Pissed off to be told I can only 'carry boys'

[Uklady23]

AIBU to be pissed off at this. Two boy children absolutely love them and love being a boy mum.

Recently toyed with the idea of a third, but a friend told me that I can't carry girls I can only birth boys.

This really pissed me off and I don't know why.

I would love a girl, but I also would love a boy. It just the way she said it asif there was something wrong with 1. Me or 2. Having boy children.

I think it depends on the context. If the background assumption is that girls are better and it's a problem if you have another boy that's such a shit thing to say. I'm a mum of boys and also can't believe how perfectly normal people feel the need to comment, as if I would agree that their random daughter I don't care about is better than my son who I love.

On the other hand, if it was meant just as a light-hearted joke, I think it's fine. A good friend of mine has 6 boys (her own DC + DSC). We've joked that her husband clearly makes boys. In her last pregnancy we joked about there not being any point in her doing a gender reveal or having midwife tell her the sex at her acan. What makes it a silly joke is that there's no implications that having loads of boys is a bad thing! Her last pregnancy was (of course) a boy, and she was obviously delighted with him.

It's so frustrating isn't it. I don't know why people feel the need to comment. I love my boys would not change them for the world. Count my blessings daily if we are lucky enough to have any more then I will be happy regardless of sex!

There are a few genetic disorders that can lead to spontaneous miscarriage of male embryos, but they are very rare. And women who carry the DNA for those disorders typically show other symptoms. Outside of those rare diseases, there's no genetic reason that we know of for someone to have more boys or girls.@MooDeng not impossible with your mum but vanishingly rare for the majority. Plus my mum didn’t even know the sex of the babies she miscarried!

I've seen this touted on here before now, that if you have two girls or two boys you can only carry the same sex.

It is, of course, total rubbish.

Two children you could have
BB, BG, GB or GG so a 50/50 chance that they're both the same.
So that would be half of the population.

There are a few, very few, genetic conditions that only effect one gender. More often only the boys because they're on the Y chromosome.
In which case it could cause a foetus more like to miscarry if it's a boy. However the dad would also have to be effected as it would be his Y chromosome, which produces the issue that obviously he exists, so even then a boy could be carried to full term and survive to adulthood.

So there probably is a very tiny higher probability of having the same for the third, because of that. But it would effect so few people, and the chances are you'd be aware because of the dad, that you can ignore it.

I wouldn't be pissed off, id just think she was a bit thick tbh.

After being in a relationship with my hubby for maybe 6 months he told me we would have 2 boys! We have 2 boys!! I truly believe we would only ever have boys.

my answer to people who said will you try for a girl is the above story plus I bloody wished I’d asked him to predict the lottery numbers on the same day!!!

Okaaaay she's just nuts and rude then.

Ltb

I assume you're pissed off because you've found out that your friend is a thicko

There’s a bit of an old wives tale when someone has experienced several miscarriages and all their children are the same gender then people sometimes say this. I managed to disprove this theory within my own family. I wonder if that’s what your friend is thinking of?

Someone I know was told this after she miscarried two girls and had two healthy boys. It was clearly bollocks as she has healthy 26 yo twin girls now.

People can be ignorant, stupid and/or spiteful. Ignore them.

YABU for listening to her my first three children were girls and then my last was a boy.

Well your friend is misinformed! It’s the man who determines the sex of the baby. All eggs have an X chromosome. If the sperm has an X it’s a girl, if it has a Y the result is a boy. Nothing to do with the woman. It’s a shame Henry VIII didn’t know this - he might not have divorced/murdered his unfortunate wives for not giving him a son if he had!

Crikey, what's she been sniffing?! Possibly the lost property locker...
Honestly, she sounds a bit challenging if that's the level she's pitching her conversation at. Just glaze over and look into the middle distance when she starts 'enlightening' you in future...
Don't take it to heart in the meantime x

What utter nonsense your friend spouts. It's possible, of course, that your DP cannot father girls!

My mum used to say this to me whenever I said how much I'd like a girl after my two boys. One day I told her to stop it and said it felt as though she was putting a curse on me. She was really shocked as she'd thought she was complimenting me - which probably tells you all you need to know about her relationship with her daughters. Not sure what's worse really. People should just zip it.

Weird comment. Would be more understandable if you had 8 boys but with 2 boys I’d say most people would have 50/50 chance of it being a boy or a girl. I had a girl after 2 boys and I know a lot of families that have had 2 children of the same sex then the third is the opposite sex to the other 2.

I'd love to play this lass at roulette.

You should show her this:

I know a lady who had 8 children - 4 boys then 4 girls. If she’d stopped at 4 she might have thought the same. While I’m not recommending you keep going until you have a girl, my point is that this is the way chance works. You’ll love your baby whatever it is.

I had two girls and then when I was pregnant for the third time I kept getting “you must be hoping for a boy this time” remarks all the time. I was in fact hoping for another girl! I had a boy and of course I love him to bits, then a fourth pregnancy and another boy so two of each. Gives the lie to “if you have two the same you can only carry (whichever)”

Your friend is an idiot.

And being a gym instructor has zero bearing on her knowledge of genetics and reproduction

She's an idiot

She's sounds nuts but you getting mad suggests you're only having baby no 3 to get a girl.

I do know a women who's now popped out 5 girls and maintains she's fine with that - when everyone knows she's clearly not! She was desperate for a boy.

You're only annoyed because she's touched a nerve.

You can tell your friend that's not how biology works. She sounds a bit thick.

Well I have 4 girls and 1 boy so her comment is a bit strange isn't it 🤔

Different thing but I always get so frustrated when people act like my son or husband are incredibly devastated to be surrounded by girls. I think they'll be alright. 🙄

It’s absolutely stupid, I have 2 boys and have found out I’m expecting a girl. It’s just luck of the draw, no reason why you would be unable to carry girls!.

I was being sarcastic with my response bout her having full knowledge as shes a gym instructor, inwas just answeringanother comment! I just want to make this clear lol.