To be annoyed at posters on here

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I'm getting really annoyed lately at people on here who post threads and then vanish in to thin air. You asked a question people are taking time out of their day to answer you don't be so bloody rude as to ignore everyone. And if it's just trolls mumsnet should be deleting and blocking

It’s not real life, it’s the internet. Again, you’re not owed a reply.

Abso fucking lutely
Couldn’t agree more.

See also, people’s individual posts being reported and then deleted simply because they have an opposing view to someone else. People cannot handle being disagreed with and I find it pathetic that they will go to the lengths of reporting a post for this reason. I’ve seen so many vanish that absolutely do not break talk guidelines, presume because MNHQ is too busy to read them properly before deleting, and the conversation is full of holes and you can’t follow the debate properly or hear both sides

btw, someone give me the thread please about the mother whose daughter with epilepsy is pregnant and baby is due in October. How are they both

Maybe if posters calmed down a bit and sure replying is normal but living through the op's drama blindly believing everything they say, wripping apart another person who is being complained about like they are a criminal just because the story is told by the ops viewpoint and being intense is plain weird

I don't feel like I'm emotionally involved more just I expect basic manners from people

That’s the difference though – it’s not a film. It’s a real person.

But surely they would want to speak up and defend themselves

I think you might need to go outside if you're this invested in random threads on the internet. No one owes anyone a response. Maybe, as is often the case, the first response nailed it and they don't feel they need to provide any further information. Maybe they've got a busy life and don't spend a lot of time on Mumsnet. Maybe they died the second they hit "post". Who actually cares?

But I don't think it is a lot of the time

That’s a different charge altogether

There's a particular type of post which, when the OP nevers posts again, makes me think it was a troll post. Usually about an emotive subject or a situation where it's almost unbelievable the OP doesn't realise they're being poorly treated, etc.

I imagine that’s exactly why some don’t bother to respond. It’s about their life, maybe one of their very worst days but then a few days later they realise people want entertainment and not to be genuinely supportive.

But if your busy why post a thread at that time. If they died the second they posted the mumsnet death toll is getting huge as it's getting more and more common

If someone is having their very worst days and needs support an online forum isn't the place to get it and what samaritans is for. I'm talking about people starting threads on pretty basic and random day to day stuff

It's just a chat forum.Why get so invested?

YABU
Sometimes someone has got the advice they wanted, so no need to reply. In groups on FB, the OP often turns off comments when they have feel nothing more can be added... or people are getting shitty. I kind of wish the same function could be added on here.

Also, on AIBU, even the most basic things can end up with OP being ripped to shreds. Some people are not strong enough to deal with some of the replies that get rattled round on here.

No one is owed a reply. And life can get in the way. Some people post then something takes their attention away.

Tbh I get more troll vibes when OP replies loads on a thread 🤣 but I do often want to read an update on the more interesting threads, so I guess that makes me one of those awful people here for entertainment. I don't blame people when they disappear when there's been a lot of nasty comments, which usually on MN there are. I'm convinced more than half the threads on AIBU are trolls though...

I think most of them aren't real questions. Mostly there is something a bit contentious in the OP designed to get people arguing.

Why? If people overinvest in threads that is on them not the op

Maybe some people need a hobby if they are this full on about random people

Because they had a five minute break and decided to post? Because they were bored for a minute in between work tasks? Because they were on the toilet? Who cares?

Are you new to the internet or something? This is just how it works. It's not like sitting and having a conversation face to face, or text conversation with a single person. If someone wants to post and then never come back, for any reason, that's their prerogative and they don't owe anyone any further entertainment.

I bet I look like a troll to you I have this strong need to keep replying to everyone whenever iv started a thread 🙈 but I agree that more then half the threads in aibu are trolls

But why, that's what I'm asking. Why ask a question if you only have a couple of minutes and then disappear never to be heard from again.

Maybe MN is starting those threads hmm

Now that's a good point I never actually thought of that 🤔

Yet it is where many people reach out.

If it’s pretty basic and random stuff, what’s to get so invested about that you compared it with watching a film?