To be annoyed at posters on here

[Differentstarts]

I'm getting really annoyed lately at people on here who post threads and then vanish in to thin air. You asked a question people are taking time out of their day to answer you don't be so bloody rude as to ignore everyone. And if it's just trolls mumsnet should be deleting and blocking

Why are you bothered then... Whether a random from the internet comes back to update or not... That's just double standards.

If a person asks a question and people say something as basic as how old is the child you are talking about and op ignores them you can't really move forward on the thread and offer advice as their is a big difference in answers for a 2 year old compared to a 22 year old

Because their the ones that chose to start the thread

Surely you just move on if you are unable to respond as you feel there is information missing? As clearly you cannot offer any advice or a response...

Hmmm 🤔🫢🤣

Because their the ones that chose to start the thread

In the same way you choose to comment? As a poster on someone's thread you accept that they may or may not reply to you. Just as an OP accepts that they may or may not get replies (or ones they want). Risks taken on both sides, no obligation to respond on either side. It's the internet and that's how it works.

Thems the breaks. No one is owed a response. Yes it can be irritating but it’s not Netflix: you haven’t paid for a drama.

I honestly don’t blame people for sometimes not wanting to respond, given the vitriol which some posters spew.

But that's the point it ruins mumsnet when over half the posts are like this

Usually because they are made up.

But you agree it's irritating

@Differentstarts ah the one posters!! they get on my nerves! never answer a single question and no one knows if they have come back to at least read any advice!

I would never make a post in response to someone's AIBU, and expect the op to respond to it.
Very occasionally I've had one, but what I think is only fair, is if the OP inserts a message among all of the replies just to let people know they're still around, and that they've been interested in reading the posts, which is time consuming as there could be a great many.

Other times I just kind of laugh at everybody jumping on board and posting their thoughts like mad, and no sign of the OP and you do have to wonder if they're real, or rude or just overwhelmed.🤷

When it's to do with a relationship and LTB gets heavily mentioned, and they don't choose to adhere, then I think often they may retreat and not bother updating it.
I always try and thank people and keep involved in the threads I make but I get it that some people do it and then either forget or real life gets too much for them to tell us anymore?

This is a fantastic tip!

If this issue really annoys you I'd suggest you are spending too much time on the internet.

Well 71% of people on here find it annoying to so that would leave 29% of people left to post on mumsnet and never return so it would be bye bye mumsnet if everyone who finds it annoying followed your advice

@Differentstarts if people don't reply to the thread it's really not that deep and you are not that important to demand a reply.

How is this living rent free in your head and making you annoyed?

Do you work, or have hobbies?

Maybe look at finding other ways to fill in your days and relax a little.

Ach, that's just snippy.

I agree with the OP. It's maddening when posters don't return to their threads.

Just makes me think there are bots/trolls/not genuine posters.

Of course they're trolls, and usually pretty obvious ones. Mumsnet is very easy to wind up.

Same

People not agreeing with you is one thing and absolutely to be expected. The main reason i usually post is when I'm trying to decide if I should be annoyed about an issue, or just let it go, and lots of people are very helpful at putting things into perspective
Being sworn and and insulted, I'm not going to stick around for.
And when you have answered a question and then another 30 people ask the same question, it can get a bit tedious

But you've answered it so that's fine I'm not saying people should reply to every single poster. But if you've posted a thread at least 1 or 2 extra posts to answer questions and update is not much to ask

If it's an ordinary request for information ('suggest a recipe'; 'what places should I visit when I go on holiday in X?'; etc.), then I somewhat agree. It's good manners to thank people who have helped one, and rude not to.

On the other hand, if people post because they're desperately worried about a family or health issue, then I'm more annoyed by posters who nag for updates and blame OPs for not doing so, or accuse them of trolling. It would be nice if they did update, but it's not necessarily going to be the first priority for someone in a desperate state, or at the worst, someone who has just received a devastating diagnosis for themselves or a family member,

BTW, I hardly ever post OPs, so am not talking about myself here.

It gives me troll vibes sometimes, and sometimes I wonder if it's a journalist or a school child getting some information for an essay.