Pissed off to be told I can only 'carry boys'

[Uklady23]

AIBU to be pissed off at this. Two boy children absolutely love them and love being a boy mum.

Recently toyed with the idea of a third, but a friend told me that I can't carry girls I can only birth boys.

This really pissed me off and I don't know why.

I would love a girl, but I also would love a boy. It just the way she said it asif there was something wrong with 1. Me or 2. Having boy children.

This was 26 years ago and I'm not sure she had any testing but that is what she was told. All babies were between 14 and 21 weeks, all males.

If she maintains she is fine with this how does 'everyone know she's clearly not'?

You sound as ignorant as said friend.

I have stated numerous times that I don't care about gender - I love my boys and they love me I genuinely have no preference i crave the newborn bubble not 100% sure we will go on to have more.

I don’t get the obsession that so many women have about having girls. I have a boy and am pregnant with another boy. I would love either sex and am so delighted to have 2 boys. I think I’d be upset about someone commenting on my ‘inability’ to have girls as I’d take it as they think sons are inferior to daughters. And saying it openly to me, the inference is that they think I feel the same. Whereas I feel like I’ve won the lottery having 2 babies!

Congratulations xxx

This! This sums up pretty much what I am thinking.

She is an idiot

Didn't we all learn at school that it's the sperm which determines the sex of a child? So if anything it would be that your husband can only produce boys (also clearly nonsense, btw, just less nonsense than what she said!)

I think the sarcasm in your post was fairly evident!

Next time she says anything just ask did she never pay attention in biology class? It's the sperm that decides the sex of the baby.

My friend has four girls and then a boy. It annoys her equally when folk go on about how she kept going until she had a boy. Just to illustrate the other side of the coin! She didn’t really care at all just happy to have healthy children.

Not actually true. It's something like a 70% chance that she will have a boy and 30% chance that she will have a girl. But that's statistically, at a population level. It's not the OP's personal chances of having a boy or a girl.

As others have said, she’s an idiot and should try reading a science book 🙄 jack shit to do with your “carrying”

Complete nonsense. I have a guilty crush on an actor with 5 sons. His fans say he's so masculine he can only make boys. That's compete nonsense too.

I would say @Soonenough had it right in the first post

I forget his name, but some well known boxer who had 2 boys, once stated that he could only father boys. He didn’t IIRC say in as many words that it was because he was so unbelievably masculine, but that was clearly implied.

Stupid twats are alas not in short supply.

Yeah, your friend is daft. I cannot believe you are even allowing this to annoy you - Should've discarded this statement as un-evidenced bullshit as soon as she uttered it.

I'm guessing she meant it as a joke? Not a funny one though, maybe if someone has had a few of the same sex, rather than just two, but still not very funny.

Eh? What utter crap she's talking. Nothing wrong with having only boys. Also,I am a 61 year old 'girl' born after 2 boys,plus a friend of my DD's had a girl after having FIVE boys! Also,note Victoria Beckham. A girl after 3 boys.

My grandma had 2 boys - and then 5 girls. I am not recommending this as a course of action 😂

opinions are like arseholes - everyone’s got one. Your friend sounds mega dumb to say that tho.

I have five boys. I also experienced two miscarriages. One miscarriage was far enough along that we found out it was a girl. After the 2nd one and the subsequent boy pregnancies, my OB told me anecdotally that I was probably unable to carry girls. There were no tests done (if there are any), nothing to base that on except her experience.

Wow. I am exhausted after 2 toddlers, never mind adding another 5 into the mix.

It's all rubbish. I had two boys then a girl. People love to spout at you when you've got two of one! They all say how my girl must have made my life - honestly she's hard work 🤣

does she understand it’s the male who determines the sex of the future child?

Someone actually said that to you?! My goodness! That’s so awful in so many ways. I’m so sorry.

I very much wished for a big bouncy healthy son for my DS's primary school teacher (childless at the time) who repeatedly over the course of a year told the class that girls were better than boys and was a total cowbag to the boy-ish boys.
If I was being kind I'd say maybe she had some residual childhood trauma that she was trying to rectify by belittling these boys and making them feel like crap.