To hate my areoles with a passion

[increasinglyconcerned]

They've always been large. A boy at school kindly told people I had 'burger nips' before I knew what that meant.

I've always been so self conscious of them. When I had DC I couldn't breastfeed in public because unlike other people who could fit an entire areola in baby's mouth, mine spread across what felt like my entire boob and was especially dark due to pregnancy hormones.

I tried to use cover shawls but people kept asking me why I used it. In the end I gave up and just pumped/bottle fed in public.

Now I'm back with a newborn and so upset I can't just enjoy my breastfeeding journey again. I see mum's just causally putting their newborns on their boob without anything on show, and posting breastfeeding pics of literally a boob and a baby.....

I've decided as soon as breastfeeding is done I'm going to treat myself to getting them reduced. My boobs are a good size so no implants but maybe a lift.

Is this wild? I just feel like I want to do it for me. Does anyone else have something they hate and want to change just for themselves?

What does your partner think ?

My areolas are huge and I don't have the biggest boobs and always hated them but DH thinks there very attractive so that makes me feel better atleast🤣 mine are also very dark now I'm pregnant and in all honesty I don't think I could wack these out infront of another person to help me breastfeed so think I'm formula feeding (I'm just too embarrassed) however, it's not something I worry and care about daily because no one apart from my DH has ever seen my nipples as an adult not even my own mother or sister! They both also moan they've got 'burger nips' so I think we got them from my mother😅

I had tubular breasts
Almost all horrible saggy nipple
Had a lift, nipples drastically reduced and put back on
Absolutely love them now

I thought big areoles were what people wanted tbh

This 10000 per cent.

I don’t know if this will make you feel better @increasinglyconcerned but I am jealous of you - I have tiny nipples and couldn’t breastfeed very well. I never knew I did have small nipples before I needed to breastfeed, but the struggle of it those first few months of my baby bothered me so so much and tbh even though I’m beyond breastfeeding now I still am not really over the fact I couldn’t do it! If you want to have surgery that’s your call and you don’t owe anyone an explanation or justification! But I just thought I’d tell you my thoughts from the other side of the coin!! X

I have giant areolas and I'm around of them. Literally a good quarter of my breast is areola on both sides. One breast is also very noticeably bigger than the other. I struggled as a teen with body confidence. But as an adult idgaf.
I've breastfed ask 3 of my kids on demand whenever and wherever. Even in the queue for the till at M&S once. I've never used a cover.
And as an adult in my sex life apart from my first experiences, I've just thought 'fuck it this is what my breasts look like, enjoy it or get out'
And actually no man has ever commented negatively on them.
I've also discovered its a popular fetish.. up there being as common as foot fetish.. so there's a LOT of men out there who particularly love large areolas.
It's just that it's not what you used to see on page 3 or in films.
But it's not unattractive at all imo.
And I remember seeing Eva Green, who is extraordinarily beautiful, topless in a film once and realising she too is a member of the large areola club!

I wouldn't bother. They're not attractive anyway no matter what size they are, they're just another part of the body.

Read that quickly and thought it said you hate your arsehole 🤣.

I also have awful nipples 😩

I can't believe you are obsessing about something so trivial. Sorry to be blunt, but there are posters on this site who have just been diagnosed with brain tumours. You are being totally self-indulgent.

I can't just enjoy my breastfeeding journey - for heaven's sake - give your head a wobble.

I have the same ‘problem’ I will be breastfeeding when I have my baby and I won’t be trying to cover them either. Who gives a shit?

If it's any consolation I have several friends with large areolas who breastfed multiple babies on demand and never received any negative comments. I certainly never thought anything myself, other than being glad for them that breastfeeding came easily. I really hope you can enjoy your baby. We all have things about ourselves that we like more than others!

People self-obsess about all sorts of trivial shit, regardless of the fact that someone always has it worse. It’s human nature. I do think OP shouldn’t be upset about this though.

Also just had a Google to see what burger nips look like and they look fab. I certainly wouldn’t feel self-conscious about them.

I have the breasts/ nipples you crave. Lucky me. Except they didn't work. I couldn't breast feed either of my children. I felt so much pressure from midwives and other mothers. I felt judged everytime I fed with a bottle. My children are 30 and 32 but I've never forgotten it. Enjoy your breasts. They are doing what they are supposed to do. You are a fabulous mum.

Trust me no midwives or people working in Bf support give a fig what someone’s areolas look like. They’ve seen it all. They’re all different!

Never heard the saying and just googled, I can’t actually see what the issue is, but I do get you op, my nickname going as far back as primary school was juggs. Even my family gave me shit for my big breasts. I struggled to breast feed especially in public because I felt like my boobs were smothering my babies so I only ever briefly breastfed as I had all the names and jokes from my entire life going through my head, even though I knew it shouldn’t effect me.

Go for the surgery if you can. One of my life’s regrets is not having a reduction when I was young. I’m considering treating myself for my 50th. It would be nice to have boobs that don’t hang lower than my belly button!

When something like this affects you and you can do something about it, do it!

I don’t know if this helps you any OP but my (genuinely lovely) DH told me that when he was about that age he commented on how large a girl’s nipples were and he still beats himself up about it some 20 years later. He was just an idiotic teenage boy and I know he’d love to go back in time and just tell her how beautiful she looked instead. She dumped him (rightly so) and he was devastated as he really liked her. We have three daughters now and he’d be crushed if a boy ruined their self esteem like that. Please don’t let an idiotic teenage boy who probably deeply regrets what he said affect your adulthood and motherhood. My boobs are much less pleasing to look at now after breastfeeding three children but I’m so proud of them for the good work they have done!

I wore a feeding shawl all the time. I had twins so felt like my boobs were constantly out and I needed to care for dd1 who was a toddler. No one ever said anything negative. Are the people saying things people whose opinion you value? If not, don’t give them the headspace. Everyone has an opinion on parenting and no one should be looking closely enough to see nipples even if they’re larger than average.

finally, most teenage boys are arseholes. Remove him from your thoughts.

I'm the opposite - large nipples but only a small band of lightest blush around them. Have wished since my boobs made an appearance for darker areolas.

I’m pretty sure she is wearing pasties there

I got them as well. On small saggy breasts. They are what they are, tbh I never give them much thought🤷‍♀️

Giant, perky boobs here, breastfeeding actually improved them!

But... small nips. One a bit inverted. Aereolas so pale as to be hardly discernable.

As I've got older I've become far more confident about them, but when I was younger I really wanted darker, larger nips!

Yours sound fabulous. We all want what we haven't got.

forget what others may think and do whats best for you and your baby @increasinglyconcerned