To throw my hospital bed neighbour’s phone out the window

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I won’t be obviously but she has spent the entire day on speaker phone seemingly to every person she’s ever met in her life.

It’s a maternity ward, I’ve slept a total of 0 hours since yesterday in between her and my adorable newborn and my tolerance is at an all time low. We’re both in tonight too and I don’t know how I’m going to survive her. She also has her phone notifications on loud.

Why are people like this?

Kensington Wing?

I would definitely ask a midwife to intervene.
My local hospital is a bit of a dump, with a relatively new maternity unit. All private ensuite rooms. No wards.
Thank god for that hospital planner.
Congratulations on your baby.

Get the hospital staff to intervene. Say that you are exhausted and you can't deal with this anymore. Some people are just so selfish it's unbelievable !

Agree, I would be so embarrassed that people can hear my conversation!

First of all congratulations on your baby!

I am so sorry. Had a similar situation when I gave birth except it was visitors during the day and phone calls at night. She caught Covid (from one of the legions of visitors?) and so was moved for my second night...

Can you ask to move? Or get a midwife to tell her to get off the phone? Some midwives can be brusque - try to find the most blunt !

good luck xx

Definitely mention to the midwives. This happened when I was in hospital after DD was born. One patient was constantly on the phone on speaker, shouting at her visitors and then to top it all off she snored so loud! Hope you get home with your little one soon

Sorry you are feeling like this! You want to be at home anyway but when you have this going on too it makes it worse. I remember with mine in the day being the time to get some sleep whilst on hospital. I would definitely tell the midwife they will sort it. They don't want you disturbed & agitated. I used to work on maternity wards as a HCA & the staff want a calm chilled environment hence the limited times & amount of visitors. I hope you are home soon in a calm home cuddling your baby sleeping when you can. Congratulations on your new arrival xx

She just may not care!

This is exactly why I discharged myself early from the maternity ward. Some people are so inconsiderate.

Hattie Jacques would've thrown the phone out of the window and told them they're next if they do it again.

I might be showing my age.

Join in the conversation! She'll soon stop...
The mother next to me in hospital played the birth video to all her many visitors with sound on. I still can't forgive or forget a decade later.

Why are you still in? Tell the staff if it's for rest and recuperating you best off going home. I spent nye in one year. Staff woke us up at midnight. Next morning the woman opposite got 12 visitors. One pulling a hamper of food and champagne.. I discharged myself and took dd home. Bonkers...

No point doing the same, some people really think that’s the only way to have a call, and don’t get annoyed by others. That said, I’m totally with you, this uncivil behaviour is crap

Ask to move! Ask for a private room if you can. I moved with my first and only one of the person in the room and with my second said I'd only stay in if I had a private room, they obliged.

If you can't sleep and you're able (I don't know the reason you're still in) discharge yourself. I was in 2 nights with both but I found out after my second that I could have had my catheters at home (bladder complications both times). This is dependent on your baby being discharged too of course.

Ask her. Ask the staff. Don’t just sit there in silence for hours on end. It’s crap OP, I’m sorry. People can be so inconsiderate. Don’t be British about it though, at least try.

Have you used your words to ask her to put earbuds in/turn speakerphone off? Or if you really can’t face it, ask a member of staff of your behalf? Or are you just taking to MN in the hope it will get sorted?

I self discharged and when they were giving me grief as my baby wasn't feeding well I said I'd come back the next day for her, they didn't like that either.

I was 60+ hours, given both to a very large baby, had been incorrectly looked after post delivery that caused damage and had 2 hours sleep and at 2am was still wide awake.

We went home, I gave formula, we both slept for 6 hours and then I could face dealing with a baby that wasn't feeding properly (meconium swallowed plus tongue tie).

So annoying. That's a major part of the reason I had my baby at home. I didn't want to share a room and bathroom with a stranger after just having gone through labour and learning to look after a new baby.

Maternity wards are the absolute pits for this reason.

Congratulations on the birth of your little
one.
i can completely empathise with how you’re feeling - please speak to the nurses. If that didn’t work I’d hide it and put it on silent when she goes to the toilet and pretend to be asleep! I probably wouldn’t dare to do that but I know what being at the end of your tether feels like.
I’ve just had a pack from the hospital in preparation for my upcoming operation and it explicitly states that phones must be on silent as patients should be respectful of each other.

Incredible that someone thinks YABU!! Congratulations on your new baby. I hope you get some sleep 😴

I had someone singing at the top of their voice in another language. When I had my next baby I made sure I went home quickly! I’d ask to be moved or sent home if possible!

This is one of the things that needs to be fixed in the NHS.

Phone on silent, no loud conversations.

it will improve it unmeasurably at no cost at all.

FWIW the last time I was in hospital (not maternity) I heard and saw the chap in the next bed be resuscitated and die. I cried. No one should have to hear their neighbours.

When I was in hospital last month I spent a night sleeping on the day room floor - it was that or kill the woman in the bed next to me. 5 or 6 visitors round the bed from 9am to 11pm and then phone calls til 2am. It was like torture.