To hate my areoles with a passion

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They've always been large. A boy at school kindly told people I had 'burger nips' before I knew what that meant.

I've always been so self conscious of them. When I had DC I couldn't breastfeed in public because unlike other people who could fit an entire areola in baby's mouth, mine spread across what felt like my entire boob and was especially dark due to pregnancy hormones.

I tried to use cover shawls but people kept asking me why I used it. In the end I gave up and just pumped/bottle fed in public.

Now I'm back with a newborn and so upset I can't just enjoy my breastfeeding journey again. I see mum's just causally putting their newborns on their boob without anything on show, and posting breastfeeding pics of literally a boob and a baby.....

I've decided as soon as breastfeeding is done I'm going to treat myself to getting them reduced. My boobs are a good size so no implants but maybe a lift.

Is this wild? I just feel like I want to do it for me. Does anyone else have something they hate and want to change just for themselves?

My areoles are practically skin coloured and small so unless it's cold and I have nip on it doesn't look like I actually have any, especially given I also have big boobs. It used to bother me but now I realise that's just how they're meant to look.

All you ladies, describing your nips to some pervo. 🙄

You think we should stop discussing this sort of thing in case some sad twat is reading?

Seriously?

You want us to shut up as if there is something shameful or embarrassing about our bodies?

Fuck Off.

Do men get this insecure? Bollocks too wrinkled? “Walnut balls” Saggy bollocks? Wide raphe? Deep raphe? Cock lopsided? Hairy shaft? moob areola too small, large,or egg shaped? Tiny nipples on a hairy chest?

Boobs are fabulous, whatever the shape or size. Happiness comes from not giving a fuck what others think. BeYOUtiful.

They are actually a thing? They have a formal descriptor??
Good grief! . It's like the wotld has rediscovered Dymos and is now furiously making strips of sticky labels...

It sounds to me that the problem is not the size of your nipples; the problem is what you think about the size of your nipples.

maybe invest some money in some therapy first? What might happen is that even if you change your nipples, there may be another part of you which you then want to change… and so on

I must admit, I read your title as arseholes (predictive reading!), so was expecting a completely different direction of travel!
But I understand how you can take against a part of one's body based on a couple of throwaway comments.
I once told the joke 'what do you do when your nose goes on strike? Picket', to a boyfriend, who responded with 'christ if you did that your face would collpse', referring to the size of my nose.
I was 16. 50 years later, I still want a nose job, despite having a sucessful career, partners, a husband (or two!), and being able to take the piss out of it myself!
Such things, despite being irrational, run deep
😊

This was me and on my first the midwife helping me begin breastfeeding said..wow you are a fantastic candidate for breastfeeding..l have rarely seen such big nipples!! I was so proud and felt like a great mama. When your baby comes you will be glad..its totally fine.
And Op a 16 year old is likely to have little experience in shapes and sizes so his comment was just total ignorance. If you are ever on holidays in Greece or ltaly you will see all sorts and realise all are beautiful.

Mine are huge too but lots of men have been very appreciative! Please don't mess about surgically with your nipples, there's really no need. Do you have a partner and does he make you feel good about them? I guarantee he's not thinking anything negative about them. This is one of those times you need to focus on what's important and it's not the size of your nipples!

The idea that pervs are spending their time on mumsnet cracking one out to women talking about their nipples is laughable. You know there is actual porn on the internet right? 3 clicks away.

Oh no please don't let this out you off breastfeeding if that's what you want to do! Just think of all the various boob and nipple shapes, sizes and colours the midwifes will have seen, they will have seen them all! As soon as they have finished helping you they will not give your boobs a second thought.

OP please DO NOT opt for surgery to change them. You do not want that unthinking 16 yr old boy's comment etched on your body. Please take heart and encouragement from the many positive comments here and learn to love them instead.

i know it’s not helpful to imply other people have bigger issues but surgery for this feels so unnecessary I’m sure your breasts are lovely. I can’t see how they’d be improved with scarring you’d be reliant on the surgeon doing a fantastic neat very symmetrical job which might not happen. More likely they’d look worse after surgery. You could lose a nipplle completely.

I’d understand it if you wanted a reduction of breast because of back pain but this is just unlikely to look like you hope.

Absolutely the same here and I'm breastfeeding. I don't like people seeing my breasts but I'd feel that way no matter the size of my areola!! But I wear breastfeeding tops /dresses and I doubt anyone can see anything (maybe a small slither of boob?) so I feel very comfortable breastfeeding in public. Maybe invest in some nice nursing clothes to make you feel more comfortable (it'd be cheaper than a boob job and less painful).

Tubular breasts?

If so, I feel your pain. I couldn't get naked in front of anyone until I had them sorted out. Even getting topless in front of the surgeon felt like the most shameful experience of my life.

See if an uplift/ reduction will resolve it as you won't be tied into replacing implants every 10 years. You may even be able to have just an areola reduction.

Avoid implants if possible as they need replacing and if you're unlucky, might even be recalled at a later date due to safety issues (textured implants, PIP).

Cost me around £9k for explant and uplift this year.

I would look for a surgeon that works in private healthcare rather than the big name cosmetic surgery companies.

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After feeding my first, I have one enormous areola and one smaller one 😭 I also have a baby who really enjoys shouting and pulling off the breast while feeding, so I’m sure many people have seen my entire boobs including nipples at this point. Sometimes I feel really confident when feeding in public and sometimes I feel self conscious.

I totally understand having one comment undermine your self esteem, but try to think of it as not giving that dickhead 16 year old any more power over you. And ignore silly people who try to make you feel bad because ‘some people have brain tumours’ you’re allowed to have feelings about your own body.

Boobs and nipples come in all different shapes and sizes. I used to get idiot comments from people about my nose or other things when I was 16 but as a grown up I don't let it bother me.
Honestly I'm sure there's nothing wrong with them. Women have tiny or big nips, various different colours. I've been on the wrong side of twitter and honestly some of the sights I've seen on there and men still say how sexy they are.

I had exactly the same, also had massive boob that were completely out of proportion with the rest of me. I had breast reduction and nipple reduction surgery and it's the best thing I've ever done. Recovery was relatively straightforward and would have been even easier had I just had my nipples done. Nipple reduction is a regular and common procedure, just do it, it will make you so happy.

I have large nipples and had a similar experience of a boy calling them 'burger nips' at school.

Now I'm an adult I quite like them 🤷‍♀️. Don't let a 16 year old boy have this much control over your life and self image... at that age he was probably panicking about getting a boner in assembly but I bet he's not worrying about that now.

He was a 16 year old boy. Would you do something on the advice of a 16 year old now?

Just cover them when breastfeeding, don’t most people anyway?

Things like this do stick in your mind !

What’s a raphe? I daren’t Google 😬

I bought one of those Breast feeding cover ups from
amazon - it goes on like an apron
and you can see baby down the top. Brilliant.

You shouldn't pay any attention to what teenage boys have said about you. One told me I was frigid once because I wouldn't have sex with him...what an insecure prick!

Please don't waste another second feeling insecure about your body and just feed your baby wherever you want.

YABU to think people would notice whilst you were breastfeeding. Most people do their best to look away!

However I have a friend who had this surgery after years of insecurity about it, and she is MUCH happier now. People are rarely supportive of cosmetic surgery, so don’t expect them to be. Do it if it will make you happy.