To be worried about who im due to marry

[rorymary]

We are getting married in 6months, I'm honestly doubting myself.

We have a young child together, plus a child each from previous relationships. It was all great to start with, even up until after ds was born then the cracks started.

Trouble with his family. His negativity, his influence on my dd, such as swearing and general teasing, in a "jokey" way.

Recently he has been so grumpy and angry, i feel like im walking on eggshells. Not because im scared of him, it's more just to be aware incase i need to stop him swearing out of anger infront of the kids or generally bringing the mood down.

Am i nuts to be marrying him?

Of course there are good things about him, but i honestly struggle to care about them when he gets like this

I genuinely hope the OP comes back, and listens carefully to some of the poster's who have been through the same thing and had the same doubts.

I would not marry him. He is making jokey comments to your daughter that are not funny. In fact I say that your daughter hates him doing this. Then he is angry and could be a man who is just looking for a reason to give out or fight over the smallest thing. Men like him can be worse if they have had a few drinks.
You are aware of what the rest of his family are like as well and he sounds like them.
If he is like this 6 months before the wedding he is showing you his true colours and it will get worse after you get married. He had kids before you met him and you had a daughter before you got pregnant with his baby.
I would end things with him and sort out child maintenance with the CMS. Let him see his child but don't make your life, your daughter and the baby's life a misery by marrying him.

If you marry him your going to end up in an unhappy marriage and your daughter will end up with a horrible childhood. She will resent you for putting her through this.
Your the adult here and it time to end things with him for everyone sake.

If you are having doubts don't do it

I agree with previous posts, red flags, listen to your gut instinct. If you marry this man, it will get worse, not better. Get out of this relationship asap. Good luck with your future and find someone deserving of you.

Plenty of people I know whose marriages broke down saw there were red flags beforehand but ignored them...