Help! My husband's feelings are being hurt but am I being mean?

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He is a very clean, tidy man with good hygiene.

But WHENEVER he drinks beer I can smell it on him and it makes me heave. It must be beer because he drinks Jack Daniel's and I can never smell it when he does.

I told him last night 'sorry, but you stink'. I really didn't mean to be hurtful but it overwhelmed me, this awful smell. It's there when I walk in a room.

The smell is absolutely awful. I can't really describe it. It is such a weird smell. It's like this weird, yeasty yet sour type smell. It's really hard to explain

The closest thing I can describe it to is sadly a rotting flesh. I remember this experience from years ago after someone had passed away. It's a weird, sickly sweet smell.

It's literally oozing out of him and even brushing his teeth hasn't helped when I demanded he did that last night

If I walk into the room I can smell it on him immediately.

Is something wrong with me here? I ask this because my own dad was an alcoholic (nice man but drink reliance). He never smelt and still doesn't? But it was just whisky. Is that why?

I also worked with an alcoholic briefly in an office. He did smell of alcohol a lot but it was a different smell?

I have also smelt alcohol when briefly training as a nurse and I remember some patients being really drunk but I never smelt this smell.

Can someone tell me if I'm going mad or explain what this is?

And why have I never smelt it before? I am not pregnant so no heightened sense of smell

Omg I could have written this literally word for word. I’m so glad you’ve posted this. The exact same smell radiates off my husband after he has beer. I can’t stand it. It’s like a musty, sweet rotting smell and it seeps out of every pore and orifice. It genuinely makes me heave. Even if he showers, brushes his teeth etc, it’s still so pungent! Afraid to say I haven’t yet found a solution lol. We tend to just laugh about it and call him a smelly boy 😂

OP probably doesn’t want to repeat herself 5 times when it’s in the first post.

I think five beers in a night is excessive.

A friend of mine was an alcoholic and i can now smell excessive drinkers. I dont know exactly what im smelling but i would describe it a bit like what you are describing - yeasty , sickly and unpleasant.

Are you sure he isnt drinking excessively, more than he is letting on?

You say your DF didn’t smell but is it possible that this strong reaction you are having is because it is stirring up memories of your DF, even if you werent aware of the smell at the time?

Since my friend became an alcoholic I now react to the smell quite strongly whenever i come across it. when I wasnt aware of it before.

The "usual" signs are sickly smelling breath or sweat, heightened thirst and urine output.

Heightened aggressive behaviour can also be a sign especially after high intake of sugar ie from alcohol, sweets, sugary puddings etc.

The fat you say a cut hasn't healed in 6 months would also be a sign. But cam also be a sign of other illnesses

I would strongly suggest you get him to speak to his GP.

How weird, as I can smell when my husband is unwell, it gives off a certain scent. Maybe he needs to shower, brush his teeth and use mouthwash and also a tongue scraper? As the ale might be oozing from every pore? 🤔 apologies if my description sounds awful 😆

Have you ever met someone sure they're not pregnant who then finds out they are? I've met several. So not a ridiculous question.

My sense of smell went wild in pregnancy.

How often does he need to go to the loo? Does he go in the middle of the night?

How is his weight ? Is he generally overweight? Has he lost weight easily recently ?

A sore not healing is also very odd - diabetics heal slowly

in this case I would go to the doctors with the wired symptoms and see what they say

I remember this from my childhood if I ever slept in my parent's room, the rotting beer smell emanating from my Dad's every pore.

In later years my Dad got into wine and it wasn't an issue, then. But the beer drunk suck all of the air out of the room and replace it with farty, rotten next day beer smells resonates.

I had a male friend who smelled like this.
He was forever known as ‘Smelly Steve’ in my house because it was horrid. He smoked too. The smell seemed to ooze out of him. So I do not think you are unreasonable.