Wedding photos

[Strawbsss]

My brother got married last weekend.

Lots of family photos taken by a photographer.

Family and bride and groom are now sharing these photos online.

Sister has now kicked off as she doesn't want her kids pictures on the internet.

This has been her wish since the kids were born and we always respect it, but she actively got her children in multiple photos on the day. She has even added random guests from the wedding to ensure they haven't uploaded any.

Brother has now removed them.

AIBU to think this is a bit shit? My brother has paid a lot of money for these photos and now he cannot share a set amount because sister says so.

Tell me if I'm being a crank but I just think if she felt that strongly about her kids ending up online, she shouldn't have pushed them into photos?

Can he Photoshop the photos with the pesky kids, remove their images and replace them with other guests.

Sister had no business putting them in shot with other guests.

he could easily blur their faces in the photos he uploads

so why didn't he just put emojis over the children's faces?

ETA: well that will teach me to RTFT

Genuine question, where does it say the sisters kids are girls? Everyones referring to them as ‘nieces’ but I can’t see where in the original post OP has said it’s nieces?

My best friend doesn't have any photos of her children on any SM and I've known this since they were born and I have always respected that. Days out together, parties etc no photos get put anywhere.

It shouldn't be difficult to respect a person's decision about their own children's privacy. It doesn't mean that the children can't be included, but just post other photos.

I don't think it's a major issue. Does he really need to share all the photos on social media anyway? I have plenty of friends who don't post photos of their children on social media and that is absolutely fine. Brother can just choose a photo of him and the bride to share publicly.
It doesn't say anywhere the mum isn't happy they are in the photos at all, so save them for the family photo album only.

I’d be pissed off about this too. I think it’s very reasonable your brother would want to post his group wedding pics. If she was this bothered that she’s going to these lengths now (adding strangers, telling them to remove them) she should’ve thought about that on the day of the wedding when she was pushing her kids to be in the pics.

Your sister is being absolutely ridiculous. She has no right to dictate to strangers (or family) about whether they can or cannot post photos that she and her children posed for. If she has a problem with photographs then they needed to avoid the camera, full stop.

Why would you post photos of someone else’s children online when you know the parent isn’t happy with their child being shared? Like, you’re just a total c you next if you happily do that to someone.

Genuinely surprised by the posts on here (and that doesn't happen often any more) that seem to view wedding photos as being chiefly for SM to the extent you shouldn't be in the wedding photos if you don't want to be online.

my DD and SIL have just had a baby.. they have decided that they do not want any of his photos on the internet. Their baby, their choice! We get round it by using emojis or pixelating faces.

Not every photo ever taken has to be shared on the internet! We have an interactive photo frame, and there's where we share our photos..

Why can’t he share them privately. Why is it always via social media.

Instead of putting emoji stickers over the children could he blur them out or would it be a massively obvious?

What does it matter if there are emoji stickers on them though? It's obvious why it's done, and allows them to post the photo. It's not like the emojis will be on the version in the album or on the sideboard.

No it's sharing photos on social media not a secure link!

So if my sister doesn't want her kids on social media she's never allowed to have photos with the rest of the family?

@Strawbsss I think your sister is being unreasonable. Dd2 does not post photos of her ds on social media but she doesn't make a fuss if he's part of a large group and it's posted online.
I have friends who post pictures 24/7 of their dc and others who never post. I post the occasional photo, normally a flashback of when my dc were much younger but I always ask first. I do like seeing photos of my cousins etc online, I don't know if my dd is being paranoid or sensible.

No, if she wants to take her own family pics and keep them safe away from social media she can- your statement is very dramatic. But she shouldn’t be shocked that wedding pics are being put on Facebook.

YABU. It was nice to have photos with the children in them for posterity, but they shouldn’t be uploaded to the internet. He should respect his sister’s wishes regarding her children’s privacy.

Why would you be in the photos if you're going to try and dictate what other people can do with them? That's even more of a dick move. She's being completely unreasonable.

They're her brother's wedding photos. Of course she and her children were in them.

Yeah, it would be bizarre to not have any photos of the children at their uncle’s wedding. But simply being in a family photo does not equate to consenting to be plastered on the internet. Taken aback that some people think that way.

Yes agree, especially photos of children.

There is no need in this day and age to share any photos on social media. There are other ways of sharing a few photos with the guests. Even as an adult I wouldn’t want a photo which includes me to be placed on internet. The last few weddings I’ve been to have been very clear that they wanted no photos or videos posted online (and the bride and groom have also not done this).

I just think blurring as opposed to big stickers would look less obvious and ridiculous