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To see this offender as a “criminal first” as opposed to a child?

155 replies

cofefefela · 19/10/2024 11:53

I was robbed last week by some disgusting male who had been following me, he threatened to kill me, ignored me begging him not to etc. The absolute waste of oxygen’s movements could then be followed as some of my stolen electronics had tracking. This twat not only kept returning to the scene of the crime, he ended up robbing someone else there days later!

He has now been arrested. There’s CCTV footage of him committing the crime so he’s been charged and it’s gone to court. He’s had the audacity to plead not guilty and I found out he’s a youth defendant. There will be a trial next year, and my stolen property has not been recovered.

This has made me annoyed as he’ll likely end up with a slap on the wrist as he’s a “child”, although he had no problem committing such serious crimes repeatedly and showing zero remorse throughout. Aibu? I feel like he should be tried as an adult, he’s a danger to society.

OP posts:
OonaStubbs · 20/10/2024 21:12

Just lock them up to keep law-abiders safe.

Lavender14 · 20/10/2024 21:19

whynotwhatknot · 20/10/2024 19:38

if they dont admit guilt how can they be rehabilitated-im with you op

an look at bloody venables kills as a child still offending

There's a difference between not admitting guilt in court because you're worried about the consequences and doing it because you don't care about the person you've harmed though. Rehabilitation takes time and work and intervention... someone might not care at the point of sentencing but that doesn't mean that they couldn't be worked with to help them see that they should care and why and to actually let that feeling in which for a lot of young offenders is actually really daunting as healthy emotion for many of them is seen as weakness growing up. Especially since a disproportionate number will have come through the care system and been abused/ neglected themselves.

WhatsInTheRug · 20/10/2024 21:20

OonaStubbs · 20/10/2024 21:12

Just lock them up to keep law-abiders safe.

It needs to be done properly and be appropriate

Naunet · 20/10/2024 21:56

Redruns · 19/10/2024 14:44

You're not listening. Why do you want revenge, rather than a system that would reduce these kinds of offences?. It's not about him or you, but about society as a whole.

Revenge? What a nasty, manipulative way to frame it. It’s called justice, we’re meant to be entitled to it.

OP, I’m so sorry you went through that, it’s an Awful thing to go through and disgusting that he can get off so lightly. I hope you’re getting some therapy or other support to help process it.

OonaStubbs · 21/10/2024 00:49

The main purpose of prison is to keep law-breakers locked up away from law-abiders. Any "rehabilitation" that occurs is great, but that's not what prison is for.

WhatsInTheRug · 21/10/2024 00:58

But 'prison' is only a small part of a custodial sentence

Large part of a sentence is served out in the community on licence, tag whatever is deemed suitable.

WhatsInTheRug · 21/10/2024 01:04

OonaStubbs · 21/10/2024 00:49

The main purpose of prison is to keep law-breakers locked up away from law-abiders. Any "rehabilitation" that occurs is great, but that's not what prison is for.

Prison is for public protection and to educate an support to stop reoffending

It's for both

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 21/10/2024 01:46

I want to know where all this rehabilitation is happening because I’m not seeing it as the court round ups are showing all the same suspects nearly every 3-6 months some 9 months but you get the picture

is it because it takes a lot longer the 3-9 months to get into a programme as there is wait list because there is no money.

I’m also thinking the court case won’t be heard till he's 18 and he could be looking at jail time here but it’ll be most likely a short sentence till he reoffends again which he may well do.

cofefefela · 21/10/2024 07:17

Thanks everyone. I wouldn’t be surprised if he is close to 18 - I thought he was around 18-20.

I hope the subsequent robbery on someone else after he attacked me counts against him regardless. I’m not sure how that works from a court perspective. As in, if he will be trialled for a series of robberies or if it will be separated out. I suppose if it is separated out, the first offence can be used as possible bad character evidence due to a relevant conviction for the second offence.

OP posts:
Edingril · 21/10/2024 07:19

Parents should be charged

Lavender14 · 21/10/2024 09:18

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 21/10/2024 01:46

I want to know where all this rehabilitation is happening because I’m not seeing it as the court round ups are showing all the same suspects nearly every 3-6 months some 9 months but you get the picture

is it because it takes a lot longer the 3-9 months to get into a programme as there is wait list because there is no money.

I’m also thinking the court case won’t be heard till he's 18 and he could be looking at jail time here but it’ll be most likely a short sentence till he reoffends again which he may well do.

They will likely take into account that the offence happened while he was still a child.

Rehabilitation is inadequate for sure but that's due to lack of funding. We know that in terms of politics people vote for harsher sentencing and time spent in prison so that's what funding tends to be allocated towards to temporarily curry public favour. Then other supportive and rehabilitative services (the ones that statistically we know work) are underfunded. Community resources are part of this - there needs to be a coordinated effort when someone is leaving prison that starts before they leave and continues well after to encourage them to avoid reoffending. When community services are all also set the brink due to repeated funding cuts of course that has an impact. Years of austerity and a tory gov has impacted this in massive ways.

dollopofsauce · 21/10/2024 09:37

NuffSaidSam · 19/10/2024 12:58

We shouldn't try kids as adults because they're not adults they're kids.

Our goal should be to reduce recidivism and all the evidence suggests that long, harsh sentences increase the risk of reoffending. We should be focussing on rehabilitation.

All that said, if it had happened to me I'd want the little scrote to hang. This is why we don't let the victim of the crime decide the punishment.

This

PaterPower · 21/10/2024 09:47

username3678 · 19/10/2024 12:35

We shouldn't be throwing children into adult jails and throwing away the key. We have a high rate of redactivism in the UK and prison tends to harden criminals.

It's a knee jerk reaction to a complex problem.

Recidivism.

I’d like to see that the stats show that processes for handling ‘youth’ crime produce better results than the adult system, before believing a slap on the hand is the better approach.

And do these younger criminals actually get all the mentoring and support the models are built on? Or, like so much else in our ‘justice’ system, is there no money, time or inclination to run them properly (or at all)?

In which case, ALL we’re doing is keeping them out of an adult prison for a year or two longer and crossing our fingers that somehow they’ll see the light. By themselves. That doesn’t seem like an approach that’ll work very often AND we leave victims of their crimes with no feeling of justice having been served.

dontcryformeargentina · 21/10/2024 10:47

Double standards for heinous crimes committed against women and against the government. If he was a rioter , he would be sentenced from 12 years old as we have witnessed it. The same rule doesn't apply to 17 yo youth violent robber.

OonaStubbs · 21/10/2024 12:07

surely the longer the sentence, the lower the chance of reoffending?

If the inverse was true, not sending offenders to jail at all would eliminate all reoffending.

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 21/10/2024 17:04

Lavender14 · 21/10/2024 09:18

They will likely take into account that the offence happened while he was still a child.

Rehabilitation is inadequate for sure but that's due to lack of funding. We know that in terms of politics people vote for harsher sentencing and time spent in prison so that's what funding tends to be allocated towards to temporarily curry public favour. Then other supportive and rehabilitative services (the ones that statistically we know work) are underfunded. Community resources are part of this - there needs to be a coordinated effort when someone is leaving prison that starts before they leave and continues well after to encourage them to avoid reoffending. When community services are all also set the brink due to repeated funding cuts of course that has an impact. Years of austerity and a tory gov has impacted this in massive ways.

Sorry but there have been known cases of waiting till they hit adult age then jail them I’ve seen it happen, well court first then jail but most 16/18-25 are at young offenders then after 25 they are put in adult jails. 16 is Scotland 18 is England and Wales for clarity.

There are homes very much like kids jails for younger kids but they are extreme cases and they are locked up most of the time. Yes I know rareish but there all the same.

op has the case went to court yet is there dates for it. Has he been charged for any offences as that could have some baring on what might happen with the police and courts.

WhatsInTheRug · 21/10/2024 17:27

I know loads of 18/19 and up who are in adult jail

There's no room fort all YA's to go to YA units.

Zahariel · 21/10/2024 17:28

SleepToad · 19/10/2024 12:02

I agree. You know you are doing wrong from at least the age of 7. Personally anyone over 14 should be treated as if they were an adult and tried and imprisoned (in young offenders institution) for the same periods of time.
Prison needs to be a deterrent. We have young people carrying knives because they know they won't be punished...6 years inside will stop that.

And before anyone accused me of being out of touch with the criminal classes, I have at least 20 friends and 3 uncles who have been to prison

Prison does not work, at all, as a deterrent. In fact it makes reoffending more likely.

OonaStubbs · 21/10/2024 20:57

So if we did away with prison, crime would go down, and not up?

Mebebecat · 21/10/2024 21:15

OonaStubbs · 21/10/2024 20:57

So if we did away with prison, crime would go down, and not up?

Yes. Pretty much. Take the same group of young people...all committing the same crimes. The ones caught and sent to prison do much worse than the ones either not caught at all or those given suspended sentences. The ex prisoners reoffend. Lets face it they are unemployable after prison unless Timpson take them on. The ones who got away with it, generally grow up and get on with normal lives.

Yalta · 21/10/2024 21:34

Anotherparkingthread · 19/10/2024 19:00

Well do something about it then if you don't like it.

What exactly am I supposed to do? Change the law?

Yalta · 21/10/2024 21:44

SinnerBoy · 19/10/2024 19:09

Yalta · Today 18:28

Not only did he leave his glasses, clothes and phone in the car and a whole host of other stuff from others who had been in the car. The police aren’t interested in stopping this guy until he does something that harms another person

Fucking Hell, but that's a pile of shite. When my motorbike was stolen from the garage, they came round and looked for clues, spoke to the neighbours etc. This was just over 3 years ago - they also managed to get our car dash cam back, which we hadn't even reported.

Have a look through this, if it wasn't too long ago and assuming that you told them about the stuff he'd left:

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/Global/Migrated_Documents/advisernet/04340415-ew-a-guide-to-the-police-complaints-system-pdf-1.pdf

Friend had a group of armed men break into her house when she was there.

Police arrived after 44 minutes. To give her a crime number

Anotherparkingthread · 21/10/2024 22:11

Yalta · 21/10/2024 21:34

What exactly am I supposed to do? Change the law?

What exactly do you want me to do? Was more the point of my post. You were spouting off at me as if it's my job lol

Comedycook · 21/10/2024 22:19

OonaStubbs · 21/10/2024 00:49

The main purpose of prison is to keep law-breakers locked up away from law-abiders. Any "rehabilitation" that occurs is great, but that's not what prison is for.

Dividing people into two groups...law breakers and law abiders is just such simplistic nonsense. A crime can range from anything from not paying your TV licence to mass murder. Are you totally incapable of any nuanced thinking?

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 21/10/2024 22:28

WhatsInTheRug · 21/10/2024 17:27

I know loads of 18/19 and up who are in adult jail

There's no room fort all YA's to go to YA units.

Most do younger ones go but older will go to adult jails too but are usually in solitary or sick bay away from the other men. I say usually but not always as yup the jails are full and then some

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