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To not recognise Kemi Badenoch's views on ASD?

187 replies

Locutus2000 · 14/10/2024 15:22

The likely next leader of His Majesty's opposition

The Tory leadership candidate Kemi Badenoch has been criticised for a campaign pamphlet that said autistic people received “better treatment” and “economic privileges and protections”.

A pamphlet published by Badenoch’s campaign team at the Conservative party conference argued that conditions such as anxiety, as well as an autism diagnosis, had gone from something “people should work on themselves as individuals” to “something that society, schools, and employers have to adapt around”

I'd love to know what improved treatment and economic privileges I should be getting - maybe I forgot to apply.

What do Kemi supporters find attractive?

Badenoch criticised for pamphlet’s ‘stigmatising’ remarks on autism

Former cabinet colleague of Tory leadership candidate says ‘muddled’ campaign essay does not take ‘correct approach’

https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2024/oct/14/kemi-badenoch-conservative-leadership-autism-campaign-pamphlet

OP posts:
Notonthestairs · 15/10/2024 09:12

Coruscations · 15/10/2024 09:09

If she objects to the provision of school transport, how does she suggest parents of disabled children get them to school when there are not enough special schools so their school is miles away? Has she not noticed that many disabled children tend to go to a different school from their siblings?

Well removing transport can only make parents of disabled kids more employable right?

Soukmyfalafel · 15/10/2024 09:17

Fivebyfive2 · 15/10/2024 07:54

Unfortunately (and worryingly) you only need to read some threads on here to realise it's not just rich, old, white men who think autism and other conditions are basically made up or exaggerated so that people can get "free money" and despite hundreds of level, informed replies trying to educate them, they just keep going. I actually wouldn't be surprised if many many mn posters agreed wholeheartedly with this vile excuse for a human. A very sad state of affairs.

Well they are pretty hard of thinking then aren't they? The shit state of services is probably going to cost more in the long run, because you also have to treat the disability and then the MH issues too.

Utter idiots.

It is annoying that it is assumed carers of these children don't work. Even services wrongly assume this and even the people who run support groups. I can't access any support because it's only offered in office hours because I'm bloody working! It is probably because so many people are actually forced out of their jobs and have to claim benefits because of the dire state of education and children's services. 3/4 parents have to change or reduce hours or give up work entirely to accommodate their children's needs because of no holiday/after school clubs, or because they are out of school or on a reduced time table. Sometimes just because of the stress of it all. If they don't like reliance on benefits then sort the bloody issues out. 😒

Nowdontmakeamess · 15/10/2024 09:22

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 15/10/2024 08:51

@GherkinJar she also complains about autistic employees having protections, getting reasonable adjustments etc. with a telling emphasis on how you don't have to disclose anything until after you've been hired. So I think her views on businesses being allowed to not hire someone because they're autistic are clear.

But it's ok - her spokesman has said it "would be wrong to infer any prejudice".

You would think being from a minority group that required laws to be brought in to protect against racism and exclusion in employment she would have more empathy towards other groups that suffer prejudice.

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 09:39

Coruscations · 15/10/2024 09:05

Have you tried to get extra help for your son? Surely you realise that it really is not a case of just being able to say "My child is sick, I want special treatment for him?" It's incredibly hard to get an EHCP, you really do not get one without strong professional evidence. Likewise no-one is diagnosed with autism without strong evidence. If we don't make basic accommodations for autism, we risk losing a lot of valuable people from the working population.

I assure you that getting a EHCP is just a matter of saying the right things at the right time. Given my experience I was pretty good at it. I also know a great deal of people who have got themselves signed off and special treatment for a wide variety of different things that really don't affect them working at all, but yet they still sponge off you and me. And plenty of people are diagnosed with autism without strong evidence, its just a matter of paying for the referral and making the right noises.

I'm autistic. I run my own successful business. I have zero patience for lazy fakers and I seem to be surrounded by them.

Whenwillitgetwarm · 15/10/2024 09:48

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 15/10/2024 09:03

I agree.

I think Jenrick will win this leadership contest, but that Cleverly will be the leader for the next election.

I also agree. I think the centrists realise the extremists need to fully burn out or split the party for the party to rise again. A couple of years of Jenrick or Badenoch will result in total humiliation. Cleverly will come back in a couple of years and push them back to the centre and make them electable again like Cameron.

Whenwillitgetwarm · 15/10/2024 09:52

Nowdontmakeamess · 15/10/2024 09:22

You would think being from a minority group that required laws to be brought in to protect against racism and exclusion in employment she would have more empathy towards other groups that suffer prejudice.

There are self serving grifters in every group. She, like Braverman believes she and her loved ones will be treated differently so will say anything for money and power egged on by some shady people on the shadows. I wonder if either of them would have felt safe walking close to one of the summer riots?

Soukmyfalafel · 15/10/2024 09:53

Vinvertebrate · 15/10/2024 08:23

Fair point @Whenwillitgetwarm - I wasn’t paying much attention (to any candidate) until now. It’s also fair to say I wouldn’t bother to join the party in its current parlous state, but I did want to vote for a woman (especially a WOC) to lead the party.

I think we need to focus on the quality of the candidate. It she is an utter laughing stock and keeps putting her foot in it, it is only going to be bad news for other potential PMs who are WOC.

Truss did not do anything to help future female PMs.

Likewise having WOC in roles being completely divisive, like home secretary or leader of the opposition, is just not going to end well either.

'Straight talking' is just another term that really means 'can't be arsed to do any detailed research before opening their mouth and being divisive'. The public do see through that. I don't mind straight talking and honesty if it comes from an informed place and actually serves the public (which is what they are employed to do), but it doesn't. It comes from laziness. The fact that she doesn't understand that special school places are limited and kids have to travel miles to them (therefore need funded transport), but still happens to shoot her mouth off about it being a privilege is a sign of a very lazy, poor quality politician. It is needed because there isn't provision close to where people live. She doesn't even seem to understand the actual legislation that underpins special education either and why it exists.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 15/10/2024 09:54

She’s a v right wing, deliberately polarising character. The Tory Nigel Farage.

Whenwillitgetwarm · 15/10/2024 09:56

As an aside, I’m not sure I’m comfortable with Badenoch being held to a different standard of empathy due to being a black female. Many white women work full time to support the patriarchy when it’s in their interests.

As a mixed raced woman I notice there’s often an expectation that a black woman’s role is to support everyone else and if they don’t do this some people get entitled and angry. I can’t stand Badenoch and am against everything she says but she has a right to be as selfish as anyone else. Black woman are not the worlds social workers.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 15/10/2024 09:56

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 09:39

I assure you that getting a EHCP is just a matter of saying the right things at the right time. Given my experience I was pretty good at it. I also know a great deal of people who have got themselves signed off and special treatment for a wide variety of different things that really don't affect them working at all, but yet they still sponge off you and me. And plenty of people are diagnosed with autism without strong evidence, its just a matter of paying for the referral and making the right noises.

I'm autistic. I run my own successful business. I have zero patience for lazy fakers and I seem to be surrounded by them.

run my own successful business. I have zero patience for lazy fakers and I seem to be surrounded by them

What type of business is this that you are surrounding yourself with "lazy fakers"?

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 10:07

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 15/10/2024 09:56

run my own successful business. I have zero patience for lazy fakers and I seem to be surrounded by them

What type of business is this that you are surrounding yourself with "lazy fakers"?

clearly not people who work for me FFS

Fivebyfive2 · 15/10/2024 10:08

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 09:39

I assure you that getting a EHCP is just a matter of saying the right things at the right time. Given my experience I was pretty good at it. I also know a great deal of people who have got themselves signed off and special treatment for a wide variety of different things that really don't affect them working at all, but yet they still sponge off you and me. And plenty of people are diagnosed with autism without strong evidence, its just a matter of paying for the referral and making the right noises.

I'm autistic. I run my own successful business. I have zero patience for lazy fakers and I seem to be surrounded by them.

My son's was refused - our la basically refuse all requests and they have to be taken to tribunal.

My friend has a daughter who is diagnosed and none verbal. She starts school next year (summer born so was deferred) The Sen school only takes pupils with a diagnosis AND and ehcps already in place. But her la are refusing ALL reception age children and younger on the basis that they can wait until year one. She was literally told this by the LA's senco. They are going ahead to tribunal and are hoping to get it in time for her to go to the special school, but the likelihood is that it will take too long. She'll have to attend mainstream in reception and struggle, then hope she can move to the Sen school later.

How exactly is any of this "just saying the right thing at the right time" or "being lazy"??

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 10:08

Whenwillitgetwarm · 15/10/2024 09:48

I also agree. I think the centrists realise the extremists need to fully burn out or split the party for the party to rise again. A couple of years of Jenrick or Badenoch will result in total humiliation. Cleverly will come back in a couple of years and push them back to the centre and make them electable again like Cameron.

Labour are polling at 31, Tories and Reform combined polling at 41. It's not centrists who will win the next election, it's a tory party that embraces reforms immigration stance.

Soukmyfalafel · 15/10/2024 10:10

Sounds like she works in government.

I assure you that getting a EHCP is just a matter of saying the right things at the right time. Given my experience I was pretty good at it.

And this above. Why would you admit to taking the piss yourself then get pissed off that other people that do it? That's pretty dishonest and not fair on people in genuine need, but it doesn't mean everyone does it.

Given that people need tribunals now to just get assessed for an EHCP, I'm thinking this is not genuine. This is a 💩🤖

Saschka · 15/10/2024 10:10

Skirtandshirt · 14/10/2024 16:09

What do Kemi supporters find attractive

”She knows what a woman is!!!” 🙄

Yep, apparently a woman is a scrounger stealing SMP from hardworking taxpayers 🙄

SerendipityJane · 15/10/2024 10:11

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 15/10/2024 09:03

I agree.

I think Jenrick will win this leadership contest, but that Cleverly will be the leader for the next election.

Both have been rejected by the 2024 electorate though.

If the tory party is to ever win again, I believe the person to do it has yet to be born.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 15/10/2024 10:15

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 10:07

clearly not people who work for me FFS

So if they don't work for you, why are they surrounding you?

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 10:16

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 15/10/2024 10:15

So if they don't work for you, why are they surrounding you?

Ex friends and family - surely you don't think that the exponential rise in people sitting on their arses doing fuck all whilst claiming sickness benefits is based on people really being sick do you?

TooBigForMyBoots · 15/10/2024 10:17

I assure you that getting a EHCP is just a matter of saying the right things at the right time. Given my experience I was pretty good at it.

Are you saying you got your EHCP because you just said the right things at the right time and dont have autism at all @Zahariel?Confused

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 15/10/2024 10:17

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 10:16

Ex friends and family - surely you don't think that the exponential rise in people sitting on their arses doing fuck all whilst claiming sickness benefits is based on people really being sick do you?

Yes, I do as it so happens.

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 10:17

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 15/10/2024 10:17

Yes, I do as it so happens.

Well, then you sir are really very very gullible. And also generous with your taxes. I am not, on either count.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 15/10/2024 10:18

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 10:17

Well, then you sir are really very very gullible. And also generous with your taxes. I am not, on either count.

I'm neither.

I've attended more WCA's than you've had hot dinners chum.

Notonthestairs · 15/10/2024 10:18

"Labour are polling at 31, Tories and Reform combined polling at 41. It's not centrists who will win the next election, it's a tory party that embraces reforms immigration stance."
If you are combining polling I have no idea why you are ignoring the LDs and Greens.

Vinvertebrate · 15/10/2024 10:19

I'm autistic. I run my own successful business. I have zero patience for lazy fakers and I seem to be surrounded by them

Then you should know that you are not representative of all autistic people. My son is also “just” autistic, diagnosed at age 3. He will never work or live independently, despite the fact that his education costs the LA more than a place at Eton because the current system is so utterly stacked against children unable to cope in mainstream.

Zahariel · 15/10/2024 10:20

TooBigForMyBoots · 15/10/2024 10:17

I assure you that getting a EHCP is just a matter of saying the right things at the right time. Given my experience I was pretty good at it.

Are you saying you got your EHCP because you just said the right things at the right time and dont have autism at all @Zahariel?Confused

I'm saying that autism has made me especially good at manipulating people to be perfectly honest.

I don't have an EHCP, but I could get one with trifling ease. Getting any sort of diagnosis you want is a matter of paying the right people and saying the right things, nothing more. You can go online and look at people claiming the same things, reddit, anywhere, then you regurgitate those "facts" and lo - you have ADHD / Long Covid / ME / Anxiety - anything you like.