To have gender euphoria?

Nell1974 · 12/10/2024 20:54

I had a daughter after two sons (and had been told the baby was another boy at a late scan) and I have to admit, I was pretty euphoric. She's all grown up now and I am still delighted to have a daughter as well as my lovely sons.

Stormyweatheroutthere · 12/10/2024 20:57

After 6 ds's I was pretty chuffed to have 2 dd's... Not so chuffed when they hit teen years at just a year apart.....
1 is 19 and out the other side. Her dsis isn't in a hurry to follow suit...

ThatsNotMyTeen · 12/10/2024 20:59

This was not what I expected this thread to be about 😂

purpleme12 · 12/10/2024 21:00

What do you mean though?
You can't constantly be on a high so in that respect it would wear off....
But I very much doubt that even if the child is challenging people think oh actually I do wish I had a boy even though I always wanted a girl....

CableCar · 12/10/2024 21:01

The buzz has not worn off for me. I was beyond delighted to have a girl after having my DS... And I often think how pleased I am that I have a daughter. Although I suspect it is her lovely personality that delights me, as opposed to her sex, but she is a stereotypical girl through and through, and I love it!

VivianLea · 12/10/2024 21:08

I think you love the child you have. So if you wanted a boy and got one, you'll probably always be happy about It, just because you love your boy.

SeptemberSunglasses · 12/10/2024 21:26

My husband really wanted a boy and we had one, but he doesn't fit into gender stereotypes at all. You just get what you're given regardless of gender.

GiddyRobin · 12/10/2024 21:30

I have one of each. We were both equally chuffed both times around, neither of us cared. You get what you get. We didn't do the sexing scans, just picked names for either and bought nice clothes/toys from girls and boys ranges.

blahblahblahhhhh · 12/10/2024 21:36

I felt my 1st was a girl. I was over the moon when it was confirmed and she was born. She was my little best friend. Then I had a boy and everyone said I was so lucky to have one of each.

My eldest is now 13 and identifies as a trans masc. So I have 2 boys now. It’s been tricky to say the least but I love them exactly the same.

Id say to expecting moms don’t get too tied up in it, a girl may not want shopping sprees and spa days, a boy may not want football and karate etc but you will likely adore them either way.

StressedQueen · 12/10/2024 21:46

Hmm I mean my first were twins so I was more buzzed about the idea of having twins! The fact that they were girls did make me really happy but it was more that they were twins. Then when I had my 3rd, it was a boy, and I was so happy to have a son after having 2 girls. When I had my 4th and 5th though, I genuinely didn't care and was over the moon to have 2 more girls and would've been the exact same amount of happy to have 2 more boys. I think you get what you get regardless of gender but I am still very happy that I got to experience both.

Motherrr · 12/10/2024 21:52

StressedQueen · 12/10/2024 21:46

Hmm I mean my first were twins so I was more buzzed about the idea of having twins! The fact that they were girls did make me really happy but it was more that they were twins. Then when I had my 3rd, it was a boy, and I was so happy to have a son after having 2 girls. When I had my 4th and 5th though, I genuinely didn't care and was over the moon to have 2 more girls and would've been the exact same amount of happy to have 2 more boys. I think you get what you get regardless of gender but I am still very happy that I got to experience both.

Did you have twins again?

StressedQueen · 12/10/2024 21:53

Motherrr · 12/10/2024 21:52

Did you have twins again?

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No I didn't, they were individual births

Hoardasurass · 12/10/2024 21:54

onionsandcarrot · 12/10/2024 20:50

When I see posts about gender disappointment everyone always quickly reassures the OP that they will get over it quickly.

I am not actually sure that this is always the case.

But I am wondering if this automatically goes the other way, if you get the gender you wanted if the buzz wears off.

(and yes I know. Sex not gender. But I am not having a post titled sex euphoria.)

I think you might want to look up the term "gender euphoria" before you use in the real world @onionsandcarrot 😆

yeshimabet · 12/10/2024 22:01

Yeah, you need to have a google of that phrase, I think,... 😂

NameChange30 · 12/10/2024 22:02

I wanted a girl (like a lot of women I guess) and when I found out DC1 was a boy I was initially disappointed but quickly got over that thankfully, and of course after he was born thought he was perfect and wouldn't have changed him for the world.
When pregnant with my second I still thought I'd like a girl but also, having had a boy, knew that I'd love another boy just as much. I felt it was win-win, if a girl I'd have one of each and if a boy, it might be nice for them to have a brother (yes I know boy/girl siblings can be close but I know of more same sex siblings who are closer).
When I found out DC2 was a girl I was pleased, but I also had a little cry for the boy who could have been. Seems a bit weird now I'm saying it, but I guess it might have been partly pregnancy hormones and the emotions associated with having another baby - I felt guilty towards DC1 that he wouldn't have me to himself any more.

Sorry for rambly post. In short, I did feel happy DC2 was a girl, but also felt a bit guilty about those feelings because DC1 was a boy and I was initially a bit disappointed... and euphoria was not really something I experienced in either pregnancy god I'm glad I'm never going to be pregnant again

Busby88 · 12/10/2024 22:14

Weirdly I didn’t mind either way since we found out we were having a second boy, but now he’s here I do get a buzz at how lucky I am to have two boys. I guess that’s probably more to do with the child though and would have been the same either way, but in my head it’s definitely a buzz at being lucky enough to have another boy that’s not worn off yet.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/10/2024 22:17

I kind of did a little bit when I found out my second was a girl. I wouldn't have minded two boys but I am excited that I get to experience being a boy mum and a girl mum.

mynameiscalypso · 12/10/2024 22:24

I was absolutely delighted that DS was a boy. I couldn't imagine myself as being a parent to a girl although I can't really articulate the reason why. I still feel that way but now that DS is 5, I don't really think about it because he's not some abstract 'boy' now but a person in and of himself.

TheBirdintheCave · 12/10/2024 22:56

I do feel euphoric sometimes when I look at my children. I still can't believe they're mine sometimes. Each one took nearly two years and various medical procedures and losses to achieve. They're my miracles ❤️

In terms of sex... yes I was elated that my second was a girl (as our first was a boy) and my dream combo was one of each.

MyStylish40s · 13/10/2024 09:04

I wouldn’t quite go as far as calling it euphoria, but yes, it was lovely to have both, and I was very happy.

I’m sure that it’s equally lovely to have all boys and all girls!

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onionsandcarrot · 13/10/2024 09:13

TheBirdintheCave · 12/10/2024 22:56

I do feel euphoric sometimes when I look at my children. I still can't believe they're mine sometimes. Each one took nearly two years and various medical procedures and losses to achieve. They're my miracles ❤️

In terms of sex... yes I was elated that my second was a girl (as our first was a boy) and my dream combo was one of each.

Not what I remember but OK.

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5128gap · 13/10/2024 09:20

I wanted to have both sexes. At the time of pregnancy I wasn't particularly bothered about the sex but always harboured a hope that I'd have both daughter/s and sons/s. I did and no, the joy of that has never worn off for me. I'm constantly thankful I've been able to parent a daughter and constantly thankful I've been able to parent sons.

ridl14 · 13/10/2024 09:33

Totally great! I would have been happy with either gender but really felt like it was a boy (21 weeks now, found out at 17). My husband leaned towards girl but also happy with either. We're both over the moon to be having a little boy and when we went for the 20 week scan DH was saying he would feel really sad (as would I) if it then turned out we were having a girl as we already felt so attached to the idea of our little one.

Seems to be a lot of posters on other threads wanting girls (which is great, girls are amazing!) and I had wondered before finding out if I'd feel like I was missing out on anything not sharing a gender with my child, passing on certain experiences etc. Since we found out I'm just so happy, would happily have all boys for any future children and can't imagine wanting our children to be any different than who they are and how they come and finding so much joy in the little people we've created. Genuinely don't think gender makes much difference or defines personality either!

PurpleChrayn · 13/10/2024 09:36

I've been absolutely delighted both times. I walked home from my 20 week scan with DD on an absolute cloud.

Likewise, when I opened the NIPT results email and saw that DC2 was male, I felt like I'd won the lottery.

Waitingfordoggo · 13/10/2024 10:01

onionsandcarrot · 13/10/2024 09:13

Not what I remember but OK.

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That’s a bit of a strange response! What did you mean by it?