Get off your phone and supervise your toddler!

[Toddlerteaplease]

Kid of about 15 months just wandering round Caffè Nero. She's very interested in the hot drinks on low tables. She's approaching other people and playing with their phones. Mum is completely oblivious on her phone. FFS supervise your toddler!

Lots of defensive people on this thread...

Have you used forums before?

What is their purpose?

Then if you don't want to speak to mum speak to a member of staff

But you said she is "new watching her approach other tables" (sic) so they are being supervised.

Why should she?

She's venting her frustration on a forum not seeking a confrontation

Not proper supervision is it? You are letting your kid approach people who are having hot drinks and may not want a kid coming over

You don't sit and watch...you put your phone away,get up off your arse and take hold of your child

The parent sounds rubbish, but no one is making you supervise this child. Why are you taking that upon yourself? Just get on with what you're doing and ignore the child.

I had children being rowdy next to my table - whilst parent was across the other side of large coffee shop (deep in conversation with friend) - I told them not to be rowdy as id com to have a chat and we couldn't hear ourselves talk.

Children went back to parents table and then parent came over to address me telling children not to be rowdy - along with all 5 of the children, and thats it not my place to be parenting her children and she'd be taking them back with her so they were safe

It was as if she thought I wanted to be parenting her children and don't want her to take them away!

I uttered one word - result and he stomped off

and I carried on with my friend and the conversation in peace

And indeed... what did you hope to achieve from yours? Most odd 🤔

Perhaps ask the child if they have lost their mummy?

So the mother is watching her. You said you don't mind toddlers wandering up when supervised but according to you she is being supervised?

I don't mind toddlers wandering up for a chat either.

We went camping last year in a well known seaside town in Norfolk. We went for dinner at a little Italian. Owners daughter decided to join us and no one removed her. They all thought it was cute. She hit me and DH and was rude to DD. It’s the most bizarre meal I’ve ever had. She was about 6 though not a toddler. Apparently she does it all the time.

Get up, gently take the child by the hand and guide her back to her mother. Pleasantly say, 'so many hot drinks around - I'd hate for her to get hurt'. She will get the message.

Why didn't you remove her?

If you didn't want her there - just remove her back to her parents.

Whose fault will it be if toddler pulls a hot drink on himself?

Not so cute then is it?

Is everyone on the table the toddler has approached expected to move away hot drinks, gather everything out of reach?

What did the staff say when you told then the toddler was in danger of being scalded on their premises?

Yet another thread where OP is getting really unpleasant responses for no reason.

OP is allowed to be concerned for the child. She is allowed to be annoyed and frustrated by the adult supposedly supervising the child. And she is allowed to start a thread on MN about it.

I must say I would also be concerned and annoyed but I would also not be happy about going over and saying anything to the adult because I can predict what the reaction would be. And I really don't like having rows with strangers when I'm out trying to enjoy a bit of relaxation and a coffee.

Her parents weren’t there. She was meant to be in the flat upstairs whilst they were working in the kitchen. We tried to tell the waiting staff but they didn’t seem to be able to do anything.

she only got moved when I told the waitress she was eating the candle wax of the candle they kept lighting and she kept blowing out and then she got angry and hit me

But as a decent human being it is, from a certain perspective, your job to look after the safety of very small and hapless humans if the people who should be looking out for their safety are falling down on the job.

Mention it to a member of staff, that there is toddles grabbing at peoples hot drinks on the tables and she is unsupervised and they can go say something.

Or personally, I would pick her up and take her back to her mum

Quite.

That's annoying, but if you are worried about toddler getting hurt, please notify member of the staff or take them to their mother

Of course she can start a thread to discuss it, but it's a bit pointless if something is bothering you enough to post about it m, but you don't seem to be posting for a solution, just to moan or more likely to get some attention here.

OP could have just ignored the child or asked the parent to keep her away from others tables due to hot drinks. Instead she's written it like she's addressing the mother in the cafe, like she was just wanted some attention on a thread which always makes me eye roll.