To be annoyed at posters on here

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I'm getting really annoyed lately at people on here who post threads and then vanish in to thin air. You asked a question people are taking time out of their day to answer you don't be so bloody rude as to ignore everyone. And if it's just trolls mumsnet should be deleting and blocking

Haha a little bit! It made me chuckle as you mentioned you get troll vibes for the opposite reason. It's an interesting discussion you've started though!

You don't need to scroll down. Most of the time it tells you in the OP if there's any more posts from the poster.

That is really unfair.

Some of the best threads on here have been when someone has reached out during an awful moment (threads that tend to start with needing a hand hold), and MN users have been there to listen, offer advice, reassurance, share their own experiences.
One of the functions of many online forums, especially MN, is to offer support.

Samaritans can only listen. They can't give advice or anything. They are not the catch all solution to anyone going through a shit time.

Because you can still read the answers? You don't have to respond to read them. They may get the answer they need and then move on. Or they might've already resolved the problem before anyone responded so never felt the need to go back to it. They might have crippling social anxiety and just posting was hard enough. Again, who knows? Who cares?

Why do you care so much? Why are you taking it so personally that some people don't come back, regardless of their reason?

I think of posting on MN the same way that people go and see 'psychics' when they're in a quandary, or emotional destabilised. When they're in the moment, they want to put it out to the universe to get an opinion, or an answer or just an echo chamber.

Most of the time and certainly in my experience when I've posted something, I'm over it or have moved on within a couple of hours. That's what this is for isn't it, just an outlet for a moment? If people are living on MN or overly giving a care which way a thread goes, or if their opinion has been read or responded to, then that's not great and they should get out much much more.

I've been on here for at least 20 years I think at this point, one way or another and it's just something to dip into in a spare 5 mins and very much not that deep, as the kids say.

Completely agree with this.

But don't you think it's polite to at least say thankyou I'm sorted now

😲😲😲 we usually agree my little bpd buddy 🤣🤣

I do if it’s a very long opening post

I don't think I'm taking it personal I just think it kind of ruins the thread

Because it's rude. If you ask someone a question in real life do you just walk out the room before the person answers

As if that's remotely the same thing. 😂

For a start, in real life you don't get a large, unknown number of strangers firing responses at you at once, some of which might feel attacking or unpleasant. It's really not hard to understand why some OPs abandon threads after starting them, when you apply some critical thinking.

I genuinely don't think it matters on an anonymous forum whether someone says thank you or not. This isn't life, life is happening outside of the screen and who knows why they've not come back to the thread. Giving advice/input with good grace without the need for validation is what anonymous forums are all about.

Ahhh I hate the term critical thinking it's giving vaccines are poison vibes

Ahhh I hate the term critical thinking

Sure you do. Explains a lot.

Also, I'm fully vaccinated, ta 👍🏻

What a truly bizarre leap 😂

It's not a bizzare leap its all I ever heard when I said online I was getting the covid vaccine

Erm.... ok?

And presumably you're aware that terms can be used in different contexts and conversations to mean different things, or....? So this particular conversation we are having has blot all to do with vaccines. As if I'm needed to point that out 😂

This is a ‘you’ problem and not a poster problem. This isn’t a film and it is people’s real lives and problems being posted here and if you can’t accept a poster may not want or be in a position to reply then this really isn’t the place for you. If you feel like you need gratification by form of response from a poster directly or indirectly then with respect you need to get a hobby and stop posting on Mumsnet. It’s not entertainment or Love Island, it’s a forum that provides support and help to often the most loneliest and vulnerable people who have no one else to turn to. The advice given can be invaluable and literally life saving in the right circumstances. Too many people forget that behind an OP is just one person who has actual feelings and emotions and just because it’s anonymous it doesn’t give people the right to make demands of them and berate them. You may like to get stuck in and be invested then in the next moment move onto the next juicy post to get your dopamine hit but the people behind these posts have to still live out their very real and often horrific circumstances for posting.

Fuck this I'm out, this is far too bizarre for a Tuesday evening 😂

Have fun OP👍🏻

Op by not responding what sort of time frame are you thinking?
I think some folk are slower to digest and respond - to me a day or two seems normal!
When I’ve posted I’ve not kept up with replies in the chit chat style many do - I’ve got to be getting on with dc/work. I’d take a while to digest them and thank people in the meantime.
Do you ever ask for an update? Maybe some posters don’t actually realise people are wanting one if they’re happy to share.

@Hyperbowl
Excellent post!!! Spot on.

I'm fully aware this thread isn't about vaccines as I started it I'm stating I hat that term as the only time iv heard it used is by anti vaxxers online

Ruins the thread? For who? You? It's not a TV show!

Maybe purchase a Netflix subscription if you're after things having a resolution, other people's lives might not be the place to be seeking a neat plotline.

No I never ask as usually by this point 10 other people have asked and if their not replying to them they ain't replying to me

Maybe should get a life outside the internet?

Op you seem like a dog with a bone, it is not healthy

I'm fully aware this thread isn't about vaccines as I started it I'm stating I hat that term as the only time iv heard it used is by anti vaxxers online

Again... irrelevant? You seem unable to step outside of your own frame of reference for 5 minutes and consider other uses for terms in different contexts to that which you've been exposed to previously. Which tbh, explains the inflexibility of thinking that led to this thread in the first place😂