To be worried about who im due to marry

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We are getting married in 6months, I'm honestly doubting myself.

We have a young child together, plus a child each from previous relationships. It was all great to start with, even up until after ds was born then the cracks started.

Trouble with his family. His negativity, his influence on my dd, such as swearing and general teasing, in a "jokey" way.

Recently he has been so grumpy and angry, i feel like im walking on eggshells. Not because im scared of him, it's more just to be aware incase i need to stop him swearing out of anger infront of the kids or generally bringing the mood down.

Am i nuts to be marrying him?

Of course there are good things about him, but i honestly struggle to care about them when he gets like this

Imagine how miserable you’ll feel on the morning of your wedding. That thought should be enough to halt the proceedings now before it’s too late.

Doesn’t sound good at all, I’d end it. Do you really want to spend your life walking on eggshells? Tiptoeing around? It’s no way to live.

Make your money safe. Ensure your independence.
Step parents can be lovely, for sure, but they are also the biggest predictor of child abuse by a massive margin. Just so you know.

If you're doubting yourself, you know the answer.

No please don't marry him. Listen to your instincts. They are trying to tell you something to keep you and your baby safe.

If you're asking this question, it means you shouldn't marry him.

If this were my daughter telling me this, I would advise her not to marry.

Don't do it, wish I had listened to my gut, foolishly I ignored it and paid the price

You should never ever marry someone you have to be on eggshells around. How can it ever get better? It won't.

Nope. You have doubts. Listen to them.

Don’t do it OP, those doubts are there for a reason.

It will not improve and don’t marry him. Divorce is hard, harder than being alone. A bad marriage is worse than a divorce.

Do not marry him
The feeling in your gut should be excitement, not anxiety.
Trust your gut

Anyone teasing my daughter in a "jokey" way wouldn't be seeing me again never mind marrying me.

Definitely don't marry him. It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship 😕

Anyone teasing my daughter in a "jokey" way wouldn't be seeing me again never mind marrying me.

This!

Your children need you to protect them OP.

Nothing worse than an angry man. Or a man that teases children . Don’t marry him, listen to what your gut is saying.

"Am i nuts to be marrying him?"

Yes.

Wish I'd listened to my gut telling me pretty much exactly this sort of thing before my first marriage. I exited after I got pregnant, and my second marriage (20+ years in) is great, but I'd rather have sidestepped the divorce part. Good luck.

You should have been prioritizing your daughter instead of bringing an angry, abusive man into her vulnerable life, and compounding the situation with another baby. I feel so sorry for her.

Get rid.

Follow you instinct. Don’t marry him.

Don’t marry him.
seriously.
You have a gut for this very reason
Its shouting at you!
Pay attention to it 😐

Don't marry him. He should be making you feel fantastic if it's 6 months before, not feeling like you do now. It's not worth being with someone who doesn't enhance your life, you'd be infinitely better off without him. It's much easier not to marry now, rather than divorce later.

Don't marry him. Don't marry him. DON'T MARRY HIM.

Listen to your gut.