But he wanted it.

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Just been away with another family consisted of mum, dad and 16 year old son.
We cooked breakfast each morning before going out for the day. (Me, dp, my 2 year old)

Im the only one who doesn’t eat meat. So I bought some hash browns, potato cakes, beans & toast . Heaven!

last day, sausages, bacon, fried bread, beans and toast for everyone. I had one potato cake left.
i was busy making coffee for everyone, put cups in front of everyone then sat down for my breakfast.

They left me a spoonful of beans, all toast was gone and my last remaining potato cake was upon the 16 year olds plate under 3 sausages, 5 rashers of bacon, 2 slices of toast and a pile of beans.

One spoonful of fucking beans. No bread left for toast.

So! WWYD?

He is 16 and took food from the shared plate at the middle of the table. He is guilty of fancying a potato cake and not realising that that one piece had been silently and invisibly pencilmarked.

The OP's vegetarianism is important for her and others respect it by not offering her meat. It is rather self centred to expect everyone to think about her dietary preferences while enjoying their breakfast instead, when all what is needed is to put her breakfast on her own plate.

I'd have leapt across the table and lamped Kevin right in his greedy teenage gob. Pushing him to the floor I'd have shoved the potato cake through his now broken teeth and then inserted that beans one by one up his nostrils until he cried them out of his selfish little eyes. Then I'd stand up, wipe the bean juice on my hands onto his dad's bald head, look back at Kevin and say "hope you enjoyed your full English" whilst cracking my knuckles and lifting my sleeve to reveal my tattoo of a bulldog wearing a St George's Cross waistcoat.

Had a mate called Kevin who was a greedy bastard. They do tend to be.

Yes teens can be greedy and selfish, that's why the parents should be watching to make sure he doesn't eat all the food . Sounds like they are just as bad though

Next time? Why would op go away with these people again?

Of course, she has a choice. She can drop the friendship over this, even if majority of the holiday went absolutely ok. Or, she can just take care of her own food preferences (putting things on her plate) to prevent the awkward situation.

Yes! I exclaimed “oh!! Is that all you have all left me with? A spoon full of beans? Where’s my potato cake & toast?”
They all stopped eating, looked at me and yes.. said “but he wanted it”. I shit you not.
Probably very rude of me but I followed that with “ well that’s alright then isn’t it, if he wants it leaving me with nothing when he has a pile on his plate”.
I asked him directly, did he not think that I might want at least something to eat for my breakfast??? He just shrugged and stuffed it in his greedy gob.

It's always easier to think of a response later but sticking to the facts can be good in situations like this. "Yes but I also have to eat. It's not ok to take all the food while someone is still serving up and not able to get any (I get the impression the vegetarian thing is not the main issue though I appreciate it limits your options). Can you work out a way I can also eat breakfast this morning please as you have eaten my share?" Pass it back to them with a direct request to resolve the problem that they created.

Did they literally leave you one spoonful of beans? Like 10 beans or so? If you're not exaggerating I'd add "What has been left for me is the scrapings of one bowl while you are eating extra portions of everything. Perhaps you didn't notice as you were filling your plate but I am hungry."

i was busy making coffee for everyone

That's your problem.

As in We are not men's rehabilitions units.

Even if the OP wasn't vegetarian, there still wasn't enough breakfast left for her.

So it wasn't just that all the vegetarian food had been taken, pretty much all the food had been taken.

She just hadn't been considered at all.

The number of people the breakfast was for, it shouldn't have been that difficult to have a rough idea of what a fair share looked like and also to notice that not everyone has been served before finishing it off.

Taking all the vegetarian food is just an extra layer of inconsideration

It was already unreasonable without that factor

People generally do need teaching to consider others. Clearly his parents haven’t taught him not to take all the food without checking everyone else has enough first.

The choice does not need to be that extreme at all. But I would not holiday with people who are ok with me having no food. They would be perhaps people to do casual things with. They are not considerate enough to spend prolonged times with though.

If in doubt, you hold back until everyone is sitting down and has some food on their plate.

Jesus, this isn't complicated.

Why do so many people struggle so much with basic manners?

To be honest as a vegetarian this happens to me quite often. Friends and family fancy a share of the veggie stuff forgetting that's all I can have.

I'd agree with you if it was a repeated occurrence or if there were any other issues.

Given it wasn't a problem until the last breakfast it seems there was something different on the last day (like a lack of bread), and people failed to realise that difference in time.

Sure, you would do that for a one -off occasion.

In this case there was a series of previous breakfasts which were ok, so it seems they just failed to realise something was different on the last day.

That is the problem to me. I canteen a teen not being considerate. I have an issue with his parents allowing it,but would maybe let that slide once. What us absolutely ok here is "he wanted it".

That clearly says so fuck that you are hungry, that you and dp did cooking and coffee making, my entitled brat of a teen matters more. I will not be teaching him how to be considerate, or how to adult. I will allow him to think he is the centre of the universe. I will raise another twat of a man for women to complaint about here, because he has no idea of manners, consideration etc. All he will know is that his wants trump all other factors.

I would never go away with them again. I have a ds8, I am working my ass off to teach him better. I would be looking out now and questioning if my belief system and that of these "friends" is compatible.

I have friends from different walks of life, different political persuasion etc. I can tolerate, and respect loads of diversity. None are selfish dicks though.

This really gets me. If there are say 4 sausages and 4 people, you clearly take one sausage. Same with toast etc. If everyone has had one and there are others, communication is vital. "Does anyone else want more sausage/toast etc? Happy to split one?"

If there is one item, on a shared plate and one person with a specific diet, it is so self-explanatory that, again, this is a checking situation. "Is that potato bread for someone? If not, I would like to try A BIT" because why would anyone presume that one item would be all theirs.

It is not the teen's fault he is a greedy, selfish twat. He has not been taught properly. I would lose respect for his parents if I was met with anything like "he wanted it".

@Snugglemonkey I got the impression one of them was her own son. So presumably these are her close family/friends and it would seem foolish to never socialise with them again over a breakfast.

Don't be ridiculous.

There was a plate containing toast, hash browns and one potato cake and the three greedy pigs hoovered the whole lot up before the person who had cooked for them and the person who was making their coffee had even served themselves.

Even the OP's DH had to share one measly piece of toast with their DD.

Who the hell does that?

Even if you'd been a bit overenthusiastic when serving yourself, any reasonable person would see that the OP and her DH had hardly anything to eat and say, "Shit, sorry, I've taken too much, here, do you want some of what's on my plate?"

But no, the parents went with, "But he wanted it!" when what they should have said was, "Kevin! Put some of that back, you greedy pig!"

it was under meat—quite inconsiderate

They were another couple with their teenage son. Not the OP's son. The OP has a toddler.

It's what it says about their attitude that is the problem here. They were completely unapologetic about it. I definitely wouldn't be keen to repeat the experience with them.

@MissScarletInTheBallroom ah, ok sorry. I misinterpreted that part. But I still wouldn't stop hanging out with them. I'd just cook my own food. Or make sure we eat out when meeting up.

this makes me bananas It happens to me all the time too. i wish places would order less meat and more vegetarian options since they so often order just the minimum for vegetarians and then put it out where others decide that’s what they want. i am a teacher and travel with a team and this happens ALL THE TIME. it is so wasteful, thoughtless, and selfish

I wouldn't be keen to hang out with them again because the experience would tell me that we don't have the same values. If they can be this inconsiderate about breakfast and not even apologise, there will be other things.

I'd rather spend my time with people I don't have to watch closely for signs of impending cheeky fuckery.

🤣 absolutely howling at the vision of this! Brilliant!!