Need a hand hold

[Imbluedalale]

That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

You poor love! It says a lot that you found the DV easier, and that’s a horrifying indictment of how they’re treating you :(. I’m so so sorry the council are being so nasty. The MP email looks more promising. Do you feel able to give them the details they asked for and to ring the number they gave? I’m worried you’re under so much stress on no food or sleep.

Thank you ChoccieCornflake,
Hugs are definitely needed today thank you .
Please don’t be sorry it’s not your fault, it’s really really crap and it’s severely affecting my mental health but that’s nobodies fault xx

Agree with the MPs having clout. When I worked in housing benefits, any contact from an MP was escalated straight to top management. Keep going x

That's a great reply from the MP. It's absolutely dreadful what you are going through.

More hugs incoming at you!!

@Imbluedalale I agree with @Apolloneuro about MP’s having clout. When I worked in adult social services as a social worker, if we had an email from an MP, we would prioritise the issue being raised so hopefully it works like that for you too.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this and you don't have other family. You're so lovely and caring, I'm sure in time when you get your house, you can build up a support network away from your abusive ex.

Glad you have a kettle and that you're remembering to take your medication. Try and keep hydrated especially if you're being sick and try some small bites of food if you can. It sounds like your body is just in shock with all the stress hormones inside it.

Sorry also that you've had to wait again for the council to call and they haven't. I think ringing at 11 is a good plan. Just keep breaking the day up into small bits and focus on the next thing to do - whether that's a cup of tea, take medication, go to the vending machine, ring the council etc. You can write it in this thread what your next thing to do is and what time if that helps.

I've just caught up with the email from the MPs office. That sounds positive, I'm so glad they've got back to you quickly.

I'm so sorry that you're feeling like the emotional abuse daily was easier than things feel right now. The emotional abuse was gradually eroding your sense of self and MH for years. You're right in the storm of getting out just now. But in time, you will be able to rebuild your MH and you will end up in a better place in the end. I honestly wish I could take all this pain away from you and put you in that better place right now.

Thank you ChoccieCornflake,
Hopefully the MP will be giving st leger homes a call fingers crossed 🤞
I just think the council is so set on me going there that they won’t budge .
I would love to see you storm into the council offices it would make my day ! Xx

If I was anywhere close, I would be storming right now! Picture me with my "don't mess with me" face on!

Thank you Apolloneuro.
Fingers crossed 🤞 xx

Hi TealPoet,
I have replied to the MP email and given them the details they requested .
Im just on the phone to the council now but there’s a long hold .
Please don’t worry about me you already have enough going on with yourself and I cannot thank you enough for what you did last night . It’s the kindest thing anybody has ever done for me . It’s really touched my heart, thank you TealPoet xx

Ohhh that’s good to know CleverLemonCat,
My mental health letters , DV letters and cancer letters and my disability letters have made no difference upto now so let’s hope the MP can sort something out xx

Thank you ChoccieCornflake,
You are honestly so lovely and kind xx

I’m keeping everything crossed AdmittowearingCrocs,
I don’t think the council like me whenever I speak to them now they are not so friendly xx

Hi RaspberryBeretxx,
I’ve already got a support network that I didn’t have before and that’s all you guys . Honestly each and every one of you are amazing .
I will definitely try and eat something today I might do what @ChoccieCornflake does and make myself 2 cups of tea !
Im on phone to council now still waiting to get connected xx

I would actually pay to see that ChoccieCornflake.
They’d be thinking who are all these women with the wooden spoons chanting and they all smell the same too !xx

View from my window ….

It may seem like they don’t like you but it is more likely it’s because they know they have screwed up and with all the input from Police and other agencies/MP they are not being seen in a very good light at the moment. Their reputation has been tarnished and the people responsible have probably got it in the neck. Instead of recognising it’s because they have made mistakes, they are just projecting that on to you.
You have done NOTHING wrong so stand your ground and don’t allow them to be rude/disrespectful or push you to go into that hostel. You need a safe and secure suitable place to live.

You are awesome, you really are! How you are keeping a sense of humour in times like this is beyond me!

I am picturing the Black Tulip Brigade right now - smelling wonderful, spoons in hand (held aloft, naturally!), and someone nearby holding a tray with all the tea on it (as we need two cups each, and we only have one hand free, what with the spoons!)

Yes I think you’re completely right !
My creative support worker has made a complaint too .
I’m still on hold to them but not giving up xx

That made me giggle ChoccieCornflake,
And we could steal their biscuits for all the inconvenience they have caused ! Xx

I'm so glad that made you giggle!! And yes indeed - we are having ALL their biscuits, and frankly I'm nicking their teabags and sugar too!!

Oh at this stage I will take anything that’s not nailed down.
I think as a menopausal woman I can blame nicking a trouser press on my mental state.
I don’t need one. I’m just in a revolutionary kinda mood….

Yay! Black Tulip Brigade now has a lovely smell, lots of spoons and tea, all the biscuits, teabags and sugar, and one trouser press!

Love this! Storm that council 😆.

@Imbluedalale , I'd try not to stress about them not liking you. I'm sure they aren't thinking they dislike you but they do want an easy life with everyone happy to go where they are initially allocated no matter how unsuitable. You just have to keep being that squeaky wheel and persist till it's less hassle for them to just FIX IT. We're all behind you every step. It must be so hard to advocate for yourself when you're feeling so low but keep trying - you need and deserve a safe space to live. We are all here.

I love the view! Looks peaceful. Enjoy your tea and hope you manage some chocolate or something from the vending machine.