But he wanted it.

[Brandnewskytohangyourstarsupon]

Just been away with another family consisted of mum, dad and 16 year old son.
We cooked breakfast each morning before going out for the day. (Me, dp, my 2 year old)

Im the only one who doesn’t eat meat. So I bought some hash browns, potato cakes, beans & toast . Heaven!

last day, sausages, bacon, fried bread, beans and toast for everyone. I had one potato cake left.
i was busy making coffee for everyone, put cups in front of everyone then sat down for my breakfast.

They left me a spoonful of beans, all toast was gone and my last remaining potato cake was upon the 16 year olds plate under 3 sausages, 5 rashers of bacon, 2 slices of toast and a pile of beans.

One spoonful of fucking beans. No bread left for toast.

So! WWYD?

I'm the family vegetarian and have got used to my food being taken if its put out with the rest, hence I start my plate off in the kitchen and guard it. With my life.

I am evil if I've cooked and the only food I can eat gets shared when there is far less of it!

If you was that desperate for the potato cake why didn't you keep it to the side for yourself or not serve it with everything else.
You can't blame people for taking food if it's a free for all.

Most considerate people would realise the OP was vege and keep the potato cake and other vege food for her. Decent humans don’t need to be told.

I came here to say this too. Your cooking everything why has your dh not thought of you and dished it up?? That’s the first thing mine would of done

Ahhh great, they are raising another entitled little git for the world, just what we need lol
go out tomorrow and get yourself a nice meal on your own to make up for it xx

Why should her dp have done while sorting out the toddler when the OP could have done it herself before making coffee? And her dp barely got any food himself so it's not like he was putting himself first.

It's really only a free for all if the diners in question are all pigs, or puppies or something.

No reasonable, considerate people will help themselves to ALL the available suitable foods and leave one friend to go hungry!

Your husband not setting yours aside and instead putting it out in a communal plate without explicit instructions as to what was yours, always had the potential to end in disaster.

But the parents not apologising and the son not being at least contrite or apologetic is most unpleasant.

Just to clarify your points:

The churros in Spain are big and long not like the pieces you find in the Uk, but that’s a different story for another day.

Since everyone knew they had finished their pieces it was obvious that the ones left on the table were from someone who didn’t finish their portion. In this case, mine.

In the height of winter there are no flies and to be fair I have never in my life put leftover churros in the fridge, they go hard and stale and the chocolate would have been fine too, as the CF didn’t get the shits 😂.

When I left them on the table I said that I would have them in the morning. I didn’t think I would need to lick them to claim them.

And for your last point, I have the suspicion that he knew that if he was to ask I would have said that I was going to eat them, as it should have been in the first place.

Some pictures of the chocolate and the churros. Mind the huge ones are porras. These are what we had, but to simplify I said churros as it is essentially the same only thicker and longer

YANBU the little shit I would have got more potato cakes though.

And the other one

I would have said outright, oh I see there's nothing for me to eat.
If you are not blunt nobody cares about you or your needs. It's taken me years to get this way though. Years of tolerating other people's selfishness.

If you were all sharing food and your DP ate meat the others had brought, then you should have brought enough potato cakes to share. Sounds like they were expected to share their food but you didn’t want to share yours. So I don’t see they did anything wrong tbh.

Plus, it was one potato cake, you’ll live! Hardly worth a drama about it.

Because that's how the greedy little fucker put it on his plate?

I am confused.

They brought meat for everyone (including your DH). You brought non-meat for everyone. Ok, fine.

In the same time, you are planning one potato cake for yourself a day and "cherished" the last one. So were there any potato cakes planned for the others (during the stay) or were all of them yours?

It sounds like a bad planning, maybe forgetting that omnivores don't want to eat meat all the time (I'd get sick eating bacon and sausages every day and I really love potato).

Yes, it wasn't right that nothing was left for you, but in this situation it would be much safer to mention that everything is nearly eaten, and not much bread left, so it is time for some rationing, and there is just one potato cake left, so you need to claim it today as your breakfast.
Expecting everyone to silently count pieces is weird.

I'd have laughed then brought out my secret stash.

It's not hard to count to one, which is how many potato cakes there were.

It's also not hard to count to zero, which is how many meat free options were on the plate after they had finished helping themselves.

Yes. You should have gone to a cafe for breakfast and left them all to it.

He 16 and you're an adult. I don't know why you didn't tell him that he had been extremely selfish, that he needed to be considerate of making sure there a enough for everybody, that the food on his plate needed to be divided up more fairly, and set about taking it off his plate. And woe betide if his parents did anything other than support me.

Because the op - like many of us - has appropriate social skills and would start removing food off the plate of a friend's child and issuing threats?

He's 16 and being a greedy oik. Darn right that's what I'd do if his parents weren't parenting him appropriately enough to have done it themselves.

Yes, it isn't hard to count the results once the topic is mentioned.
However, it isn't reasonable to expect everyone to count slices of bread, counting how many is ok to take and policing their teen. Especially if people don't start eating all at the same time, or don't know whether everything is on the table or more bread is being toasted still, it becomes impossible.

If the OP's family was cooking the breakfast that day and noticed shortage, it was weird to not mention anything and than be sour that others didn't notice for themselves.

And I still don't understand cherishing the potato cake. It is just cruel to put a potato cake on a shared plate in the middle for everyone to see, but expect everyone to restrain themselves from eating it.

Okay, @Brandnewskytohangyourstarsupon , you were away from your kitchen, so you can be forgiven for buying potato cakes.

HOWEVER, if you are a true lover of 'potato cakes' - I assume you mean Rösti?! - you want to try the real thing. Or at least the BBC Food version thereof...

https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/potato-rosti-cakes-sage-leaves

@ThatAgileGoldMoose but you understand that other people aren't you? That you've read the thread with a range of opinions and still can't understand why people might approach this different from you should give you pause to reflect on your black and white thinking rather than laying into the OP.