2024 19:51

Tell the nurses and they will tell her to be more considerate. Or at least to turn the loudspeaker off etc.
Or you do the same and see if she complains

Sunshineclouds11 · 26/10/2024 19:52

Agree tell the nurses

ForgettingMeNot · 26/10/2024 19:52

They're midwives not nurses 🤣

Musicaltheatremum · 26/10/2024 19:52

My 92 yo dad was in hospital last weekend. Such a racket with phones and TV s. Managed to get him home thankfully

bellybands · 26/10/2024 19:53

Passed a woman walking down the busy road with her phone on speaker, max volume, and yelling into it. Why. Why are people like this.

Changeyourfuckingcar · 26/10/2024 19:56

Oh don’t!! I had one the same when I was in having my son, FaceTime calls CONSTANTLY. And she was absolutely vile when I asked, very nicely and gently, if she could stop at midnight

BabyCloud · 26/10/2024 19:59

Ask the midwives to tell her to be more considerate.

Congratulation’s on the birth of your baby.

SlowPonies · 26/10/2024 20:02

Why don’t people use phones as phones anymore. Ie holding them to their ear to listen. Laziness? It needs to be made clear how antisocial it is.

GivingitToGod · 26/10/2024 20:03

bellybands · 26/10/2024 19:53

Passed a woman walking down the busy road with her phone on speaker, max volume, and yelling into it. Why. Why are people like this.

And on buses and trains!
I simply don't get it

ReadingInTheRain583 · 26/10/2024 20:05

Congratulations on your little ones arrival 🥰

It seems there's one of these on every ward - I had one too!

Talk to the midwives. If she's annoying you she'll be annoying others. The postnatal ward is hell on earth in general though. I didn't sleep for a week between 3 nights on the induction ward and 4 nights on the postnatal ward. A combo of morphine and sleep deprivation had me hallucinating. I discharged myself against medical advice (my health not baby's) in the end to just get some sleep!

Bellatrixpure · 26/10/2024 20:05

I would hate people to be able to listen into my conversations! Why are people like this?

Please speak to the midwife or health care assistant . You need your rest and this is unfair

floorchid · 26/10/2024 20:05

Mums who have just given birth want to be somewhere calm and quiet and safe. It is so weird the way we have created this loud, bright, stressful environment to spend the first 24 hours with our new babies. I have never felt so hyper-alert and stressed as I was with my newborn on the maternity ward. I felt like a terrified animal who wanted to run and hide.

UpUpUpU · 26/10/2024 20:05

Please ask the midwives to intervene. I am a midwife and I absolutely would ask her to pipe down for you.

Lemonadeand · 26/10/2024 20:08

ForgettingMeNot · 26/10/2024 19:52

They're midwives not nurses 🤣

There are also nurses on maternity wards.Various other healthcare workers as well.

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 26/10/2024 20:08

This is why I paid to have a private room. When dd1 was born I had a huge room to myself, which we paid nor. Second dd was quick, we were home by midnight with a bbq on the go and a glass of wine in hand.

MaloryJones · 26/10/2024 20:09

Why are people like this ?

Arrogance, ignorance and general rudeness OP

For all the good they can do, mobile phones can also be the bane of Mankind

YANBU

Mmhmmn · 26/10/2024 20:11

Tell her!

Can you turn that (bloody) phone down please? It’s really loud.

Sayshesheshe · 26/10/2024 20:11

UpUpUpU · 26/10/2024 20:05

Please ask the midwives to intervene. I am a midwife and I absolutely would ask her to pipe down for you.

That’s good to hear, it feels like such a bad use of their time to get them involved but equally I’m going insane!

it’s also an hour past visiting and she still has guests and over the number we’re allowed.

I want to be home snuggling my baby :(

OP posts:
ElsaLion · 26/10/2024 20:14

Another reason I opted for a homebirth last time and this time!

Congratulations on your new baby! I used to work on a maternity ward, and honestly the best advice I can give is speak to your midwife or MCA. They will be understanding and used to handling these matters sensitively, they will quietly ask her to keep the noise down.

HowFarToBanburyCross · 26/10/2024 20:14

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 26/10/2024 20:08

This is why I paid to have a private room. When dd1 was born I had a huge room to myself, which we paid nor. Second dd was quick, we were home by midnight with a bbq on the go and a glass of wine in hand.

This is all well and good but it's not within the grasp of most people. At the hospital where my DC were born, they haven't done private NHS rooms for years, so if you wanted your own room you had to go across to the private wing at a cost of £1300/night. And even at that eye-watering price there was a waiting list - one of the women in my postnatal bay was up to the midwives' desk every couple hours to ask whether she was first on the list yet!
OP, definitely ask the midwives to tell her to pipe down. If you need to threaten to self-discharge due to her noise, then so be it.

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 26/10/2024 20:17

@HowFarToBanburyCross It was £150 I was willing to part with for the night.

Derrymum123 · 26/10/2024 20:23

I feel your pain, I encountered this too. She repeatedly told each and every contact in her phone the same recount of the birth. Boy, she had so many people she needed to tell.