Wedding photos

[Strawbsss]

My brother got married last weekend.

Lots of family photos taken by a photographer.

Family and bride and groom are now sharing these photos online.

Sister has now kicked off as she doesn't want her kids pictures on the internet.

This has been her wish since the kids were born and we always respect it, but she actively got her children in multiple photos on the day. She has even added random guests from the wedding to ensure they haven't uploaded any.

Brother has now removed them.

AIBU to think this is a bit shit? My brother has paid a lot of money for these photos and now he cannot share a set amount because sister says so.

Tell me if I'm being a crank but I just think if she felt that strongly about her kids ending up online, she shouldn't have pushed them into photos?

Absolutely her prerogative if she doesn’t want her children’s photos on social media. He could easily have blanked out their faces when sharing the photographs. Wedding photos aren’t predominantly for social media; they’re for posterity. They go in albums and in frames. So completely rational that she wouldn’t remove her children from a big family group photo just because she didn’t want her kids on social media.

Cool, so 200 emails need to be sent to get people’s consent to post a happy group picture from your wedding? That’s totally normal and reasonable.

So many people appear to be ignoring this bit "she actively got her children in multiple photos on the day".

I have never understood people who freak about their kids pictures being online - your sister sounds very neurotic and attention seeking.

Go to the AI image generator on Bing. Create images of children in wedding guest dresses/suits. There should be an image editor somewhere out there that will let you cut them out of the background and turn the fake kids into stickers. Pop them over sisters kids. Do the same for sister while you are at it because it wouldn't surprise me if that were to be her next "issue".

Unlike many on here, I'm not seeing her as some innocent lovely mummy trying to protect her little ones from the hordes of online perverts out there apparently pulling on their dingaling to group wedding photos 🙄.

Also, how high is the resolution on the photos exactly. If a random pervert can cut out a usable image of them kids out of a line up of 200 people, I would be very surprised. Not many photographers out there publishing super high resolution for no extra cash.

She is a drama llama intent on stirring the shit is my guess. If she's so fantastically diligent about images of her children getting out, she would not have intentionally steered them in to the centre of a shed load of brothers photos. I do wonder if super safe mum of the year there has previous with the groom, doesn't like the bride or just likes to make everything about her in general.

I think people who vehemently don’t want their pictures to be shared, shouldn’t stand in front of a camera.

OP I’d get your brother to blur their faces as it’s more subtle than emojis, and repost the photo.

It was her brother's wedding, and he knows her views on social media. Perfectly reasonable for her DC to be included in family photos. As others have said, wedding photos are for frames and albums.

Given most people post their wedding pictures online now, and have done for about twenty years, it can’t come as a surprise.

Her family know her views though, so yes her brother posting her children's photos probably did come as a surprise.

@ahemfem
My brother isn't moaning. He didn't purposely go out of his way to post it out of spite, he just uploaded after receiving previews from the photographer, presumably excited.

He removed them from the photos with no qualms, it's me who is wondering what people think of it.

There you go. Quick example. Might work to obscure the kids. Took me 3 minutes with free Internet bits and bobs.

Note please...this is an AI image. This boy does not exist.

Well my thoughts are your sister is a dick. I feel sorry for your brother. Is your sister married herself? Is there any resentment there meaning that she wants to sabotage his happiness? I am betting she wouldn’t dare do this if it was one of her friends (and said friend would probably laugh at her anyway).

@Startinganew32 😂😂

No, she is just very forceful with her beliefs. She likes to be heard in every situation, by everyone ... that's all I'm saying 😂

I love them both dearly though x

I literally have only ever met one person in real life that doesn't post their kids photos online and they are by all accounts 'eccentrics'. Its certainly not the 'standard' or 'default' position.

When I worked in photography many, many people actively paid me money to photographer their kids and post them online. There a literal multi-million pound industry based around it.

But she allowed the taking of the photos in the first place.

The photographer can use them on their social media and there's nothing she can do.

I'd be peeved if I was your brother

She sounds absolutely awful.
Her children shouldn't have been in those photos if that is how she feels.
How dare she dictate such a thing.
Your poor brother and wife.

Oh and I don't have any SM and have never posted a single photo of my children on line.

Your brother is at fault here. We eloped, but with a set of friends each who came with children. We had a professional photographer and I made a request for one photo to have our friends and us sans the children as they have a no social media rule.

I also had a professional photographer at my daughter’s christening and when I sent an email with the link I said please don’t post to social media any with the children’s faces in them please.

Easy to accommodate very reasonable parent’s wishes to not have photos of their children on SM. I honestly think people are extremely naive about who and what can be done with even the most innocent of images (especially with the addition of AI)

I'd ask him to blur the faces out. Agree re emojis being a bit weird looking, but blurring a few faces shouldn't have much of an impact.

I'm the same, I've dealt with so much bullying in the past that I don't want people from the past having access to my dd. X

Can't they just blur the faces? I do this when posting pics of my own DC with any other DC (which isn't often).

So she shouldn’t be able to trust any family member of hers to take or have photos of her children without posting it online?

Why does he need to make them public just share them on WhatsApp or post ones without the kids in .

Pics or it didn’t happen

YANBU @Strawbsss You don't let your kids be bridesmaids/pageboys at a wedding and then get all pissy and whiny because the bride and groom put some pics online featuring your kids. Ludicrous overreaction from the sister.

Brother should put them back, and just block her from viewing them. You can do that.

Don't be ridiculous. Its a wedding group photo of 200 people and this silly woman is trying to dictate to her brother and his wife what he does with his wedding photos.
How many whole group photos will have been taken?

She should have kept her children out of photos if she felt that strongly about it.

Google pics - edit and magic eraser. Just rub out their face

Like I've done below

Its a group photo of 200 people.
Why did she allow her children to be photographed if she felt that strongly about it?
Absolutely fine if you don't want them on SM, just keep them out of large group photos then.
Really not difficult.