12 year old dd reads for pleasure for on average an hour at. Aibu to think this is the norm?

[Cheezepizza]

BTW this is not a boasting post. I know more kids will read much more, I'm just asking out of curiosity as I would like her reading more now that winter is coming in.

So what’s your plans op? To force her to read for pleasure? I think an hour is plenty if that’s what she wants to do. I think I read loads as a kid/teen and I still do. However if I was told I must I know what I would have done. Don’t make something enjoyable into something forced and fake.

Instead, you could find out her favourite authors, ask her about her reading, chat about different authors you used to read, get her involved and talking about her reading, visit the library or second hand book stores, showing interest and support of her will go much further than saying you only read x much you must read more, and NO idea what winter has to do with it.

Oh yes I was the same. I read SKs Desperation when I was 12. I used to love Fridays after school I'd get into bed and read until the early hours!

8 year old DS reads at least 1hr a day WITH me...i.e next to me in bed, but he reads his and I read mine...but then he reads graphic novels through all meal times like Dog Man/Loshkin type books ...still common for kids to read but it's not going to be relaxing for everyone, just as many adults don't choose to read for pleasure.

Both my children read. But I’m not on here going - ooohhhh look they read is THAT normal? Or are they ever speshal?? Is EVERY day too little, with winter approaching, should it be 8’days a week???

What are you talking about, are you making up replies? No one's jealous of a random person they have no idea is telling the truth

Bitter? FFS 😂

I haven't read the other posts and I don't intend to.

This is 100% boasting post.

Don't turn her reading into a chore or an extension of her homework. Let her read what she wants when she wants.
Why do you think she ought to read more in the winter? I think it would be more beneficial to encourage her to sign up for a badminton or netball club one evening a week during the winter. Note I say encourage.
A love of reading is a great thing. Apart from the obvious knowledge gained, to have a book (well, Kindle nowadays) in your bag means you are never lonely.

It's not a lot for a reader.

It's quite a lot for someone who hates reading.

I read on average for more than three hours a day. I would be surprised if DH has read for pleasure for 3 hours this year.

DD1 usually reads for about an hour each evening but if she's really into a series she'll do 7 hours straight at a weekend. DSS reads maybe one book a year. They've all had equal access to books and reading but it depends on their personalities as to how engaged they are with it 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Cheezepizza how much do you read daily? An hour a day is hugely impressive in my opinion. I work as a Learning Support Assistant and mark the class reading records. Out of a class of 30, only about 4 even read daily. Our expectation is 15 mins at least 3 times a week.

I would relax and be proud. Perhaps you could create your own book club and share books?

Shamefully, I dont think my 12yo ds has read a book this year.

At her age, I had to be dragged away from my books like some teens now have to be dragged away from their phones 😂 My brother read a lot, too. We both still do.

It depends on the kid. Pointless to try and 'get her' to read more by any means other than leaving books she'd like around the house. Or you could buy her a Kindle and a gift voucher. Or ask her if she'd like a trip to the library. Don't tell her to read more, though!

Normal for an average day for a kid that likes books. Some days more if they have more time or can't put it down.

I read more than that when I was 12. My 9 year old reads about an hour a day. Nobody cares. Yes you are boasting.
Winter has nothing to do with reading.

DS stopped all reading at secondary. Any reading is great. I think a lot of children avoid reading GCSE texts if they can tbh

Why do you care, OP?

Some kids love reading. Some like it well enough. Others would rather watch paint dry. It doesn't really matter either way.

I was a huge reader as a child. Read for hours and hours and would often get quite put out when I was called to eat dinner or do anything that would force me to put down the book for a few minutes. I recognise now that it was probably adhd hyperfocus that made me like that, but at the time, I was just described as a bookworm.

My dsis wasn't interested in books and could rarely be arsed to get to the end of one if she could even be bothered to start. It just wasn't her thing, and she preferred to spend time playing her musical instrument instead.

So I read loads and she didn't read at all. It hasn't made the slightest bit of difference to either of us...we have had extremely similar levels of academic success, career success etc, and I'd say we're equally happy as adults.

Reading is a joy for those people who find it a joy. For those who don't, there are other ways of enjoying their free time that are equally valid. Don't get too hung up on it!

That’s probably about how much I read at her age. I don’t think it’s unusual but I was quite into reading compared to my friends so I think it’s a bit more than average. I would love to read for an hour a day now but it’s more difficult to fit it around adult responsibilities.

Don't worry OP. Give it a couple of years and they'll be starting their GCSEs - they'll never want to read for pleasure ever again!

My 8yo reads about 2 hours a day. I'm being serious. He wakes up and reads for about 45min then reads while having breakfast, gets home and reads to relax, goes to bed with a book. New books are such a treat for him. I was exactly like that and still love reading. Some kids love it and some don't. I wouldn't say either is better or worse.

DD1 has always read loads. Even now she's older she'd happily spend the whole day reading. DD2 not so much, probably less than an hour a day, unless it's a book about a subject she loves (she hates fiction). DS is younger, nowhere near 12 at the moment he likes looking at certain books but if you try to read to him he shuts the book and runs away so not convinced he's going to love books later in life.

At that age I'd read for 5+ hours a day on a school day for pleasure.
DS age 14 reads about 1 hour a year if it's a physics book.

And yes your post is a humble brag 😆

Such a stealth brag. I’m sure you know that on average most people of any age don’t read that much. Contrarily I’m going to say I think it’s a bit much. I think outside of school kids should be more active and social - eg laying sports doing activities or hanging out with friends and reading for an hour a day sounds a bit excessive to me

I don’t think there’s a norm, some children will read more and some less …

I must admit to being completely baffled by my niece who is six and a half and a brilliant reader for her age does she ever pick up a book unless she is told to read her school book nope not interested I can't understand it. I was a very early reader and have always loved books and reading my daughter struggled to read but once it clicked she was off and at nearlyb30 loves reading I don't get it She likes drawing TV tablet has numerous books which are read to her every night we have tried Enid Blyton roal Dahl etc etc nope she will not pick one up even a basic book but she reads fluently and spells well as well always gets 10 out of 10 for spellings
Not sure if it's a sign of the times but it's such a shame and rather frustrating!! I'm not giving up though I will continue to buy her books even if we continue to read them to her she will only have a book red to her at bedtime though!!

Surely you know this is not 'the norm', but not completely unusual either.

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Happened to me - took a few years to get back into it!