To throw my hospital bed neighbour’s phone out the window

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I won’t be obviously but she has spent the entire day on speaker phone seemingly to every person she’s ever met in her life.

It’s a maternity ward, I’ve slept a total of 0 hours since yesterday in between her and my adorable newborn and my tolerance is at an all time low. We’re both in tonight too and I don’t know how I’m going to survive her. She also has her phone notifications on loud.

Why are people like this?

This is the world we live in: all
about me, me and me. Entitled and selfish is an understatement.

I had this issue, initially I went in and spoke to her, it was 10pm and it was meant to be no loud phones after 9pm, and she was so unbelievably rude to me. So I called for a midwife who reiterated what I had said and she was quiet after that.

I really think hospitals need to implement new rules around phones in hospital. The amount of times iv seen people on tiktok lives in hospital is disgusting no respect for others privacy.

Awful, just awful. You poor thing. I would have to say something though ... I couldn't seethe in silence!
Sympathy

Oh god- I had one of those when in A&E with DD last week. Calling everyone he knew to f and blind about how shit the NHS were and how they didn’t care about his broken ribs- he was literally in A&E because the GP wouldn’t give him anything stronger for the pain for ribs that he’d broken a week ago falling off his ( probably illegal) escooter. When he discharged himself was almost a mythical “and then everybody cheered” moment.

So do I

I had a minor Op and some women was blithering on loudly next to me. I did complain to nurse. I don't want to hear it .stfu or send a text

It used to be that you weren't allowed to use a phone and there were notices around the waiting areas

The post natal ward is a place from hell. The woman in the next bed to me was constantly shouting!!! at her newborn and calling the midwives in every 2 seconds saying why is he crying, why is he always hungry, why does he want to cuddle me… It was horrific.

I bet you've perked the OP big time with this comment. Well done.

Did you ask for a private room ? This is what we did .

Just out of interest, is the paying per night for a private room in NHS hospitals? Just incase I ever have another baby… which I won’t… maybe 🤣

They are still nurses lol.

Could be cleaners tbf - skeleton staff and all that. Not sure how many people are actually qualified these days on wards

Midwives in Ireland are qualified nurses too....
Is this not the case in the UK?

Another midwife here and yes absolutely tell the staff. I have no problems telling others to lower the volume or take the conversation out of the bay area so you are not disturbed.
Other peoples lack of awareness never fails to amaze me.

This is me so I never take offence but thank you for thinking of us ☺️ If someone is rude or unpleasant about it i just say "Sorry I'm quite deaf and didnt realise" with a smile they generally are a bit politer then. When on phones and need to volume up I use headphones, basic curtesy. Midwives nurses etc. Never mind waiting the few seconds it takes for my hearing aids to kick in when I take them out. If someone points out I'm being loud then it's taken at face value and an effort is made to to quieter. I had similar issue with a woman in the word while we were in labour. My mother and sisters really didn't need to hear all about her labour induction etc. But they did anyway even my headphones were picking bits up 🙈
I wasn't too bothered, just turned her off but am aware myself not everyone has that luxury 🤣

Why does the OP have to ask a midwife to intervene though? Don’t midwives have ears themselves? Surely they can hear this? Or are they too busy cackling at each other down the corridors and banging doors in the middle of the night?
OP these wards are absolutely awful. It’s the worst and most disgraceful part of NHS maternity ‘care’.

I'm in UK was RGN prior to training for midwifery. All our students are on uni degree pathway for midwifery only.

Ask her if she forgot her earphones...

Can relate. With my 1st, there was this crazy that had to sleep with the TV on booming all night. She had numerous loud visitors and loud phone conversations. It was BAD! I hope you go home soon!

My neighbor was like this too, by the time she left (two nights) I pretty much knew a lot about her life and the people in it. Knew where she lived, where her husband was originally from, what she thought about her mil (once he had left) and literally all sorts. She also kept calling her newborn 'little pwincess' which set my teeth on edge. I hate confrontation so I quietly seethed but wish I had spoken to the midwives to tell her to pack it in.

OK for what it's worth I don't cackle down corridors or go about banging doors and I do permanent nights for over 20 years now.
I often ask ladies to turn their phone convos down their music/videos off in the middle of the night as others are trying to sleep.
Patients in hospital often have no respect for others around them. I'm including the fathers in that scenario too.

Not everyone can do this, you realise?

You've rekindled bad memories for me. I'm going back 29 years, well before most people had a mobile phone. In hospital in well rough area of Manchester with precious first born. The woman in the bed was unable to walk, I think due to an epidural.
Well, she spent the whole night effing and blinding at the top of her voice.....Bring me a f cigarette you f b. All night. No-one brought the cigarettes and no-one attempted to shut her up. Nightmare.

I had my last baby over 25 years ago and there was a lot of noise at night on the post-natal ward, albeit almost all unavoidable (midwife checks done quietly, help for the woman who'd had a section, babies crying), but nothing like this new hell.

Surely they should just have rules: all phones etc to be used with earphones, max 2 visitors with limited visiting hours and no calls between 9pm and 7am because new mothers all need rest and quiet.