To tell MIL we are no longer having a party

[Downandout21]

Having a party on the weekend just in the afternoon, early evening.

As all the children coming are around DDs age she has decided it's her party and told nanny she is having one.

MIL has now invited herself to the party.

It's not really like a birthday party the type MIL thinks it is, more a couple of mine and DHs friends with their kids having a get together, wine and beer for the adults and some games and crafts for the kids.

Two of mine and DHs friends live local, the one that doesn't is staying over night

MIL lives nearly 2 hours a way and doesn't drive meaning either myself or DH will have to drive her home after the get together.

I feel awful telling her it's not really a party as in what she thinks, but more a social gathering with friends, if it was a kids party she would most definitely be top of the list, but don't really think it's her scene sitting with a bunch of 30 somethings having a few drinks and moaning about the daily grind.

AIBU to tell her we are no longer having it?

You could do a small lie… tell MIL that people dropped out so you decided to cancel and just invite 2 close friends with their kids instead and will see her another time.

Im quite an awkward person though and would find that easier to say rather than ‘it’s not actually a party so you’re not invited’ 😂

This is such an easy fix - just be honest. There's no reason to lie over something so simple.

It's not a party, it's a piss up with mates and they're staying over so there's no room for her.

She can't make plans around the random things 4 year olds say.

Also, why isn't DH dealing with this?

This is good

So....did you tell her?