To hate my areoles with a passion

[increasinglyconcerned]

They've always been large. A boy at school kindly told people I had 'burger nips' before I knew what that meant.

I've always been so self conscious of them. When I had DC I couldn't breastfeed in public because unlike other people who could fit an entire areola in baby's mouth, mine spread across what felt like my entire boob and was especially dark due to pregnancy hormones.

I tried to use cover shawls but people kept asking me why I used it. In the end I gave up and just pumped/bottle fed in public.

Now I'm back with a newborn and so upset I can't just enjoy my breastfeeding journey again. I see mum's just causally putting their newborns on their boob without anything on show, and posting breastfeeding pics of literally a boob and a baby.....

I've decided as soon as breastfeeding is done I'm going to treat myself to getting them reduced. My boobs are a good size so no implants but maybe a lift.

Is this wild? I just feel like I want to do it for me. Does anyone else have something they hate and want to change just for themselves?

Meh. Mine too. Still breastfed my kids in public. No one gives a shit. Honestly, no one is looking or cares. Please get some therapy about this rather than having unnecessary surgery.

Agree with this, absolutely hot!
Plus who is looking at your breastfeeding that closely to know anyway?

How big should they be?

I'm amazed people have asked you why you cover up when feeding. Out and about I see more women using some sort of cover than I see feeding without, and most criticism levelled at breastfeeding women seems to relate to NOT being sufficiently discreet for the liking of uptight onlookers.

I have large breasts and if I'd fed with no cover, everyone in a five mile vicinity would have had an eye full! Have you tried feeding in a wrap sling? I found that the easiest way to feed, even at home, with the baby upright and a muslin rolled under my breast. You couldn't see anything but the baby's head unless you were standing directly over me looking down.

I always used a muslin cloth to give privacy when breastfeeding when out. Nothing to do with my view on my breasts just a bit of modesty for all. Not one person has ever commented.

That doesn’t stop men hiding cameras in changing rooms or taking pictures up skirts on the tube though does it?

Cant see where I’ve told you to shut up though, looks more like you’re the one policing who can speak.

@LunaNorth a raphe is the ‘seam’ or line where the two sides of a scrotum meet. A ball bag divider. A walnut zip.

Mine are huge. Who cares. Pop em out just to enjoy the sun here. Never had a complaint from any man who’s seen them.

16 year old boys are not exactly known for being the kindest at times. Probably insecure about something of his own and picked a thing to beat you with to feel better.

You have two children and presumably a partner who loves you. No, you shouldn’t be undertaking a voluntary and risky surgery because of your nipples. The work you need to do is on your mind, so start there.

I mean this kindly OP (I am a person with insecurities too) but this occupying your mind and affecting how you live is not important. It's also not part of your identity.

When you are next breastfeeding or pausing - think about what you are really grateful for. Make that the person you are. Who do you want to be?

Life is full of these little niggles. Don't let it take up space in your head. This is the only body you get.

Team ‘burger nips’ over here too! I used to hate them, now I love them. This isn’t a term I’d usually subscribe to, but for want of a better word, they make me feel “womanly”.

Mine are huge as are my nipples, to the point I joke I’ve got more nipple than boob as I’m not blessed in that department either. All of my babies struggled to fit my nipple in their mouths 🙈

Thankfully it’s never actually bothered me but I can imagine how hard it must be when you’re self conscious of them.

What I would say is, feed your baby regardless of where you are and what you feel people may be thinking about your breasts. Never have I encountered a breastfeeding mum and thought of anything other that it’s lovely to see ☺️

That is unfair, you wouldn't forget something like this. As a young girl, probably the first boy to see her body, and him saying that would badly knock op's confidence at that time. Getting over something, and healing doesn't mean you forget all memory of it. I still remember being sexualy assaulted when I was 17/18, and the sheer terror I felt when he just wouldn't stop.
I also suspect op is comparing when seeing others, something I think most of us do.
Op breastfeed your er baby if you want to!
You're beautiful, and all breasts come in different shapes and sizes , nipps too. They're all normal!

Chopping bits of yourself off because of something a twat of a 16 year old boy said would be madness surely? No one except your OH is going to see your nipples once you stop BFing. They're just one little part of your body - and if anyone comments when you're breastfeeding shout 'why are you looking at my nipples pervert'. Spend the money on a lovely holiday instead and don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself - especially not some 16 year old idiot.

Absolutely agree with this! I've got them as well and have been self conscious when I was younger. Now I love them - honestly they did the job with my children and my partner absolutely loves them too.

I promise OP no one worth your time is thinking about your boobs.

I was today year's old when I learnt that I have 'burger nips'
😂 Fortunately, I don't give a toss and neither has any partner I have ever been with.

Honestly Op, 16 year old boys can be arseholes. Why let one person shoot down your confidence like that?

It’s factual and not “unfair”. Op is older now, she may even know some teenage boys and may reevaluate the weight shes putting o. This.

Rolling your eyes emoji and sneering at posters trying to help OP is disdainful and unnecessary.

You have nothing else to say except criticise posters for helping.

As for perverts upskirting WTF has that got to do with this thread where a woman has a hang-up over a part of her body?

You appear to be suggesting that we shouldn't discuss this in case some pervs are getting thrills from it? Shut up in other words?

I say again DFOD

Hope you’re feeling better @increasinglyconcerned

Just get them out. My friend has large boobs and her areola are gigantic, she just openly feeds her babies. Totally understand being traumatised by a kid in school being a creep but adults generally won't care and mind their own business. If there were any particularly creepy looking characters around I might be nore circumspect but otherwise crack on!

I would love mine to be bigger, would really love it.

Hey, so this is madness! I say that VERY kindly because you've just had a baby and you're obviously upset!! Listen- my nips are huge. Enormous. I've bf 3 babies and even as toddlers they had not a chance in hell of fitting the entire thing in their mouths. I honestly never even thought about it and I fed each for 18 months - 2 years! Also, I always used a cover (usually a muslin cloth), simply because I prefer to be a bit more covered - please use one if you want to and don't let what other people think stop you! Equally, if you don't want to use one but are just self-conscious - don't be! Breastfeeding is perfectly natural and if someone catches a flash of nipple literally nothing is going to happen (and if they anything they are a dick). There's nothing wrong with your natural body. There's nothing wrong with you. Please try to put this from your mind and enjoy your new baby. Congratulations and good luck with the bf if you decide to continue with it!