Friend catfishing neighbour on Insta - tell him?

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My friend made a fake account for laughs on Instagram last year using photos of a model from Brazil and she has started using the account to catfish one of our neighbours because she thinks it’s funny. She has made it look very genuine and if I didn’t know it was fake I’d think it was a real account.

I personally think it’s really naughty to deceive someone I know into forming a relationship with a fake woman. I jokily told her she should stop but she didn’t think I meant it. The whole thing doesn’t sit right with me though but if I tell him she’ll think I’m a right backstabber.

I wouldn't tell him for now. I'd be telling her that you're reporting the account and if you catch a sniff of her doing this bullying again you would be telling her victim and every person she knows.

You need better friends

What ?
Why do people fall for been told they are nice / good looking / attractive/ intelligent/ .
Let me see now 🤔
Possible want to go on a date.
Even more so with this poor guy as he probably knows that this horid woman knows his neighbour so there is a built in level of trust.
Don't blame the guy when it's the ops friend that been a cow

Truly nasty of your friend and could be devastating for your neighbour when they find out.
Do the right thing. Tell your friend to stop, and tell your neighbour. Otherwise you're complicit, which makes you as nasty as your friend.

For the last time - the concept of blame does not feature in my reply

so, when you said you would hope he had had the sense to block those type of accounts, what did you mean? Because it reads s if you ar blaming him for not recognising the fake and blocking it.

Yes I have. Obviously.

They were absolutely right.

OP, I really mean this kindly but I worry that you are lacking in self esteem that you even had to ask this question and are possibly scared or intimidated by your friend.
What she's doing is downright nasty, manipulative and cruel. She knows it but she thinks it's hilarious to humiliate someone.
I know there are a lot of LTB type reactions on Mumsnet but honestly this woman is clearly capable of some nasty shit and could turn on you. I would be wary and start keeping my distance.
And definitely please end this one way or another, whether that's anonymously or reporting on Insta (you don't want to be her next target in fairness).

No they were not. Victim blaming is not present in anything I said, quite obviously

It doesn’t read like that. It means one would hope that the person subjected to this nasty scammer would be able to see through their horrid fakery. Where the blame bit?? There isn’t one

This. It's not " naughty", it's nasty.
She's a bully.

Also, my words are not those used here in your reply

@Summertimer I think you should have the good grace to acknowledge that your first post has evidently been interpreted as victim blaming by a number of people, and that maybe you could have worded it better if that wasn't what you meant to say.

Instead, you are arguing with several,posters who all had the same interpretation of your words as I did.

Ridiculous

And I stand by it.

You were victim blaming and it's gross. Now you've been called out, you're acting offended and like you couldn't possibly have meant it that way.

but I’d hope he has the sense to block those sort of accounts

Not really different words are they?

Irrespective of that, you are very clearly blaming him, the victim, for not having the sense to block the account.

How horrible, you should tell him. You wouldn't like it done to you, and someone knowing about it!

She sounds like her morals are pretty wobbly op and I wouldn't associate with her tbh. It's not naughty, it's manipulative and cruel. I would try to find the account online and report it as a fake account. Watch to see if it gets taken down. I'd tell her I think it's a shitty thing to do to someone and she should delete the account. I would try to convince her to stop and why rather than tell him and embarrass him unless she refuses. Tbh if she can't see what's wrong with this and is insisting to continue then I'd be done with the friendship anyway.

Anyone else think this is another thread where the OP won’t be back? 🤔

I think the OPs watched Netflix new programme Sweet Bobby. But if this is genuine then she should watch it with her friend to see how it ruins peoples lives.

She's not a friend, she's a nasty and vindictive piece of work. Tell the neighbour and rethink having her in your friends circle. If she's someone who finds it 'funny' to deceive and humiliate others, she's not someone worth being friends with

What she's doing is nasty and cruel, not naughty. She's not a child playing a prank, she's an adult purposefully setting out to harm someone emotionally and mentally. This says a lot aboit her. II would tell him and she would no longer be my friend.

In the bud. 🙂

And I agree, that's a really nasty thing to do.

You really have to question the sort of values your friend has if this is what she does. It's really messed up, it's vicious, it's cruel and it tells you alot about her nature.

You need to question what she thinks of you - is this in any way respectful of you. You are the neighbour and you could really suffer some serious fall out with the neighbour if they discovered your friend was behind it without you telling them.

I'd had very firm words with this so called mate. She is trampling all over YOU in doing this. And yes tell the neighbour

Your friend is a C U Next Tuesday.
nasty nasty nasty.

Calling it "naughty" makes it sound like she had an extra cocktail at dinner or something. This is cruel and could be considered bullying. I would tell him and I'd distance myself from her.