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Toddlerteaplease · 2024-10-15T11:44:26+00:00

Kid of about 15 months just wandering round Caffè Nero. She's very interested in the hot drinks on low tables. She's approaching other people and playing with their phones. Mum is completely oblivious on her phone. FFS supervise your toddler!

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 15/10/2024 15:03

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 15/10/2024 14:20

What do you expect a bunch of people on the internet to do 🤔

Aw bless. Is this your first foray into discussion forums?

5iveleafclover · 15/10/2024 15:04

ThatPhotoOfUs · 15/10/2024 13:48

Of course she can start a thread to discuss it, but it's a bit pointless if something is bothering you enough to post about it m, but you don't seem to be posting for a solution, just to moan or more likely to get some attention here.

OP could have just ignored the child or asked the parent to keep her away from others tables due to hot drinks. Instead she's written it like she's addressing the mother in the cafe, like she was just wanted some attention on a thread which always makes me eye roll.

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And you could have just ignored OPs thread instead of moaning about it. The irony.

JudgeJ · 15/10/2024 15:05

MonCoeur · 15/10/2024 12:55

it doesn't bother me, but years ago, I did actually see a little one trip a waitress over, and of course, the parents, who had been studiously ignoring the poor thing up until then, went batshit crazy at said waitress. It was awful. Kids need to be supervised where there are hot liquids about!

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A similar thing happened in a restaurant where the children from one table were running riot, the manager had already asked them to control their off-spring and got a mouthful of invective. I told them the 'bugger off' when they pestered us and gave the manager our phone numbers in case he needed anyone to confirm the appalling lack of child care from the breeders.

ThatPhotoOfUs · 15/10/2024 15:12

And you could have just ignored OPs thread instead of moaning about it. The irony.

I posted advice to ignore the child and get on with her day, or tell the mother/staff. Unlike OP with her faux concern. 😉

5iveleafclover · 15/10/2024 15:16

ThatPhotoOfUs · 15/10/2024 15:12

And you could have just ignored OPs thread instead of moaning about it. The irony.

I posted advice to ignore the child and get on with her day, or tell the mother/staff. Unlike OP with her faux concern. 😉

At no point in any of her posts did OP ask for advice. I'm baffled as to why you're so wound up.

ThatPhotoOfUs · 15/10/2024 15:22

@5iveleafclover

I'm not wound up, just pointing out that OP didn't need to get involved but if she was concerned she could have done something. 😅

MzHz · 15/10/2024 15:26

Toddlerteaplease · 15/10/2024 13:14

The ward I work on is next to the children's burns unit. I'm a bit nervous about toddlers around hot drinks.

Having spent 2 weeks on a burns ward with ds (scalding spill from steam inhalation accident) I know why you’re worried 😟

YANBU

ThianWinter · 15/10/2024 15:40

I would very loudly ask the child where her mother is. Shame the woman into putting down her phone and supervising her toddler.

shellyleppard · 15/10/2024 15:42

I would say excuse me love your darling child is about to have/cause an accident!!!

EverythingIAm · 15/10/2024 15:44

If you were so concerned, why didn't you say something to the mum or a member of staff?

EverythingIAm · 15/10/2024 15:46

These two statements directly contradict each other. If you have a genuine concern for the child's safety then you need to tell someone. If you don't want to address the parent directly then you can tell a member of staff.

Of course, if you just want to froth with like-minded souls about parents today then do crack on, but maybe say as much in your OP.

Yes, all of this.

deeahgwitch · 15/10/2024 16:21

SantasRubiksCube · 15/10/2024 12:48

I agree with you OP, all too often there are parents who can't be arsed to supervise their small children properly but are the first ones to make a big fuss/point a finger of blame at someone else when their child gets hurt.

This 💯

And it breaks my heart to see adults on their phones ignoring their children.
Pushing a buggy, in a cafe - no interaction with their little one.

NoTouch · 15/10/2024 17:05

Toddlerteaplease · 15/10/2024 14:59

Thanks. I was genuinely concerned that she was going to get hurt. However I don't see why I should have to be supervising her. I'm not her parent. Children and hot drinks get me twitchy.

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You didn't have to supervise her, just alert the staff.

I assume they responded when you alerted them?

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 15/10/2024 18:56

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 15/10/2024 15:03

Aw bless. Is this your first foray into discussion forums?

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And what’s the discussion?

OP posted on AIBU, I’d read the OP and her other replies, OP had made it clear she was not going to intervene, so what was the point in posting other than a moan.

Since she posted on AIBU and she made it clear she was not going to do anything, I’d ask again what’s the point!

Common sense tells you the adult should be supervising, they choose not to supervise and OP other than to moan, was not going to intervene, so a pointless discussion that no one on the internet could elaborate on!

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 15/10/2024 18:58

EverythingIAm · 15/10/2024 15:46

These two statements directly contradict each other. If you have a genuine concern for the child's safety then you need to tell someone. If you don't want to address the parent directly then you can tell a member of staff.

Of course, if you just want to froth with like-minded souls about parents today then do crack on, but maybe say as much in your OP.

Yes, all of this.

100% agree

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 15/10/2024 19:13

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 15/10/2024 18:56

And what’s the discussion?

OP posted on AIBU, I’d read the OP and her other replies, OP had made it clear she was not going to intervene, so what was the point in posting other than a moan.

Since she posted on AIBU and she made it clear she was not going to do anything, I’d ask again what’s the point!

Common sense tells you the adult should be supervising, they choose not to supervise and OP other than to moan, was not going to intervene, so a pointless discussion that no one on the internet could elaborate on!

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Like a lot of the posts on forums 🙄

Getonwitit · 15/10/2024 19:55

nolifeleft · 15/10/2024 13:31

So the mother is watching her. You said you don't mind toddlers wandering up when supervised but according to you she is being supervised?

I don't mind toddlers wandering up for a chat either.

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The mother maybe watching but she isn't looking after her child. No doubt she will be the first to scream if her child pulls a hot drink over herself.

SavageTomato · 15/10/2024 22:53

For a forum dedicated to parenting there's a remarkable tolerance of relying on complete strangers to parent your children. I'd honestly walk out. No way am I looking after stray kids because their actual parents can't be fucking arsed. Cop yourselves on. Or are you admitting that you don't want to parent and just farming it out without checking that's okay? Surely not, you all love parenting so much, yes?

ThatPhotoOfUs · 16/10/2024 03:40

SavageTomato · 15/10/2024 22:53

For a forum dedicated to parenting there's a remarkable tolerance of relying on complete strangers to parent your children. I'd honestly walk out. No way am I looking after stray kids because their actual parents can't be fucking arsed. Cop yourselves on. Or are you admitting that you don't want to parent and just farming it out without checking that's okay? Surely not, you all love parenting so much, yes?

You would walk out? Why not just ignore the child and carry on with your day if you didn't want to tell the parent/staff to move the child.

Lots of shit parents don't watch their children properly, I don't then think I need to watch their children for them. As much as I feel sorry for the kids, they're not my problem.

Sheaintheavyshesmymother · 16/10/2024 08:10

Boobygravy · 15/10/2024 14:38

How can she get an uber with a toddler and presumably no car seat?

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In this completely hypothetical scenario she has ordered an Uber with a car seat 😂

Sharptonguedwoman · 16/10/2024 18:16

HappierTimesAhead · 15/10/2024 12:46

And you are on your phone here

It’s not her child?

Deeperthantheocean · 16/10/2024 18:23

Sadly it's the same in so many places, a parent who cba to supervise a toddler. If they are wandering about, put bloody phone away and observe the dangers and reactions of people! Many times I've kept an eye out on them and loudly said oh be careful there, hot drinks, big step, loud enough for parent to hear.

Autumnismyfavouritetimeofyear · 16/10/2024 18:39

Ivehearditbothways · 15/10/2024 12:47

“Excuse me, your child is trying to grab hot drinks. Can you keep her at your table please.”

I’ve said that before. No one punched me in the face. And the staff finally paid attention and also chimed in.

You’re watching a dangerous situation. You have a voice. Use it.

I find the kind of people who do this kind of thing do not usually take well to you saying anything to them. Why is it OPs responsibility to keep that toddler safe when her stupid mother is right there?

laraitopbanana · 16/10/2024 18:54

hi op,

with the new tech…I am afraid things will look more and more like this! And with the disappearance of the « village »…women may not have any other option to get a break.

Gosh. Just poor babe.

glowfrog · 16/10/2024 19:19

So because it's not your job to supervise a toddler, you're fine letting the toddler potentially hurt themselves pretty badly? Which you're extra nervous about because you've seen the consequences yourself? So nervous, it seems, that you need to go online to talk about it?

Do you not see how that makes no sense?