To have said this…

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Would really appreciate objective views on this to save to save my sanity.

Didn’t notice the time. Suggested to DS that we do something together as I’d been at work and not seen him properly for a couple of days. DH pointed out to me in a different room that it was X time and so nearly bedtime. So I went into DS and said ‘dad let me know that it’s x o’clock so we don’t have much time, we can just do x instead’.

DS got cross with DH for ruining the fun. I explained he’d just pointed out the time and I hadn’t realised. I calmed it all down. It was a flash in the pan.

DH is now very very annoyed at me for ‘throwing him under the bus.’

To be clear I was just stating fact. Not blaming DH in anyway. All said lightly.

Of course this is one small thing in a more complex set of circumstances, but in of itself would you expect an angry response from your DH if you did that? It’s not a pattern of mine.

Thank you

You seem to be someone who is very much in control of what you say and how you say it ( from your postings) and I would expect you to be like that in real life too. You don't come across as a cowering little mouse. You have indicated that there seems to be some issues in your marriage and I'm guessing this is how these play out in everyday life with this kind of bickering?
To answer the original question I don't think I would have phrased it like that - would just have said " oh i didn't realise how late it is". The response you gave seems at odds with the person I mentioned up post so it does leave me wondering if in fact it was deliberate or it has become part of a habit of talking like this in a game of one upmanship or part of a blame game which you maybe don't even realise?

I think you are choosing your words around your DH. You are trying to give him credit for being the one to point out the time; he sees this as making him bad cop. If you didn’t, would he criticise and say ‘no, you only realised because I told you’? Are you walking on eggshells all the time? This can make you hyper vigilant and is not healthy.

OP, stop tolerating being abused by your husband.
Scum like him don't change.
Focus on getting away from him with your child.
Life will be better for it.

You did throw him under the bus a bit. Though unwittingly I'm sure.

it sounds like a mountain out of a molehill, but if you make a habit of giving excuses, or passing the buck, rather than taking responsibility when you make a mistake, then I can see why your DH overreacted.

I'd be thinking that your DH needed to stop being such a wet lettuce, scared of his own child being cross with him. He did a perfectly reasonable act of parenting in reminding you it was too late for the activity and should have no problem with owning that in front of his child.