I feel awkward seeing my friends naked

[Sundaycoffee]

How do you feel about seeing your friends walk around in the nude? Is it assumptious of them to think you would be fine with it? Or am I the prude?
One of my friends is perfectly comfortable whipping everything out when we are away together (e.g when she is changing she will just stand there chatting to me totally naked). It makes me feel awkward and I don't know where to look.
She's a size 22 so everything is very "out there" I don't think her being smaller would make me feel differently but it's definitely a lot harder to try and ignore her gigantic boobs 🤣
Would you be fine with this? AIBU?

I don't think the sizeism in your post is a great look, but to answer your actual question I have never seen any of my friends naked and would never want to. I don't understand people who think it's fine to parade around in the buff, and if that makes me a prude then so be it. If people want to walk around naked they can do it at home or join a naturist group.

Having pubic hair isn't so much of a 'don’t give a fuck' thing, is it? I think it's partly age/generation-related; the lady you're talking about is from a time when women hadn't been collectively shamed out of having pubic hair and taught it was 'gross', so it'll just be normal to her.

Yeah I don't get it either. My cousin once went on a german exchange visit when he was 13, was staying with a family for 2 weeks.. realised the first day that they walked round the house naked. He told a teacher and he had to stay with them in the hotel!
I don't want to see private bits, seeing them sitting on furniture with their leakages and poo crumbs 😆

So you can understand why someone with a perfect body might be proud of it, and want to show it off.....but it is not credible that a heavy woman would be proud of hers??

Some people are uncomfortable with nudity . I get that.
I find it very disappointing that a woman's size/shape is relevant in a discussion about whether it's ok/understandable that she parades around naked.

@Disturbia81

I've heard other similar tales of horrified teenagers on exchange in Germany, I don't blame them, I'd have been mortified myself. My school exchange (mid 80s) was to Brittany, where there were no such issues, at least not with my exchange family. The idea of adults walking around naked in front of an unwilling teenager is something I find disturbing. They should have kept it within the privacy of their own family - if you invite a stranger into your home, then you should expect to adjust your behaviour accordingly to make them comfortable.

Absolutely. They'd gone through the whole exchange planning without mentioning it, I guess they thought it was "normal"
I'd have been so upset, it was worrying enough going away abroad to stay with strangers

ive never seen my parents, sisters, friends or daughter naked since teenage years naked, nor them me.

It's perfectly natural in the showers at the gym, and mixed saunas [over 16s] when skiing in Austria. It's only our uptight Britishness.

From a bloke point of view not unusual if sharing a living space to see a hairy arse or worse. I think it's the communal showers from playing sport which makes us more relaxed about it.

I have even shared a very large bath with a group of young lads (that sounds well dodgy now I type it out!) It was following rugby practice in the 1980s when we were about 12 and the aids fears lead to showers rather than baths

I went with a friend and her partner and kids on holiday. I was with my one year old son who I was breastfeeding, my friends partner said he doesn’t want to see me nursing , but my friend (his partner) was walking round fully nude infront of us all and apparantly this was fine 😂🤣

I used to play rugby 20 odd years ago, (edited to add: women's rugby!) and it was normal for everyone to get in the communal bath or be in the communal showers together after a training session or a game.
I've got less bothered by nudity as I've got older. We're all just ghosts driving skeletons in meat armour, after all.

Here at the House of Commons (well, not me anymore 😪it's quite common (ha ha).
It's not called the Members Bar for no reason!!!!

Do you rember Peter Sissons with his swing-o-meter? You should have seen him after five or six pints of Speckled Hen in there.👀

I think my stance on it has changed as I've got older. In my 20s I'd think nothing of changing or bathing in front of a close female friend and getting up to stuff whilst drunk. I wouldn't do that now in my late 30s but I've still got friends who might ask me to look at their stitches after giving birth, or whose bits I've accidentally seen whilst accompanying them to a medical appointment and it's not a big deal. I think what you're describing is one of those things that some will see as normal and some won't. If you're not then just tell her not to do it.

I’ve seen my two best female friends completely naked and them me. I don’t see an issue with it. I’ve popped an ingrown hair on ones vag and been at the business end of the other giving birth too 😂

I had a gym membership once where the ladies changing area was small and always busy. You'd lift you head from tying your trainers and come face to face with a hairy muff at point blank range. It was all a bit much really. I'm no prude but I'd never seen so much fanny in my life as I did in those months 👀

I guess you could tell them that the reason why anyone has to cover anything is all is cultural and those cultural norms dictate women have to cover their breasts and their vaginas, whereas men only have to cover their penis and their testicles.

This is quite funny and has now made me think! I don’t think it’s weird but do think it depends how well you know each other!

I have various friends I go on spa days together and they all get naked in front of me and would have a conversation whilst getting dressed or undressed. It has always made me feel a bit uncomfortable but as the years have gone on it doesn’t bother me so much now. Usually we would be sharing a room but I have known these friends for 15 plus years and we are now all in our mid 40s.

The one thing I can’t do is peeing in front of someone - I would never ever do this ( I have but when very drunk and a friend helped me in my 20s) I don’t even pee in front of
my partner or any partner I’ve had! I wouldn’t just casually take a wee with my friend in the bathroom.!

However I went on a hen weekend once ( my sisters ) and she would just walk in when you were in the shower and take a pee or at her house if I stayed over. There were loads of us sharing different rooms and all of them would just pee mid conversation with the door open and carry on chatting!!! I was horrified. Not sure if it’s an age thing ( I was about 5-6 years older than them all!)

I’m not someone who stands around having a full on conversation naked and there are definitely situations where I wouldn’t be comfortable naked.

But I am a bit taken aback at how many people are so uncomfortable about nudity around friends.

You have literally never seen any female friends naked?

I’ve had a couple of friends like this, doesn’t bother me at all. One of them had an incredible bum tbf! Oh I did have another friend who I went out with one time and she was wearing a jumpsuit and nothing else. She dot so drunk I had to take her to the loo and undress her and sit her on the loo with her tits in my face. Doesn’t bother me, not sure why. I feel privileged they feel that comfortable with me I guess.

I do think the nudity in gym changing rooms can be a bit performative at times, as in 'Hey everybody, look how relaxed I am about nudity.' Big deal.

I have never seen any of my friends naked, thank goodness. I can't think of anything more cringe.

I’ve had a couple of friends like this. It never bothered me but I wouldn’t do it myself. I can’t understand why, if you were bothered, you would just say nothing. I’m not the most socially adept person by a long way off but even I could manage to let a friend know I was uncomfortable without hurting her feelings.

Yeah it doesn’t bother me.

Some things I prefer to keep private. I don’t do communal showers and certainly not any kind of sauna or spa where you have to be undressed. It’s not the end of the world if someone sees my backside but I don’t want to be nude around even close friends and most of them feel the same too. Swimsuit or undies okay. Less than that, no.

&you are as offensive as usual.