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To think that releasing crickets at a gay rights conference, specifically to shut them down, should be considered a homophobic hate crime? Somehow these people are crowdfunding to do it AGAIN

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Zahariel · 17/10/2024 09:03

The optics of having to fumigate a hall after gay people used it to speak about their rights being eroded should not be lost on anyone.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13950839/Trans-activists-release-bags-insects-LGB-Alliance-conference.html

https://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews/suspected-trans-rights-activists-disrupt-lgba-conference-with-live-crickets/ar-AA1s9JHH

This is CLERLY A HATE CRIME - yet it's being reported as trans rights activists, not anti gay hate mongers, I can't really understand why not

MSN

https://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews/suspected-trans-rights-activists-disrupt-lgba-conference-with-live-crickets/ar-AA1s9JHH

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SinnerBoy · 18/10/2024 11:54

OMG!!! The filthy Arabellaphobic bastards! It's worse than literal violence!

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 11:54

ArabellaScott · 18/10/2024 11:51

I frequently ask people to refer to me as Your Gorgeous Majesty and so far no fucker has taken me up on it.

I've yet to complain to the ECHR about this egregious failure to respect my rights, though.

Yes, Your Gorgeous Majesty. I will comply.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/10/2024 11:55

Yet trans people can’t choose their name and pronouns? Whenever a trans woman is described as “a male pretending to be a female” this is violating this right.

So by this reasoning Isla Bryson's victim should refer to Isla Bryson as 'she'. Isla Bryson being a rapist.

Trans people can choose their names and pronouns all they want. Whether I want to go along with this - calling a clear as day man 'she' is up to me. That's MY right.

ArcheryAnnie · 18/10/2024 12:03

ArabellaScott · 18/10/2024 10:52

It's interesting that the session the 'trans kids' chose to disrupt was given by Jamie Reed. Here is Jamie's spouse, Tiger:

'The gender-affirming care model relies on vulnerable people’s impatience—rushing them toward major medical changes rather than stopping to understand the root of their pain and suffering. This affects not just patients, but entire families. And as Jamie has shown, confused and scared parents get told—falsely—that without transition their children are likely to commit suicide.
I’m going public because I want people like me who have complex and nuanced reasons for their gender distress to be part of the conversation. I want people to know there are more options than medicalizing their bodies for the rest of their lives. '

https://www.thefp.com/p/tiger-jamie-reed-detransition-wash-u-transgender-affirming-care

Oh my god, I've never read that article before. Thank you so much for posting it - it's so important. I really feel for her.

ArabellaScott · 18/10/2024 12:07

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 11:54

Yes, Your Gorgeous Majesty. I will comply.

About bloody time.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 18/10/2024 12:09

More seriously, you seem to be suggesting that it's ok to commit a homophobic hate crime against a group of homosexuals and bisexuals because the conference organisers, the LGBA, didn't tally up the sexual orientation of its supporters correctly a few years ago.

//

Thank you, I've been trying to word my thoughts along these lines and you've articulated it perfectly.

Timeforaglassofwine · 18/10/2024 12:11

Curlyboot · 17/10/2024 09:49

Firstly it’s not an attack. It was a protest.

Secondly I support their right to protest. So yes.

GC has no place in LGBT

It's an attack. Trans and sexuality are separate issues, and attacks such as this only go to prove what women knew all along about men acting like wolves in sheeps' clothing, stamping their feet to get their own way.

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 12:15

"Trans people are also very likely to experience discrimination and in many cases assault as a result of being trans."

And this would be already protected under 'beliefs'. So, yes, this should be addressed. I don't agree that people should be discriminated agains based on their belief if there is no other negative impact on another group's rights.

But there is that conflict, recognised by even the Prime Minister, and the EHRC.

Perhaps refer to the EA2010. Excluding male people from female single sex spaces is considered 'legitimate discrimination.' Female people have a basic human right to safety as well as privacy and dignity. This allows the exclusion of male people legitimately using exceptions in the EA.

This is just one of the conflicts that you seem to be dismissing with a statement as I have quoted here.

"In my work I research women’s health (a historically under-researched area) and advocate for equal opportunities for women within the profession."

And yet, you don't seem to differentiate between legitimate discrimination with your post and illegitimate discrimination.

So a question, do you believe that an organisation that has achieved a 50 | 50 ratio of men to women in the workplace has achieved 'equality' if any % of those women is a male person?

SerafinasGoose · 18/10/2024 12:16

Curlyboot · 17/10/2024 09:49

Firstly it’s not an attack. It was a protest.

Secondly I support their right to protest. So yes.

GC has no place in LGBT

This group does not define itself as LGBT. They are LGB.

They have observed that the charity/pressure group previously existing to serve their interests has now shifted focus. They take the stance that not only have their own interests taken a back seat, but that the two sets of rights sometimes come directly into conflict. If references to the 'cotton ceiling' don't immediately strike you as coercive, misogynistic, homophobic and deeply problematic, then either you're being wilfully obtuse or you buy into that same coercive rhetoric yourself. I'm not asking which of the two that is.

Given the above, the LGBA broke away and formed a new group - one group out of many LGBT 'approved' organisations, thereby excluding themselves from Stonewall and Pride - which does put their interests at the forefront. (This, incidentally, does not incorporate the nasty, pejorative label of 'hate group'. These views are perfectly legally held, are a legitimate position as to what might happen when rights come into conflict, and the group is terrorising no one).

They have an absolute right to do the above. And they define themselves as LGB. You can identify as whatever 'identity' you like until the cows come home, but you don't get to redefine others against their stated wishes.

The word you're looking for is 'coercive'. Ring any bells, @Curlyboot?

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 12:20

Raspberryripple11 · 18/10/2024 11:04

Of course, different people have different ideas about what rights trans people should and shouldn’t have. But the one I see most often on mumsnet is that trans people shouldn’t have the right to be addressed by their preferred name/pronouns and as their gender. It’s interesting that I saw a thread a couple of days ago on mumsnet from a woman who’s family insist on sending letters and cheques to her husbands surname despite her not changing her name when getting married. Everyone was rightly outraged by this. Yet trans people can’t choose their name and pronouns? Whenever a trans woman is described as “a male pretending to be a female” this is violating this right.
Another right which trans people in the UK supposedly have, but in practise is hard to come by, is the right to gender affirming healthcare. This video portrays how difficult it can be to get gender affirming healthcare on the NHS and how life saving it is in many cases:

Trans people are also very likely to experience discrimination and in many cases assault as a result of being trans. The constant stirring up of anti-trans sentiments (on mumsnet and elsewhere) only makes this problem worse. I’m assuming most of the people on this thread are from the UK, and we are very lucky to live in a country with good rights for trans people. But in many places in the world being trans is illegal. We should be fighting for trans people to have rights globally rather than trying to take them away. Before anyone accuses me of being homophobic or anti-woman/anti-feminist. I am myself bisexual and the majority of my friend group is queer. I am a cis woman. In my work I research women’s health (a historically under-researched area) and advocate for equal opportunities for women within the profession. I also volunteer for several hours a week at a women’s charity and regularly donate to women’s charities. Division only makes us weaker. Women and trans people supporting each other will make us both stronger.

"Whenever a trans woman is described as “a male pretending to be a female” this is violating this right."

Perhaps you are not up to date.

Here is a man pretending to be a woman.

https://x.com/salltweets/status/1846701660011483319 

Do tell us how we are to know which male people are not to be believed in your opinion?

And can you tell us how any male person can be a female person as it is not objectively and materially possible? They can be 'transgender' but they cannot be a female person.

x.com

https://x.com/salltweets/status/1846701660011483319

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 12:21

It seems we need a reminder on every x pages:

No male can ever experience life as a woman. They can only ever experience life as a male person who believes they are a woman.

Even when they 'act' like a woman, they are acting as they believe a 'woman' should act. Which is fucking misogynistic!

Even if they are treated 'as a woman' by some people, they are being treated as a 'male who presents as a woman and believes they are a woman'. Because their every reaction is based on that. Not on them being female in any way.

Even when they have extreme body modifications, it is to be their own concept of what a female looks like to them. It is not what a female is. How can it be?
The only way a person can experience life as a woman, is to have a female body, formed around the production of large gametes, even if it doesn't produce those and to navigate their life based on the decisions they and society makes that revolve around them having that body.

A male can conceptualise what it might be like to be a female, but that is all it ever is - their concept of being female.

They may do it because they don't feel they fit into how they conceptualise how a male person interacts with the world (ie. their own stereotypes around being male) or they do it because they want to be seen as a female (using their own stereotypes of how a female navigates life). It really doesn't matter though. Their motivation is irrelevant to the outcome. And I consider the outcome can only be described as misogyny.

Which is that they will always be just a male who believes they are something they are objectively not.

How can the material reality be any different? This is why someone's gender is only based on someone's philosophical belief. And philosophical beliefs are fine for people to hold, but not one person in the UK has to comply with another's philosophical belief.

The logic cannot be any different than that I am afraid.

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 12:30

ArabellaScott · 18/10/2024 11:46

'the right to gender affirming healthcare'

Anyone who wants to access plastic surgery can go right ahead and do so.

What is less straightforward is whether the NHS should be involved in this highly contentious area.

Giving off-label, unevidenced drugs to young people who cannot possibly understand the potential consequences nor give meaningful consent.

Hormones and plastic surgeries to 'affirm gender'.

Nobody can even define 'gender identity', so the idea that the NHS should pay to 'affirm' it is ... surprising.

Oh Arabella! You remember the transgender manifesto that demanded that any person who had a transgender identity should have whatever treatments they want provided by the state.

Wasn't there the part where they should be able to do surgeries on each other too!

But yes. More seriously, what other group of people get access to surgeries and irreversible hormonal treatments for what once was considered a mental health conditions but is now not even a mental health condition?

I have never yet seen a coherent answer as to why the NHS should paying for treatments that take a physically healthy body to create a life long medical patient with a high likelihood of lowered life expectancy and bodily limitations.

And yet, we see the emotional pleas that to deny this group is denying their 'right'.

Another additional privilege that they have convinced society that they should get that is not available to anyone else in society.

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 12:31

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 12:15

"Trans people are also very likely to experience discrimination and in many cases assault as a result of being trans."

And this would be already protected under 'beliefs'. So, yes, this should be addressed. I don't agree that people should be discriminated agains based on their belief if there is no other negative impact on another group's rights.

But there is that conflict, recognised by even the Prime Minister, and the EHRC.

Perhaps refer to the EA2010. Excluding male people from female single sex spaces is considered 'legitimate discrimination.' Female people have a basic human right to safety as well as privacy and dignity. This allows the exclusion of male people legitimately using exceptions in the EA.

This is just one of the conflicts that you seem to be dismissing with a statement as I have quoted here.

"In my work I research women’s health (a historically under-researched area) and advocate for equal opportunities for women within the profession."

And yet, you don't seem to differentiate between legitimate discrimination with your post and illegitimate discrimination.

So a question, do you believe that an organisation that has achieved a 50 | 50 ratio of men to women in the workplace has achieved 'equality' if any % of those women is a male person?

Sorry this question is for @Raspberryripple11 :

"So a question, do you believe that an organisation that has achieved a 50 | 50 ratio of men to women in the workplace has achieved 'equality' if any % of those women is a male person?"

ArabellaScott · 18/10/2024 12:33

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 12:30

Oh Arabella! You remember the transgender manifesto that demanded that any person who had a transgender identity should have whatever treatments they want provided by the state.

Wasn't there the part where they should be able to do surgeries on each other too!

But yes. More seriously, what other group of people get access to surgeries and irreversible hormonal treatments for what once was considered a mental health conditions but is now not even a mental health condition?

I have never yet seen a coherent answer as to why the NHS should paying for treatments that take a physically healthy body to create a life long medical patient with a high likelihood of lowered life expectancy and bodily limitations.

And yet, we see the emotional pleas that to deny this group is denying their 'right'.

Another additional privilege that they have convinced society that they should get that is not available to anyone else in society.

https://www.tumblr.com/edinburghath/163521055802/trans-health-manifesto

'We demand hormones & blockers are made available over-the-counter and by free prescription upon request.* *We need free, universal access to safe hormones & blockers at any age, the opportunity to decide our own doses, and universally accessible information on the safety & efficacy of different regimens. We are already taking hormones in this way, so this demand is simply that the danger of doing so is effectively mitigated.
We demand that all therapies that can be are made available at drop-ins, with self-referral for any therapy or procedure for which drop-in is unsuitable.
We demand anonymous blood tests, both postal & at drop-in endocrinology clinics, where we can seek the advice of a consultant if we wish.
We demand the freedom to alter our bodies without justification. We demand an end to all surgical prerequisites - nobody should have to prove life experience,health or have to be taking hormones in order to exercise bodily autonomy. We demand that these surgeries can be highly customised to meet our individual & unique needs. We demand the right to multiple surgeries, including reversal of previous surgeries if desired, so that we do not have to fear regret. We demand the free & timely provision of genital surgeries, additive & reductive chest surgeries, hysterectomies and orchiectomies, tracheal & vocal surgeries, facial surgeries, lipoplasty, contouring & microdermabrasion, surgical hair removal & transplantation, and any other possible procedure to meet our needs as we express them.
We demand resources for hair removal anywhere on our bodies, and the option of local anesthetic during these procedures. We demand voice coaching that does not coerce us to alter our voices in ways we do not express a need for, but respects our accents and our right to express ourselves however we desire.'

That one?

TRANS HEALTH MANIFESTO

INTRODUCTION Following the centuries-long repression of trans lives at the hands of the state, the next stage in the UK government's war of bureaucratic attrition is the recent publication of an NHS…

https://www.tumblr.com/edinburghath/163521055802/trans-health-manifesto

Helleofabore · 18/10/2024 12:36

ArabellaScott · 18/10/2024 12:33

https://www.tumblr.com/edinburghath/163521055802/trans-health-manifesto

'We demand hormones & blockers are made available over-the-counter and by free prescription upon request.* *We need free, universal access to safe hormones & blockers at any age, the opportunity to decide our own doses, and universally accessible information on the safety & efficacy of different regimens. We are already taking hormones in this way, so this demand is simply that the danger of doing so is effectively mitigated.
We demand that all therapies that can be are made available at drop-ins, with self-referral for any therapy or procedure for which drop-in is unsuitable.
We demand anonymous blood tests, both postal & at drop-in endocrinology clinics, where we can seek the advice of a consultant if we wish.
We demand the freedom to alter our bodies without justification. We demand an end to all surgical prerequisites - nobody should have to prove life experience,health or have to be taking hormones in order to exercise bodily autonomy. We demand that these surgeries can be highly customised to meet our individual & unique needs. We demand the right to multiple surgeries, including reversal of previous surgeries if desired, so that we do not have to fear regret. We demand the free & timely provision of genital surgeries, additive & reductive chest surgeries, hysterectomies and orchiectomies, tracheal & vocal surgeries, facial surgeries, lipoplasty, contouring & microdermabrasion, surgical hair removal & transplantation, and any other possible procedure to meet our needs as we express them.
We demand resources for hair removal anywhere on our bodies, and the option of local anesthetic during these procedures. We demand voice coaching that does not coerce us to alter our voices in ways we do not express a need for, but respects our accents and our right to express ourselves however we desire.'

That one?

Yes.

How about this one raspberry and piggle? Should we be giving this group what they want, if so, can you tell us which other group of people in the UK get this preferential treatment for what is not a medical condition according to academic transgender spokespeople?

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 12:55

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It is, however, misogynistic to believe that a woman is something anyone can identify as, and homophobic to believe that a male person can be a lesbian if they want.

ToyFace · 18/10/2024 12:59

spannasaurus · 18/10/2024 09:36

@ToyFace do lesbians, gays and bisexuals not have right to have a charity to campaign for issues affecting them without including other unrelated groups of people?

Of course they do and as I said I don't condone the attack at all. What I said was that the attack was not Homophobic because they were not targeted for being gay, lesbian or bi but for being trans exclusionary.

And again, I'm not saying that they deserve to be attacked for excluding trans or even that they should have to include trans people if they don't want to. However that is what they were attacked for.

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 12:59

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/10/2024 12:57

It is, however, misogynistic to believe that a woman is something anyone can identify as, and homophobic to believe that a male person can be a lesbian if they want.

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It is not misogynistic or homophobic to respect a trans person’s gender and sexuality identity.

It is simply treating another human being with the dignity , value and understanding that all human persons deserve.

InvisibleBuffy · 18/10/2024 13:01

Gender is nothing but sexual stereotyping, so yes, it is misogynistic to define 'woman' as the stereotype of a woman.
As has been said repeatedly on these boards, we are actual people, not things to cosplay as.

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 13:03

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 12:59

It is not misogynistic or homophobic to respect a trans person’s gender and sexuality identity.

It is simply treating another human being with the dignity , value and understanding that all human persons deserve.

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Even the one’s who are different to how you expected them to be .

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 13:04

InvisibleBuffy · 18/10/2024 13:01

Gender is nothing but sexual stereotyping, so yes, it is misogynistic to define 'woman' as the stereotype of a woman.
As has been said repeatedly on these boards, we are actual people, not things to cosplay as.

Being trans has nothing to do with stereotypes;
being trans does not make a person a misogynist.
Some people are trans; it’s just who they are.
Trans people are not inherently wrong or bad.

HipTightOnions · 18/10/2024 13:04

It is not misogynistic or homophobic to respect a trans person’s gender and sexuality identity.

You do you, but it is misogynistic/homophobic to demand that everyone else does too.

InvisibleBuffy · 18/10/2024 13:06

PiggleToes · 18/10/2024 12:59

It is not misogynistic or homophobic to respect a trans person’s gender and sexuality identity.

It is simply treating another human being with the dignity , value and understanding that all human persons deserve.

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You're not asking us to respect it. You're asking us to obey it. That is misogynistic, yes.
Especially when actual respect is not given to women. Same old patriarchy with a shiny new bow.

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