But he wanted it.

[Brandnewskytohangyourstarsupon]

Just been away with another family consisted of mum, dad and 16 year old son.
We cooked breakfast each morning before going out for the day. (Me, dp, my 2 year old)

Im the only one who doesn’t eat meat. So I bought some hash browns, potato cakes, beans & toast . Heaven!

last day, sausages, bacon, fried bread, beans and toast for everyone. I had one potato cake left.
i was busy making coffee for everyone, put cups in front of everyone then sat down for my breakfast.

They left me a spoonful of beans, all toast was gone and my last remaining potato cake was upon the 16 year olds plate under 3 sausages, 5 rashers of bacon, 2 slices of toast and a pile of beans.

One spoonful of fucking beans. No bread left for toast.

So! WWYD?

Would anyone ACTUALLY say this? Seriously?

Some of these suggestions are absolutely batshit.

In the real world, people deal with situations like this in a normal way, like normal people, without "forking it off his plate" or "just tipped the selfish little shit's entire plate onto his lap."

Any of these insane reactions would make a good MN thread though, so crack on.

I would have taken it off his plate and thrown it in the bin before I let him eat it. Greedy git…and his parents are worse for letting him.

WHO has voted YABU…and why?!

don't be pathetic. I can do exactly as i please, and have explained more than once here that i don't put up with a millionth of the shit that a lot of you take.

If the parents of the 16 year old glutton aren't teaching him, then i will in that scenario.

You do you.

What a bunch of arses. I am the veggie here and have started to point out I need something leaving for me. Especially if there's a mixed pile of stuff and everyone likes the veggie more.
I'm glad you said something. The teen should have been told too. Mine is thoughtless and can be selfish as heck but would have have the grace to apologise and I'd have sent him out for bread for more toast for you at the very least.

YWNBU to be royally pissed off at the teen and his useless parents.

However, as your husband was the cook, he WBVU not to have plated yours up separately and then put the rest out for a communal free for all.

I would always expect anyone with specific dietary needs to have their meal plated before anything is put out for communal consumption.

Lesson learnt for both you and your husband.

When you are home, be as selfish with him as he was you.

I'm raging for you. How bloody selfish and unkind.

i also don't think there's enough ire being directed at the DH here too.

In reality i wouldn't have been in that position anyway, and nor would my DH have left it up to other people to ensure that we all got a fair share. None of my friends or their children, not even the gigantic 18 year old rugby playing twins we went camping with one time, would have pigged all the food like that.

Not much you can do really apart from lesson learnt and no more holidays with them.

Yanbu teens can be self absorbed but it’s the parents job to teach them to think of others if they are too daft to do so for
themselves. Appalling parenting there.

@Hardroad

whats the “normal” way? To laugh in a simpering way and say ‘boys will be a boys’ with a wry shrug, (suppress your feelings and then just be hungry)

tbh this place can be totally batshit about talking to other people's children. I would never have put up with this and spoken directly to the 16 year old. I would have used words like fair, greedy, selfish and unbelievable.

Why would that be normal? Can you only think in extremes? Can you literally not imagine a response that is neither batshit or this rubbish? Jeez.

I’m glad you raged at them op but you lost me a bit when you said your family cooked breakfast every day and you were making coffees for everyone when potato-cake-gate happened. Why were you doing all of that? And why didn’t you put yours aside on another plate - especially if you knew it was the last one?

I’m 30+ years a veggie and I always set aside my food and go in first when it’s communal catering. I’ve learned the hard way in the past that other selfish fuckers don’t give a flying fuck that you don’t eat meat - they’ll have yours in a heartbeat.

I would also never go away with that selfish cunt family ever again.

@Hardroad

go on then, enlighten me…

Who cares? Being an adult about it doesn't get you your breakfast back.

WWYD?

I’d say ‘Oi, you fat bastards, any left for me?? I know I’m a veggie but I’m still allowed to eat. I’ve got the grand sum of 28 baked beans here FFS!! Alright to nick this toast? (I’d take it) and this potato cake (I’d take it). Deary me! I’d bloody starve if left with you lot too long!!

Feel free to enlighten us as to how the OP should have responded in a way that got the point across that the greedy little bastard had eaten all her breakfast and none of the adults had thought to stop him.

So DH cooked the breakfast then helped his toddler, looked up to find the others had eaten pretty much everything! Bloody rude.

Next time there are any plans for a meal together, or a holiday together, tell them absolutely not as you’d be left to starve again.

You actually need me to do this?

How about something like: "That's mine. I've got nothing to eat now. Nip out and buy bread before you eat that, yeah?

But the suggestions of chucking a plate of food all over someone, while screaming abuse in their face, seems to fly better here, so whatever works for you I guess.

None of that is my normal but if it's yours, then you do you, as they say.

You're right. Swearing, verbal abuse and chucking food is definitely the best way forward.

Your normal is not mine.

I assume it's the other family 🤷‍♀️

How do you suggest the OP forces a 16 year old with no money to "nip out and buy bread" when his actual parents saw no problem with his behaviour?

The adult response in this situation would have been for his parents to say, "Oh gosh, SO sorry, we completely forgot you are vegetarian and can't eat the meat. Can you take the potato cake and toast off his plate or is it contaminated now? Oh dear, how can we make this up to you? Kevin, it was incredibly greedy of you to take all the food and not leave any for @Brandnewskytohangyourstarsupon, please apologise."

But that wasn't within the OP's control.

And you think they'd actually put their fork down and go out and buy some bread and then come back and reheat their breakfast, if they're the kind of inconsiderate prick who takes all the food/lets their offspring take all the food without a thought to anyone else?

No, they'd just smirk and keep on eating and then make out you're being over sensitive and suggest if you're really that hungry you can go and buy some bread yourself, as if you're the unreasonable one to be hungry in the first place.

Whereas my way (and no this isn't hyperbole, I have actually done it), they'd have to stop eating as they'd have no breakfast and would need to get changed. Might give them time to reflect on their awful behaviour.

Whatever, have a great evening!