Pissed off to be told I can only 'carry boys'

[Uklady23]

AIBU to be pissed off at this. Two boy children absolutely love them and love being a boy mum.

Recently toyed with the idea of a third, but a friend told me that I can't carry girls I can only birth boys.

This really pissed me off and I don't know why.

I would love a girl, but I also would love a boy. It just the way she said it asif there was something wrong with 1. Me or 2. Having boy children.

I'd be pissed off to discover a friend was that silly.

Sounds like she's jealous that you may have another to me.
Has she got dcs?

I undrrstand you're irritated and it was a stupid thing for her to say. But it is ridiculous. Having a boy or girl is 50/50 pretty much. If you tossed a coin twice and it came up heads both times would you believe you were some dysfunctional human that could only throw heads? Of course not. Also sex is dependent on the sperm not the egg so she should be addressing her stupid comments to your husband, if she has to address them to anyone at all!

My FIL told me this, that his family genetics only creates boys and there's no way we'd have a girl.

We had a girl.

Also there's a good chance you'll have a girl, I know loads that had two of the same and the third the opposite gender. Obviously you could have another boy but it's definitely not a given.

I’d be questioning the friendship. She’s extremely ignorant, and also not very thoughtful towards your feelings. I think taking the piss is the only way to deal with such comments

Extremely weird comment. I mean, if you had five sons not two, or if you'd miscarried a series of girls, it would still be scientific nonsense. She sounds dim. Does she have a daughter? Is she jealous of you in other ways and she's somehow convinced herself that that's the one way she's "doing better" than you or something?

I believe that statistically your third child is likely to be the same as your first two Why?Are you referring to the research that suggested that male chromosomes like a different environment from female chromosomes, so that time of impregnation/ woman's diet both have an effect? so that, eg "A study from 2010 showed that women who ate a diet of low sodium and potassium and high in calcium and magnesium, in conjunction with having intercourse 3-4 days before ovulation increased the chance of having a girl"

I'm not sure whether that finding has been verified.

If you're thinking about the basic Y chromosome = boy, no Y chromosome= X, then there's absolutely no reason why you should be more likely to produce another boy after having two boys.

What a dumb thing to say.
Is she a SMOG by any chance?

I have 2 sisters, all of us have 3 kids
2 boys and then a girl!

My mum had a miscarriage, then me (female) then another miscarriage. She always claims they must have been boys and she can only carry girls. Drives me bonkers! That isn’t how it works…

Is that even possible? I’ve heard of rare genetic disorders meaning a woman will have early miscarriages if it’s a male fetus but I thought firstly that it’s incredibly rare and secondly that it was to do with the Y chromosome so it couldn’t work the other way around so you could have boys but not girls She sounds a bit dim tbh.

Your messages have all made me laugh! I did have a laugh at it at first but have you ever had a comment that just got under your skin.

I'm glad I shared with you lot as you have all made me feel much better about what I know is a ridiculous comment.

I think I am feeling extra sensitive as I have had a few comments recently about the whole gender thing. The usual are you going to keep trying for a girl which is just so frustrating but that's another story!

Eugh I hate that. I miscarried three babies after my son and was told by my friend: 'Maybe they were all girls and you just can't carry a girl?' 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄

People can be really thoughtless.

Why did she say this? Is she somehow qualified in this area?

There is a slightly higher chance of your third being the same sex if you have two of the same sex already, but only tiny.

Just say is she daft? You carry what your dh provided. Nowt to do with you at all really!! Less to do with her!

She is a gym instructor so as qualified as can be! Lol.

My first was a boy and I miscarried my second. I lost count of the amount of people who told me it must have been a girl and I must only be able to carry boys. I've had four daughters since.

I think it can be.

My mum had 7 pregnancies, 3 girls and 4 miscarriages that were all boys, the Dr told her she couldn't carry boys.

Aargh why do people feel the need to do this. It doesn't make a difference to anyone else. The only surprise is when you convince yourself you think you know what your having - like a silly gut feeling and get it "wrong". Fwiw I had two boys, fell pregnant with a third child, we both for whatever reason fully expected another boy (kept clothes etc) and when we found out we were having a girl we were floored. Not in a floaty "wow finally a princess" way, but genuinely surprised! We love her no differently to her brothers but if I had £1 for every time someone said "you kept going for a girl" or "thank god you had a girl now or you'd have 4!" And all that bollocks. We got what we got!

Yabu to take any notice of the stupid shit that comes out of people's mouths.

She’s talking bollocks.

How could she know that, bizarre

Presumably it was a joke?